Please Don't Respond,

@ZephyrSun (7387)
United States
August 2, 2009 4:02pm CST
I seen some discussions have that "disclaimer" at the end of a discussion and it's usually followed by if you don't agree with what I'm saying. Have you ever seen someone put that in their discussion? I thought that was really weird to ask people not to respond but, after being here for a year, I feel that many more people should put that in their discussion. Do you ever respond to a discussion and then the person responses with some nasty remark? Do you wish that they would put something about not responding if you don't agree?
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@abenitez (501)
• United States
2 Aug 09
If people are not willing to listen to a different point of view then they should not be posting discussions on this site. The point of a discussion is to listen to different points of views and perspectives. Those people just dont want to have to listen to a disagreement to their views because they believe everything they say is right. It is ridiculous.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Sometimes makes me wonder how someone could be so close minded LOL
@abenitez (501)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Lol that is exactly what it is closed mindedness. It is crazy.
@mysdianait (63977)
• Italy
2 Aug 09
What is the point of a discussion if everyone is in agreement? I state my opinion if I respond on a discussion and if it differs from the original poster then there is nothing wrong with that. We are ALL entitled to our own opinion and that is what should make a good, interesting discussion so I respond wherever and whenever I see something interesing regardless of a so-called 'disclaimer'.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Well I feel the same way although, it does get annoying when people start a discussion just so everyone can say, "yeah that's how I feel too" lol
@mysdianait (63977)
• Italy
2 Aug 09
Doesn't say much about the people who say it or does it say it all?
@uath13 (8227)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Shouldn't they then start their discussion with " I'm looking for YES men. If you won't agree with every fliping thing I say don't respond!"? Not much of a discussion then is it?
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@tdemex (3547)
• United States
2 Aug 09
This is a given in the political area! tdemex
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Oh that's perfect uath, I hadn't thought of the Yes Man thing. And no it isn't a discussion, it's a pep-rally LOL
@uath13 (8227)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Now the politicians flip flop so much the Yes men just nod.
@OceanLady (136)
• Canada
2 Aug 09
People are entitled to their opinions... in fact, if someone tells me not to respond I'm probably more likely to get all worked up over it and write a long response... and if they don't like it, it's their problem. I put in my 2 cents, and that's what I'm here to do.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I use to think when I seen someone state in their discussion don't respond that they were trying to get people to respond, you know what I mean? But, then I responded to one with my opinion, different from theirs, and my star dropped and they never responded LOL
• United States
2 Aug 09
Doesn't that defeat the purpose of a discussion then? I always though a discussion entailed the back and forth exchange of information and thoughts, and differnt people have different information and thoughts. I think it would be silly to ask people not to respond to my discussion if they don't agree with me. That just screams ignorance to me...because then a person is not really inteerested in what other people think, unless you think the same way they do. Yes, it might not be enjoyable if someone comes in and leaves nasty remarks in your discussion thread, but those people can be ignored. It is possible for people to express their difference of opinion with out being nasty about it, and who knows, they might enlighten you to a side of your discussionthat you hadn't thought about!
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
With almost every discussion I start I want people to tell me their opinion. And you're right it would "scream ignorance" if they don't want to learn anything new or see things from someone else's angle.
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
2 Aug 09
Hi ZephyrSun, I agree with Mys that we are all entitled to voice our opinions here but think it might be a good idea to put a disclaimer on with some people who are intolerant of opposing views. The disclaimer I would like to see is 'if you are going to disagree with me then you will be rated negatively'. That way we would know in advance that there is no chance of a discussion but only nasty repurcussions. For this reason I will not allow myself to engage in discussions in religion as it just gets you no where fast if you don't tow the party line.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
LOL I like your idea! But, it's not only religion, it's that politics thing too.
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2 Aug 09
I agree that there isnt really much point to a discussion if it has to be one sided? People dont have to be nast just because they have different opinions on a subject, after all we are grown up people. Personally i like to post a discussion where i will find out other peoples opinions on things, it makes you look at things from other angles. How boring would life be if we all agreed with eachother?
