Do you gain fulfillment from giving/receiving BR's on one response discussions?

Best Response - Just for the hell of it I have added a little thing of the BR err stuff. (Man my mind goes to heck when I am hungry as well as tired!) I didn't take this from the one that I mention in the post (which I should have done perhaps) but it was from BR at the top of the list in my profile as it was the first lol!

It seemed like an appropriate picture to add overall which is why it is here :)

Dranz
September 2, 2009 6:45am CST
Hi mylotters, I was going through my unresolved discussions earlier today since there are many from when I first joined that I just haven't done anything with yet, and I found that the last page is all one response topics. Now while that should make giving the BR itself a no brainer, there is something profoundly odd about doing it. I feel that maybe the people I were to give the BR to would feel that perhaps they only got it because they are the only response there (which would on a level be true!) Now I recently got one of these, but the person told me that it wasn't just because I was the only one to reply and that it was instead because of what I said, and so I was glad of it. But I don't know, in general it does feel nicer to get BR's from within an active discussion since I know that it was because something about my response that really stood out, rather than receiving it because my response was the only one there. But this then leads to the other problem, an unresolved folder full of old discussions with only one response (which I could easily get). So in order to decide what to do about this here are my questions: 1) Do you feel odd giving BR's when you only have one response to choose from? 2) So you give BR's in those circumstances? 3) And if you receive BR's under those circumstances how do you feel about it? Many thanks for your help, guidance, and responses:) Dranz PS: Vandana if you read this you are the one mentioned and I really did appreciate the comment you added after the BR, so don't worry on this at all:)
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@tdemex (3547)
• United States
2 Sep 09
I give out the BRs just to close out discussions as do a lot of Mylotters! If it's only one response it's ok! The person that responded deserves it, they took the time to respond no one else did! People that have been here a while know the score, after a while and many BRs they seem to become less important, to me anyway, it's still a small ego booster, but as you grow here you'll find the experience you gain puts you a little above most of the rest of the people. It's better to me to go against your peers here then it puts a bigger smile on my face! If a bunch of newbies responded and I got the BR it's less important, I should get it because of my experience here, if a bunch of people with 4000 posts respond and I get the BR, it's a vote of confidence for me! tdemex
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Hello my friend Great answer my friend,you always know the right thing to say
3 Sep 09
Hi tdemex, Wow fantastic answer. I feel I have learnt so much from being here already, though I don't tend to feel it puts me above the other members here. I only get that when someone tells me I am awesome . (I have a healthy dose of British modesty within me...most of the time lol) I am glad to know that mylotters understand how the BR's work and don't hold it against you when they get it because they are the only person there. After you mentioned they deserved it anyway for being the only person to respond I wondered why I hadn't thought of that yesterday, it seems so obvious now lol. Many thanks for the amazingly enlightening response Dranz
@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
2 Sep 09
I definitely like it when I get BR's, even though I don't say thank you. I am actually very thankful for it. Mylot rules says that you just can't say thank you and call that a discussion - so I try to avoid that. I don't start a lot of discussions. So I don't have a lot to "close out." I like leaving my two cents more than starting discussions.
3 Sep 09
Hi khayshenz, I tend to not say thank you for a BR either, though I seem to get them from people who haven't commented on my response even after the give it the BR, and so I feel odd just commenting on my of response. I tend feel that the won't notice anyway if I did thank them so what is the point. It is still a buzz to receive them though. Many thanks for the response Dranz
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Hello my wonderful friend I don't think I have ever received best response being the only poster but if I did that will be fine with me, just like our friend said it should go to me since I took the time to respond, I would think my response made sense so yes bring it on I will take it lol I truly love getting this honestly it makes you feel good, well it makes me feel good lol I think that is just another thing that makes mylot such a wonderful place to come and exchange thoughts with so many different people I love it here thanks my friend for posting this discussion.
3 Sep 09
Hi Kitty, Ha ha should you ever receive a BR for being the only poster you shall have to tell me how you felt lol. It is a strange feeling, though much nicer now that I understand it all more, that's for sure lol. I like how getting a BR makes you feel as well. I tend to get a buzz from them like 'yes someone liked what I said' it is similar to the buzz I get from making you laugh actually lol. Maybe the BR is a similar thing, to getting someone into hysterics in reality lol. Interesting thoughts Many thanks for the response Dranz
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Hello my friend What is this I see smileys lol Best response feels good no matter what shape or form they come in lol so you like how you make me laugh thats good keep it up my friend you make my day any day I share thoughts with you, I am almost caught up but my connection is fighting against me so I will do my best to answer everyone then move on.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Hello my friend Right now everything is o.k so hopefully we will not need to do and drive by computer smack lol I love your humor so don't stop making me laugh my friend, you make things easier to deal with it, so the next time my computer gets slow I will picture us warming up the car lmaooo you give me bad thoughts two days now this had been a issue for me which is another reason I find it hard to clear my emails
