Horrible news

@Trace86 (5033)
United States
August 27, 2009 9:12pm CST
I got a horrendous call at work today from my cousin. She called to tell me that my other cousin, her sister, took her own life this week. She was only 28 and battling depression for several years. She had no job and,consequently, no health insurance. I just don't understand how she could feel her life was so hopeless that she had no choice but to end it. I hadn't seen her in a few years, but remember her as a happy-go-lucky girl. I feel badly that she only lived an hour away and I hadn't seen her in about 2 years. I don't know how to make this a discussion. I just need someone to say something that makes sense. Does anyone else have experience with either depression or suicide? I am at a loss as to what to say to my aunt and uncle at the funeral on Saturday.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I have suffered from depression for years. I have good days and bad days. I have wanted to end my life at times also but I have never actually tried to make sure it would happen. I try to stay positive and have hope that things will eventually get better. They do at times and sometimes not. I have not seen alot of my family in years either. They have their busy lives and I have mine also. I know they care about me and I for them also though. I am sorry to hear about your cousin. I understand that she felt no hope in her life. It is too bad someone else could not see it also and try to be there for her or get her some help. Alot of times, people feel like they just want to be left alone though and noone actually knows they are really suffering. I cannot say it is anyone's fault because we do not know what was truly bothering your cousin in her mind. I would just tell your aunt and uncle how sorry you are, for the family's loss. That should be enough said and show you truly did care.
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@jellymonty (2358)
28 Aug 09
wow that sucks totally and I am sorry for your loss. I will never understand why somebody would take their own life. There are no words to say really when this sort of thing happens. I guess all I can say is remember the good times you had with her, grieve for her and well move on but its not easy to do so. Again my condolences to you and her family.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I'm so sorry about the loss of your cousin. Depression is a very real illness, and it's sad that so many people can not get the help they need. For those who are out of work and without insurance it's almost impossible unless you happen to live in a state that has excellent social services. There are many states with programs for people with children or the elderly that, for financial reasons, ignore everyone who falls in between. It's sad when our modern and priviledged society cannot help the weakest and neediest amoung us. Depression is difficult to treat, and it's important to realize that there can be no blame placed. Not with family, friends or even herself. It's terrible not to see oneself as an important part of the people around us, or to see a light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. It's saddest that people feeling like this frequently give no indication, people nearest to them just don't know. I wish peace for your cousin, and salvation that she might find the happiness that eluded her in life. For you and your family, I wish strength and healing during these difficult days. There's not much you can do for your aunt and uncle other than to be there and offer your love and support. Listen to them and hold them in kindness. I will pray for your cousin, you and the rest of the family for strength and unity in the coming days.
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
28 Aug 09
I am really very sorry to hear how a young life is gone forever. Its true, what depression can do. In this case its just the ultimatum. I think prior to this extreme happening, some family members should have taken certain counselling for her, if it was not taken.
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