How do you forgive those who have hurt you?

Hi amar_sandy1987 This is tough, do we really forgive those that hurt us, I don't think so, you know how people say I forgive you but I can't forget, then you are not really forgiving. I think in order to truly forgive someone you must let go and move on,never to be discussed again. this is something that is not easy to do. I guess it all depends on the situation, in order for me to truly forgive I will also have to forget you, so I will forgive/forget you. not sure if this makes sense, this is really hard, how can you forgive someone that hurt you, I mean really hurt you. I look forward to reading the responses to this myself. I know you wanted examples but I had to add my little 2cent .

GOD had forgiven us from all our sins, and why can't i? Of course i will accept his/her deep sincerity for saying sorry for me.. Every people deserves one more chance.. So why don't try it??

In reality i think it depends of the different situations and so what kind of things provoked this...surely i think that for important things it seldom i can forgive such as normally i can also forgive but i really loose trust in that people and so tend to not consider her/him for all the time!!As regards mistakes or other things i forgot somebody but surely i think it is not so complete..because if somebody will do it just 1 time and you always forgive you will risk that this person will do it again and in many cass take this behaviour not as a special thing but because you have a weak character so it is complicated in many cases...

Hi thats really a difficult question to answer. Forgiving someone who has hurt you badly is not an easy thing to do. But you are right, if you dont forgive and keep the grudge in your heart, it can really precipitate inside your heart and cause you more harm. To be frank I am not a person who forgives very easily. I am still not on talking terms with few of my friends who back-stabbed me.

Hey, Well it all depends on what the person has done in order to hurt you. If they have physically hurt me, then it will be much harder to actually forgive them. But if they have only hurt me mentally through words, it is no problem. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

Forgiveness have no replacements in this entire globe none gets more relieved after the other person says 'I have forgiven you for what you have done' this relief would not be gained if the person whom the other person has hurt in any way says I can't forgive you for your deed.This hurts more than anything. If in my case if I had to forgive anyone for his ill treatment to me ,would be after my checking again on the person, how he was ,what he did, why he did, and would mostly forgive him saying 'what you did I didn't expect ,I was not hoping this,something of a statement that should make him/her feel guilty of the way he had behaved or hurt you.

i forget them by dumping them out of my my life and from my mind for ever. forgiveness is a very big word and a very kind deed to do but i am very dipressed when someone does that to me. i can never forget the hurts which i have got from the life and i have become so tough like a stone that i cant forget people who hurt even others.

Forgivness needs courage to hold the hurt that other cause to you and the space for you to leave with each other so you can carefully think the question "does such kind of friend worth my loyal friendship ever again".

Of course, to forgive it to forget. But honestly, it is really difficult to forgive somebody. In my own opinion, it is really a case-to-case basis. It depends on how depth when somebody ask forgiveness. A lot of criteria that you need to consider. Maybe, I could forgive somebody by simply talking with me in personal and discuss things seriously and explain how does he commit that one until I am satisfied then that's the time I will forgive him...

Many people have hurt me emotionally but i have forgiven them and really forget about it because true forgiveness means forgeting the mistakes and hurt they have caused you. Its a very hard feelings to have hatred in your hearts thats why despite how hurtful they cause me, i still try to forgive them even if they dont ask for it, try it, its also good for the heart. be happy always!

For me i will give a chance to proof that person that he had done a mistake. but honestly, it is really difficult to forgive some one. in my own opinion it is really a case to case basic and it will depends on how depth when somebody ask forgiveness there are a lot area to think the best way is to talk with him and resolve the problem....

I don't think when you forgive somebody in your heart that you have forgotten the hurt that you felt. I think forgiveness frees your heart up to feel something else for the person that wronged us. Empathy, understanding, peace are all feelings that come to mind that allow you to move on, learn from your experience and grow as a person. Forgiveness allows you create room in your heart for new relationships, experiences and thoughts. Before long the incident that hurt you becomes a distant memory.

Forgiveness is tough when someone hurts you and breaks a trust. I was only trully able to forgive my ex years after we broke up. However, I am always willing to give a person a second chance. To err is human, to forgive divine. We are all human, but in my case I gave my ex too many chances as many of us in love often do. I am now having trouble finding forgivenss in my heart for him hurting our children after abadoning them and I know this is an important thing so they don't feed off it. I realize they need to make up their own minds about the kind of man that he is. I know that when the time comes I will also instill in them the importance of forgiveness as well because hatred just eats away at your soul, it is not so much for that other person but for yourself, so that you can move past the infraction and the pain. I just hope years from now my kids will realize that mommy loved them enough for both of us.

Yes ,as you said "the more you persuade yourself,the more difficult you find it to forgive",I can't agree more.So i choose to ignore it.I Wii occupy myself into other things.As time goes by,everything would be forgotten.

I just let the time pass. I enjoy every moment I have right now. I do not think often about the past and how I was hurt by that person. I always keep busy with work, online games, shopping and traveling. After all, I still have good and true friends with me that I would just think that what has happened was done and just let go and accept so you can move forward and start enjoying what you have today. :) Always smile, stay happy. Life is too short to think about sad and hurtful thoughts.

Personally, I think that it really depends on what the situation is. There are some situations, when I have a fairly easy time forgive the wrongdoing. However, I don't always have an easy time forgive someone for their wrongdoing. It really just varies from situation to situation.

I don't know if I ever forgave anyone. Maybe my friends, but it was small problem, and it won't worth the mentioning of the small fight. Sometimes, it was my fault, and other times, it was his fault. So, I can easily forgive him or her. I won't take it too seriously. For my father, he is a big forgiver. Even his brother, my uncle done him wrong, he still forgave him, and help him out. Nonetheless, they are brothers.

I don't think i will ever forgive my ex for what he did. I might at times not think about it but i will never forget it and will never forgive him for what he did to me. Cheating on someone is the most hurtful think someone can do after being together for two years and then learning from friends he constantly lied to me and was never truthful to me. It was really the hardest think i have ever dealt with in life so far. It was the worst think to ever go through since i lived with him and i believe i will never forgive him or forget about what he did and he didn't just do this to me but all the girls he was seeing beside me too and lieing to them. Not sure how he did this as we were living together most of the time we were together, but it was very hard to get over it and move on but it will always be in my head.

Forgiving someone can be one of the hardest things to do in life but it's not impossible. I was able to forgive now little by little. Just need time to heal all the wounds. If you really, really love that person you can find in your heart to forgive him/her. If someone ask your forgiveness then at least you should try give him/her the chance to make up with you. Forgive and forget and you will be happy..=)

Forgiveness is one thing. Forgetting is another. Some things are dangerous if forgotten. This all depends on what infraction caused the hurt. I can forgive someone for cheating or violence against me...but you can be sure I won't be around for it to happen twice.