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
So very true! I start discussions because I want to know how other people think maybe they can change my mind or make me see things from another point of view. We would be so boring but, we wouldn't have any war LOL
• Canada
2 Aug 09
I've never had this happen, and if they only want people who agree with them to respond to their discussions, they should start a private forum. If I saw a response like that, or a disclaimer like that, I'd respond anyway, just to show them they don't control me, and that they don't control Mylot. To hell with any nasty responses I might get.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
LOL That's how feel, they might as well send out a mass email to their friends and family about what they want to "discuss" LOL
@anniepa (26621)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Great topic! I've come to realize there are some here who only want responses from those who share their views completely and everyone else they get a kick out of trying to humiliate them. I have no problem with someone "respectfully disagreeing" but I really don't think the "respectfully" part is too much to ask! Annie
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Oh, do you mean by telling you you're lying because you have an opinion? lol I see that comment to me often when I post in politics. I fully agree that respect goes a long way when it comes to other adults but, some people are not mature adults here.
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@anniepa (26621)
• United States
3 Aug 09
You got it! If I say anything against "their" candidate I MUST be lying, right? I also get a kick out of those who will respond to a discussion to tell me how wrong I am to have started it. If it's such a stupid idea for a discussion WHY are THEY wasting their time responding to it? Annie
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
3 Aug 09
That's a very good point. Maybe it's just that the true hurts.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
4 Aug 09
While I don't really like the disclaimer thing, I guess it makes me feel like some ppl are being made to stay out, I do think that if a poster is looking for a specific reaction or response they need to state it. For example, if an 0bama supporter is stating something positive about 0bama and only wants ppl who agree with them to respond, then they need to say something along the lines of "please don't respond if you don't like 0bama". It would probably save a whole lot of arguing and fighting. I've actually had a couple of ppl that have posted discussions where they just wanted ppl to agree with them...nothing more. I think they need to be upfront when that's the goal. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
4 Aug 09
Well that is a very good way to think of it. I think it would really stop a lot of baby games here at mylot for sure. I am not sure if it would actually completely stop them but, it would really be worth a try.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I think it would help a lot too. Even just "agree to disagree" and move on would be a great thing. Sometimes it seems like there are some major "little kids" around here. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@mommaj (22773)
• United States
3 Aug 09
That's funny. I haven't seen that yet, although now I will have to start looking. I thought this was a discussion site. A discussion is going to be talk about all angles of the subject and then some. A discussion doesn't mean you make a statement and everyone says "yep" to it. What are people thinking? As far as people making nasty comments, if they don't agree with someone that's fine they should state that without stupidity. By stupidity, I mean name calling, and childish behavior.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I agree, I really like how the one person called them yes man discussions. It's so odd that some people don't want to expand their horizons.
@mommaj (22773)
• United States
4 Aug 09
When people don't want to expand their horizons, they usually don't have much of a horizon. I guess they feel if people don't agree they might get rude with them. I don't understand the rudeness. None of this should be taken on a personal level. You would have thought some of these people know each other and insulted their mothers, from the way everyone is acting.
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@katsmeow1213 (28820)
• United States
3 Aug 09
This is a public forum, and as such, there are going to be plenty of people who disagree with what you have to say. If you don't want negative comments, don't start the discussion, that's how I feel. I learned very quickly how rude some people can be, so I began to stop and think about what sort of responses I might get before I ever started the discussion. At times when I'm stressed with the kids I am tempted to start a discussion ranting about how I'm feeling at that moment, but I know that some people may jump all over that and tell me all the things I'm doing wrong. So I decide I'd better not start that discussion at all. There've been times I've had it all typed out and ready to hit post, but then I delete it and close the window instead. I've never seen a discussion with that disclaimer, but if I did, and didn't agree with what they said, I'd probably have to speak up anyways, just because I have that right. We're all here for the same reason, and nobody has any right to decide who can and can't respond to their discussions.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I know what you mean about wanting to vent about the kids or even the husband and you have all these people telling you how badly you're doing things. I don't think that they realize when you're venting you really don't want someone else telling you that you're the reason for your problems. I made the mistake once of ranting about my kids once here and I could have kicked myself for it LOL
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
I don't remember exactly when i found that discussion some where, but as I recall, that user got suspended or lost his account.Why respond at all if that user feels that he's in control of that discussion,he's merely discouraging other users to respond to him/her..and that is his/her loss. if i ever see another that kind of agreement, i would just leave it alone. his/her problem.
