Should divorce be banned or should the law be made easier?

Pakistan
August 3, 2009 3:34pm CST
Love between two human beings makes them take an oath of marriage. Later hate brings them to the lawyers and court for divorce and marriage settlements. Countries like the Phillipines have no legalized divorce. Can't two people live happily under the same roof all their lives? View A: People should think before getting married and try to work on their relationship by trying new things of mutual interest. A temporary seperation can be beneficial but divorce should be banned as it results in depression and badly affects children. View B: Divorce is like a freedom from a bitter pained relationship. It's better to spend on lawyers and marriage settlements rather than bearing the sadness of a cramped relationship. Children of divorced parents do not suffer. Divorce law should be made more easy and less time consuming.
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8 responses
@KupoSin (680)
• United States
3 Aug 09
i think it sohuld be the same. everyone makes mistakes once ina while, and marriage is one of them. i dontthink banning or making it easier would benefit anyone. i just think when people get married they should keep in writing who will claim what if they ever did divorce, for the sake of simplifying the divorce process.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I have to agree here somewhat. It costs $50-$100 to be married (assuming its just done at the courthouse). Divorces are triple to several hundred times that amount, depending on the details.
• United States
4 Aug 09
Maybe the answer lies in a middle ground. What if in order to receive a divorce couples must receive counseling to determine if the marriage is savable. If not, then divorce is eminent.
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
4 Aug 09
A bit of both if you ask me... couple counseling and "a break" could help a lot... some guys think it is demeaning or in some way a shame (embaressment) to go try and work things out by speaking to a "stranger". At times being patient and time can sometimes make things work themselves out... but in those rare times... also resentment can be harbored and that isnt much of a marriage. Like a weak foundation in a home.. sooner or later something is going to give in. Divorce isn't to be taken lightly. However, if both sides feel that it is impossible to try and work things out or one or the other becomes abusive then divorce is the only logical answer... Easier? No... the laws shouldn't be easier. Why? It so happens that a lot of people file for divorce only to go back and make amends... there should be exceptions... such as a highly abusive relationship with no doubt... yes then it should be made easier.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I don't think divorce should be banned. While it is sad that it has to happen, sometimes it is for the better for everyone...including the kids. People change and sometimes they grow apart. Sometimes the relationship turns abusive and painful. In the U.S. divorce is pretty easy to obtain. I do feel that too many people rush too quickly to get married when they should take more time to see if it is the right choice for them. Also many rush too quick to get divorced rather than at least try to work things out. Maybe if people would just take a little more time before jumping into these these important decisions.,..maybe the divorce rate would drop.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
in terms of the time consuming part, i guess divorce is much better than annulment... making the marriage null and void in terms of annulment is much crucial than filing a divorce... we can't just conclude also that those people who were into legal separations were that effortless in terms of making their love consistent, it's just that due to so much circumstances, couples ended up as being friends or even strangers again... even few children wants their parents not to be together again... with that we can't conclude that children were suffering so much... there are a lot who are also involved
• Malaysia
4 Aug 09
i think divorce should not be banned. people should have the rights to choose and decide at different point of time. maybe today your in love, but tomorrow you may not. If we forced a marriage, then it may end up both parties also suffering. so the law should allow for divorce, but not necessary to ease the process.
• United States
3 Aug 09
How about C. Divorce should be allowed but their should be sufficient reason for said action to take place. There are reasons to get a divorce and then there are excuses for the behavior of divorce. The laws need to be made stiffer so that people do not take divorce lightly. There also needs to be an out though for people in abusive relationships or in case of adulatory. We had a big fight is not good enough to get a divorce, counseling maybe.
@OceanLady (136)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
I believe people aren't looking at marriage as seriously as they should anymore because it is so easy to get out of these days... getting married doesn't mean much more than dating to most people, it seems. As much as I don't like the views of these people, and I firmly believe that people should take their time in getting married so that they can make the right decisions and not end up getting divorced, I don't think it should be harder to get divorced. People should be free to make their own decisions, and being forced to live together when the relationship is over won't solve any problems. However, I don't think people try hard enough to solve their problems before filing for divorce...