Have I lost this friend forever?

Lithuania
September 7, 2009 10:19am CST
He's a foreigner.We met in my country.We weren't lovers or something, but we had a few international projects together.He promised me to develop another project together and send me some stuff related with it after he returns home.He returned home,everything seemed fine.And then he wrote his sister in New York was ill and needed his help.He flies to NY.He writes me an e-mail from NY(or maybe not?)that he's going to stay with his sister for two weeks.Two weeks passed from his last e-mail.What does this mean?I think this is the end of our partnership and friendship too.Why didn't he tell me directly he doesn't want to work with me?
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12 responses
@abanerji (1026)
• India
7 Sep 09
its just two weeks.... it is not the end of your friendship. may be the person is in some troubleor he is too buzy to catch up with you. i coould not interact with a very close friend of mine for about 5 months. i thought it's all over but we came back to terms things are normal now. keep up your hope and have faith in the relationship... your friend would get in touch with you...why don't you mail him and see if he responds.
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• Lithuania
7 Sep 09
I did.No response still.
@dozhou (326)
• United States
7 Sep 09
I guess you have something with him. You are part of his traveling. Forget him. He will never response to you anymore.
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• Lithuania
7 Sep 09
Being male you know male psychology better than me and your guess might be 100% right.
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
8 Sep 09
ok like for real, his sister most be really ill, and he might be wanting to give her all his free time to care for her. so i wouldnt get all upset that he haven't email you. to me you sound like he's suppose to not to worry about his sister. yeah if someone did that with me and my sister was like sick, i would tell them real fast hey my sister needs me i dont have lot of free time, and if they cant understand that i wouldnt have time or wouldnt want to be their friend. how about sending him a email asking how his sister is and be a real friend. that is what a real friend would do, not worry about him talking to you or not. but worry for his sister, seem selfness to me
@Care4Pets (176)
• United States
7 Sep 09
Silver, don't dismay yet, as this may simply be a case of life getting in the way. If his sister is indeed ill, then he could be busy caring for her still and unable to touch base with you. Especially depend on how sick she is and the particular illness, it can be trying, tiresome, and time-consuming to care for an ailing relative. However, it is also possible that he lied and is avoiding you. For this, I have no reason and agree that he should have been honest and told you he didn't want to work together anymore. I attempt to keep faith in people though and give them the benefit of the doubt, so don't fret at this point. It's only just now been two weeks...give him a little more time. Best of luck! :)
• Lithuania
7 Sep 09
I'd like to keep faith too, but this becomes suspicious...Thanks for your support.
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
You said you were not lovers? Then your post is simply for professional reasons? You shouldn't worry about it. Maybe his sister is really ill, as he said. If you have a written contract regarding your project together, then there is no worry is there? He is bound to honor that contract. If you do not have a written contract, then he has the right to choose another partner for the project and you have no choice but to honor that.
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• Lithuania
7 Sep 09
It would be polite from his part to inform me about his decision.Next time I won't trust people that easy.
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@ashbelx (92)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
Hi! Don't worry too much about this. he could be having some problems himself and has to deal with them. Also,people come and go. If it happens that somebody came to your life and you're having so much fun together at that time, then make it worthwhile. Afterwards, when he's gone, then you will have some good memories to live with. Give him space. I think you had no serious commitments whatsoever, so practically you have nothing to hold against him. if he writes to you later then great! If not, then accept it. Anyway, I think you value the friendship and that's really good. Don't lose hope. You'll be surprise one day. Good luck and happy mylotting!
• Lithuania
7 Sep 09
I don't like mysteries.But there's nothing I can do about it.I'm trying not to lose hope,really.Thanks.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
8 Sep 09
If there is no love, then it would not ponder much. But what I think you have developed some feelings for which you are thinking so much. Just wait and see whether he replies.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Two weeks and then you're already worried-sick about this person not contacting you? And here you are saying you're not lovers at all. Hmm.. perhaps there's something emotional happening to you. Anyhow, he says his sister is sick, perhaps he is attending her needs and she's not getting any better that's why no contact has been established yet. I do hope the sister would be okay though. As for business. Business relationships won't end with 2 weeks of no communication, unless you have invested something with him like finances of some sort to start the business or a contract of some sort. Otherwise, it's just words.
• United States
7 Sep 09
Friendships come and go...while it is hard to understand how one is thinking, I wouldn't loose heart over someone who doesn't respect you enough to state the truth in why he is still there, or why he hasn't responded. However, it is also possible that he doesn't want to hurt you by being honest and upfront with you. If he told you that he didn't want to be friends with you again, how would you take it? Let it go...friends come into our lives for a reason at that time, they leave when there is no longer a reason for them to be there.
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 09
Hi there, May be there are something happen in NY with his sister. And have not had time to send an email to you. Do not lose heart. He need to takes the time with his sister more longer. You must be patient and wait him if both of you have the same projects. Good Luck!
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
I believe there's a saying that Family or "blood" is thicker than water. so, if her sister is still Ill, i think you should assume that he didn't or not interested in continuing what you two started. My advice is that don't expect too much because friendship now a days doesn't really last that long, they can always change.
• China
8 Sep 09
Well,personally,I feel this kind of friendship is hard to say.Yes,I can see that you are at least serious on the friendship with him,and you do care about him,but just look at him,I don't think he cares about you.If he cares about you,then How come he just being acting like this,in my eyes,to be good friends of parners,at least we should keep in contact with each other from time to time,but unluckilly,it seemed he did not.