@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Hi DCLehnsherr, I give the best response to those I think qualify to get it. It does not matter if I receive hundreds responses or only one response. If there is a good response that qualify for the best response then I just give it (after sometime). If I only receive one response and it is not giving a satisfying response, I will try not to give the best response. I done it before where I give a best response to the only responder that respond to my discussion and I regret it.
4 Sep 09
Hi Akuler, Wow I am definitely going to keep in mind what you said about regretting giving a BR to someone who you didn't think deserved it just because theirs was the only response. I was probably about to do that before reading this! I am curious too: Was it their reaction that caused you the regret, or did someone better reply after a longer period of time? Many thanks for sharing your experience Dranz
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
4 Sep 09
Hi DCLehnsherr, I really hate to see unresolved discussions sitting in my list, with just one response, as it means they bombed somewhere along the line. I can give a best response on those which have a good response, but I do add a comment saying there was so much to choose from it made it very hard, or some such. But I did have one which sat there and annoyed me terribly as in fact the only response was terrible and I refused to issue a BR to the terrible response which I also thought lacked general manners. So I pulled in my influence and mailed a friend to put a response on it, not with the bribe of getting best response themselves, but in the hope a new response would revive what I thought was a wower of a discussion and then I'd have more responses to choose from. I always hope as well that I will receive thank you for awarding one as then it revives the whole thing, unless I don't want it reviving. Do I appreciate getting one when I'm the only one, usually one of my stalkers will be on there too so it's not very likey to happen these days but a BR is BR and I love them.
4 Sep 09
HI thea, Wow you have stalkers on here, I shall have to watch out for that (or get you to come to all my discussions maha lol) I am glad to know that I am not the only one that doesn't like to see one response unresolved discussions resting in the folder . I a not sure that I would have ever thought of contacting someone and asking them to go there for me, I would probably feel bad like I was forcing them to reply to something they didn't want to reply to (even if they could get a BR out of it lol!) I hope it worked you for you though and got the discussions going again. Many thanks for the response and all best , Dranz
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
3 Sep 09
Hello, Dranz. I have a couple of discussions with only 1 response, and I'm not in any hurry to award a BR. Two days ago, I had a response to a 4 month old discussion, and if I'd awarded a BR, it probably wouldn't have got any more. It's not as if the unresolved discussions are cluttering up your home page, is it? And it may be just my funny way of looking at it, but I'd think someone had given up on their discussion if they awarded a BR to the only response. I certainly wouldn't get the warm fuzzy feeling I experience when I get a BR if I was the only responder. That said, it's up to you how you play it.
4 Sep 09
Hi Sandra, Wow, one of the reasons I wondered about whether to close the one response discussions was because I didn't imagine people would go to them more than a few weeks after they had been started. Today though by reading discussions elsewhere, and now your response here, I am starting to think that I was completely wrong in that idea and should keep them open unless they are truly resolved. This is a great example of why I do discussions like this, and many thanks for helping me gain this new level of understanding Dranz
• United States
3 Sep 09
Thats an interesting question because I have a coupleof discussions I startted with only one responder, and Ihad been thinking about whether I would BR them. I suppose I would wait a bit to see if anyone else responded, and then if they didn't, and I really liked the response given I would go ahead and do it. Hmm, good question, I'll be interested to see what others think!
4 Sep 09
Hi EnglishTeaDuck (love the name ), It is good to know that I am not the only one that has come across this, and I hope that reading the responses other members have added has helped you to decide what to do with your one response discussions as well. They have definitely helped me to make up my mind with regards to mine All the best and many thanks for the reply Dranz
@rosekiss (30151)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Sep 09
Yes, I am fulfilled with I give or get the BR. When I get the BR response, it makes me feel good to know that the user thought enough of me to pick my response as the best one. On the other hand, when I give one, it is letting the user know that I went over all the resaponses and chse theirs from all the rest. I don't go intot this though, with the idea of getting BR, but when I do, it makes me happy and I feel good about getting them. When I have discussions with only one response, then that is okay, as I am happy that at least one user has thought enough o my discussion to respond in the first place. All in all, I feel good when I give them or get them. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.
3 Sep 09
Hi rosekiss, Wow you have a lovely way of describing this. I am the same when it comes to responding too, I like to share my thoughts and if someone liked them enough to give them a BR then I am proud, but I don't mind overall as long as I know they read it lol! Many thanks for sharing your opinions on the one response one's too. I feel better about resolving those discussions now All the best, Dranz