Nobody is perfect but the relationship got to go?

Malaysia
August 16, 2009 2:41am CST
Yes, I have been hearing this kind of words to make me stay in a rotten relationship. I am fed-up, I have life to cherish and need to move on. So why pump these words to my ears? Have you ever thought of breaking off a relationship with someone because you just cannot stand something about this person? Annoyance like smoking, drinking, swearing, poor eating habits, hot temperedness or prejudices really bother you. This person isn't "all bad", and you sometimes wonder if you are making the right decision. Others may comment that you are being too picky or you'll lose a great person. You hear, "No one is perfect" that you should lighten up. And by the way they never forget to remind you that you aren't so easy to live with, either. Do you think you are making the right decision for the right reasons?
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11 responses
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 Aug 09
Its so hard,, first to make a decision to get together,,,,It all appears to be smooooth,, then we find out we are mismatched,,then what,, try your best,,give the spouse time to explain,, the last thing is can't live with misery all ur life, Then Just Move on
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• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
If repetitive call for change falls on deaf ears then the best option is to move on to where the heart brings. Why be imprisoned in a life where misery is a regular companion?
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
Are you sure you want to make that drastic decision? It is not easy to detach with the person you have lived with for most part of your life.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
16 Aug 09
I refuse to stay in a unhappy relationship, if their or no kids involved your not married, why not just move on, this could be best for the both of you, he may find someone better suited for him, and you will as well, I will not stay in a relationship where I am not happy be it a man, or just a friendship, why should we? we all want to be happy why settle for anything less, will things be perfect probably not, but at least I won't be miserable.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
true nobody is perfect but someone out there is perfectly fit for you. so get out of a relationship that you think wont make you happy then give time to heal. after that go on with your life and in the long road you will find someone who is perfectly fot for you. that person of course will still have short comings but i am sure accepting that short commings of that person would be easy for that person is a perfect fit for you, your interlocking piece.
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@suprad1 (251)
• India
16 Aug 09
You are absolutely right. It is even more true when you have a child who is dependent on either of you. One would be setting a wrong example for the child and will lead to negative thoughts in future. The child will be shattered if one of the parent is away. One has to forget all differences and live together atleast for the sake of the child and find happiness thereupon, which is the real sacrifice.
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• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
But when the child has grown up, the option is now open for a free thinking to move on to a greener pasture.
@smart44 (511)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
A relationship is a give and take process, we need to understand be patient, kind, and very flexible in any relations that we have in our life, but if its not working well, its time to give up such relationships since you will not be happy at all,
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
I don't think other people should do the choice for me.I am the one concern in a relationship,yes,people can say " nobody's perfect" but they are not the one having this relationship.So,why should i listen to them. In a relationship,happiness is what matters most to keep it stronger and makes it worth to stay with the person. What's the need of keeping a relationship when i am not happy anymore,if i feel like i am living with the most unwanted person. It's your choice my friend,that's your life.People can make comment and can say whatever they want.But,you should be the one to make the final decission,and not the people around you. Don't waste your time if you feel you are not happy anymore.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
I agree with your views here. You are the only person who knows best and decision should be solely yours.
@sunny68 (1327)
• India
16 Aug 09
relationships are based on mutual understanding and consideration. this holds valid for both and not any one of the individuals. relationships succeed only when the other understands your considerations. otherwise it becomes a burden. i understand that it might be very difficult to quit bad habits, but even trying to quit such bad habits in itself may show a positive attitude. lack of positive attitude and inability to reason on part of your partner might leave you with little choice. society has always been averse to breakups which is no different in your case. ultimately its your live and it is for you to decide. make sure that you do consider all aspects related to it. i hope and wish the decision you take would be a wise one.
• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
You words make me think of it now?
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
17 Aug 09
while it is true that nobody's perfect and you have to try work the differences out it all goes down to you and the other person both my husband and I agree that our relationship lasts because we love each other and we are willing to share responsibilities means we work things out whenever necessary we don't just blame each other and separate as an adult, nobody can force us to stay into a relationship if we don't want to but ask yourself what exactly is happening, is it all the other person's mistakes or do you have part in it somehow? if you can answer these maturely, then you know what you have to do and that you will be doing the right thing, no matter what other people say I never stayed in a relationship before I met my husband I probably didn't give it much thought due to family problems and I thought career is more important at the time, so I just flirted here and there nothing developed into a relationship especially if I knew it would be in the way of my original plan but my life had taken a different turn and when I met my husband I decided that he is the one and he still is my marriage is the right decision, and the best I've ever made love-wise
@Hatley (157426)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Aug 09
hi alegnaluvu I think that each person has to have a common bond, has to think alike, and also one needs to decide if thebad aspects of the other are something you can live with. I know that if it were me, smoking, swearing drinking and hot temper would send me flying the other direction. Poor eating habits can be pointed out and fixed if you really love the other person but someone with those flaws of smoking and swearing and drinking will not change, and if you like I, cannot abide them, kick that person to the curb. you dont need him to messup your life and make you unhappy.
• Lesotho
16 Aug 09
A relationship is about 50/50. One shouldn't expect a perfect partner but there are certain things that one can stand on their partner are there are those you can't stand. If you overlook those things you can't stand that relationship will never work. Compromising in a relationship means overlooking things you can't stand.
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
16 Aug 09
I agreed that nobody is perfect and this is the reason there is a little word that name compromise. In every relationships one should practice this. I live with a man for five years compromising but he wasn't relenting to change and so I move on. He is not accepting this but such is life. He smokes and drink and doesn't see that it is affecting him health wise. Yes I have my faults but if you are not ready to change yours why should I change mines. For one to have a perfect relationship we need to change the things that will hurt our partners.
@dianmelydia (2272)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 09
It's true that nobody is perfect. But i do believe that eventhough there's nobody is perfect but someone become perfect when you are falling in love with him/her. This should be understood by people who are in love. Why do you fallen in love with your beloved one is because he/she is perfect in your eyes. There's no universal description for perfect in human life. Having much money, handsome, beauty, tall, short, etc is just relative things, not an absolute thing. Be wise and learn from your experiences. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.