does women have to forget her family after marriage............

India
August 1, 2009 7:31am CST
I am always in a confussion that does men want that after marriage women should only be engaged, and should be with his family i.e. her in-laws and should she forget the family of her own with whom she has spend 22--25--28 years of her life., just to make the marriage work out, or say just because her husband wants it.
2 responses
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
1 Aug 09
hum like no.. why should you forget your family ? that is so stuipd.. as a man point of veiw and once again this is why guys hate me. if your husband wants to you to forget your family he's seem to be a control freak, and he's a jerk. tell him no you will not forget your family. my wife and i both do things with our family. like today we're going to her family house
• India
3 Aug 09
Sometime I feel the same but I think that his metality is in his bringing up. So can't blame him. He is a very sweet person and very socially person and very helpful in nature but as every person has some bad qualities and this can be one of it. Anyway thanks for your suggestion and taking my side. Your wife is really lucky to have you. May you have a best married life.
• United States
3 Aug 09
to it dont matter if my wife was like that or not, i would ask her how would she feel if it was switch. but dont forget your family, you got one family. i would talk with him and let him know you like to spend time with your family as well and if he dont want to go then you go
• India
9 Aug 09
Thanks again for your comment the better way to try to change the mentallity. Any tips hahaha.kEEP IN TOUCH.
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
Of course not. A BIG BIG NO! Being married doesn't mean forgetting your family and all that. What made you conclude in such thing? Well, I really don't think it is a fact but I guess some countries have that tradition. What country do you live in? Is that a part of your tradition? As in the country I'm living in, we don't have a tradition like that. When a woman is married, it doesn't mean she'll forget her family. In our country, most of what I noticed is that, the woman will leave her parents to live with her husband but that doesn't mean that she'll forget her family or connections. She can still do some of the responsibility for her family and things like that. I hope, you'll not be confuse with these anymore. Happy Mylotting!
• India
9 Aug 09
Thanks for your comment and I think that there is nothing to do with the country I live in, because my mother in-law is still living in her parents place. It is the metality of the person I guess. The bringing up of the person has to do with it. Unfortunately my husband mentallity is like that and he made it clear withing the month time of our marriage not directly but indirectly. So now after the ten years of marrige I have to deal with it but feel very bad sometime. Don't know how to change his metallity. Any tips hahaha.