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I didn't know that people lost their account for those types of discussions. It's very good to see that mylot takes care of some users that try to limit the speech of others.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I don't think I have seen discussions have that "disclaimer" yet... I think it is very mean and impolite. What is discussion? Discussion is a topic that we can talk about our points of view on the topic, what we think about etc, so both positive and negative opinions can be posted, that is discussion. Otherwise, if they only accept positive comments meaning they only want people to obey them, agree with them, that's not considered as discussion. That's what I think. Although I sometimes receive some negative responses, all I do is just skip them if I feel like it is going to be an arguement.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Well you have a blue star so you must not go into religion or politics LOL Those are the two interests where I have seen those disclaimers.
@308369666 (111)
• China
3 Aug 09
Yes, some people not to discuss the discussion, they discussed the sake of money, but they should enjoy the process of discussion. Results is not important, it is important that the course of discussion.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Very true. I feel it allows me to learn from other cultures and other ways of life.
@KrauseHome (33249)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Many times I have seen this, and wondered why someone would put this type of response at the end of their discussion. I would think this could encourage others posting on here, or others probably posting something or thinking this discussion might be against the TOS and report it instead. But I guess it would depend on why they are including that here as well?
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I don't really understand it, some people seem to only want a pep-rally or a cheer squad telling them how right they are for feeling the way they do. I don't know if it is against TOS but, it seems sorta silly to ask people not to respond since of course this is a discussion board! LOL
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
this is a site of discussion, so not all people has the same views on how to look things at or on how to look at situations. if they will put something like DONT RESPONSE IF YOU DONT AGREE i think that is being selfish. they are killing the fun of mylot when they do that. but then again that is only my opinion. some people have a cool view on some situatuons, they may not be the same a s my view but it is fun to read what they can say about a certain situation. all we have to do is respect others opinion.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I didn't think of them as being selfish but, you're probably right. I thought that they were sorta foolish since a lot of members are here just to make money and if people don't respond, well then, they don't make money lol I like reading other people's views and sometimes it really changes my mind about issues.
@dlr297 (5213)
• United States
2 Aug 09
People that do that in my opinion are closed minded, and all they are looking for is people to agree with what they are saying, and they do not want to here about any other points of views. This would be a very sad and boring place if everybody had the same point of view on everything....and what would be the point of any discussion then
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
You're so right. I just really do not understand the point of a discussion when one just wants agreements lol
@olydove (1209)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Hi zeph, Yeap I've seen those types, and I don't like them one bit. The whole point of mylot is for us to be able to discuss which like everyone else has said here that calls for back and forth commenting and responding. So if they don't want a response that differs from their opinion they need to go start their own website or blog based solely on their beliefs. It is not right and in fact it is against mylot guidelines to give someone a negative rating just because they don't agree with you, but alas some closed minded individuals choose to abuse the privilege of the rating system. I would like for the mylot admin to post their thoughts on these types of situations where there are those lovely little "disclaimers." I would almost bet they would tell those people that those disclaimers are not allowed.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I would like to see that as well. That negative button really needs to have a sub part of having to explain the negative rating. These people should check out the mylot blog and start their own blog, you're 100% correct.
• United States
3 Aug 09
I have seen that, those are most after a rant or something they just wanted to get off their shaved chest. I have had other people step in and respond before the originator did and I just simply sent back a reply saying I was waiting for the person who started this discussion to respond.
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
3 Aug 09
LOL "shaved" chest? It always seems so strange that someone just wants a huge agreement party.