Does the celibatarian that it's better to have nothing than excess being existed

@lcainiao (201)
China
August 30, 2009 9:00pm CST
I once have a faith'I would rather be single if I can't find the perfect partner' At the same time I also admire a few of celibatarians around me, appreciate their magical perseverance. However, after the Olympics, many athletes are busy marrying, and lots of celebrities and stars are saying goodbye to bachelordom. (Is there single in celebrity?) Is there anyone who choose to be single, it needs remarkable mental capacity and resilience, I think it's impossible from people's essentiality, doesn't it? Welcome to share your view of 'be proactive to be single'.
2 responses
@echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
31 Aug 09
I don't think it's necessarily hard to be single...it depends on what you want out of life. If your fondest desire is to experience a true love or to take on the sometimes joyful, sometimes painful challenge of raising a family, surely you will be happier being married than to remain single. To wait until you find a right partner is appropriate, but maybe you can be too picky and so miss out on your dreams. Personally, I'm single because I have so many other plans and dreams for my life. I couldn't give my heart and soul to a wife when my mind is moving in so many other directions and so it wouldn't be fair to her. I think after you get married you owe it to your spouse and your children to put them first, ahead of work and all your other interests. I also would find it hard to relinquish the freedom of my bachelor life as well. So, I have a reason to be single: I'm happier this way! You, though, might be happier to be married -- could it be that the perfect person for you in fact might not match your vision of perfection that you envision in your mind?
@jemifer (124)
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
I'm still single but I'm planning to get married soon. In my own perception, there are so many things that we can learn if we are married than by just being single. Having our lives here on earth must be for a wise reason. Woman and man are distinctively different in many ways. Neither is the man without the woman, and neither is the woman without a man. If they will join together, they can have those qualities to share that can make these individuals even better than before. Progression will come if both will work out their relationship. But if you are single because you cannot find that "love" you are looking for, then I don't think you should be blamed. But sometimes we have to do a reality check. If we are searching for a "perfect one", then we can't find it. We should learn how to open our hearts and learn to love that "imperfect person" ..perfectly.