Will you EAT UP all of your dish when invited as a guest?

@leo1985 (164)
China
September 9, 2009 6:59am CST
If someone invited you to have a meal in his home or in canteen/restaurant,it's on him/her. Will you eat up all of your dish? In china, if you met SOMEONE just several times and not familiar with each other already, it's better to leave a little amount of the dish even if you are hungry,especially in business dinner! Since if you eat up all the dish, that make the host think he/she didn't offer you enough food yet. That's embarrass... But if you are close friends or relatives,everything is OK. I notice japanese people is different from chinese, they will eat all of the dish,leave so clean a bowl! That's various culture. So, what will you do in that case? expecting your opinion.......Thanks!
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17 responses
• India
10 Sep 09
Don't know about cultures man, but I really am a true foodie and I respect what people cook and eat. I love to eat. So if any one invites me to there place or somewhere else, for a lunch or dinner, I always finish the whole meal and just be myself, after all, according to me wasting food is an insult to the food, the cook and the people who served. Really, so when are you inviting me on!!?
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
You are a food lover? Your comment is so excellent, since you know the spirit of the food,it's not just food, its the host's kindness,right? By the way, I like curry so much in your country! Thank you for your posting!
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• India
10 Sep 09
Well you're welcome anytime. Tell me what curry you like cause I do a lil cooking myself! :0
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
Beef curry and chicken curry is my favorite. so delicious!
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
im from Philippines, and i eat all the food that is on my plate. i hate to see food wasted. same thing if i am at a restaurant, or even business gatherings, or parties. i eat all. here we dont see nothing wrong with eating everything that is on your plate its just normal.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
I think I should give up this bad habit and don't waste the food. In the past, we often leave some food if I DON'T like it,that is sin.Because there is still some person is starving in some country.Thank you for your posting~
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
yes that is true, and that is what i am always thinking too when i see food that is being left on the plate.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
Thank for teaching me this lesson. keep in touch! Thank you again!
@54susan (282)
• China
9 Sep 09
yeah?i'm chinese too.but how come i dont know that habit?or should i call it culture? u must be an old man,and always think in the old way eat up everything is a good habit when invited to a dinner.it also shows that u like what the host offers u
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
really? May be its the habit of our region(northeast of china) since you know that china is such a huge country and it's not surprising that different region have different habit,right? Maybe I am old... Thanks for your reply!
@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
When I'm invited in a birthday party I eat all the food on my plate because it is very disappointing if I don't finish it up and I'm going to disappoint the host because they going to think that you don't like there food. Now that many experienced hunger I think it is not appropriate to throw away the food.
@54susan (282)
• China
10 Sep 09
aha,yeah,maybe,ppl from northen china are more traditional than us:P 24's not old.i guess u're still at college right?if u think u're old,then u shouldnt still live on your parents:P
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
hi there leo..im a filipino..and when it comes to food..we love eating!lol...if i wear invited to a birthday party i will not be ashame of eating all my food in my plate.. never tried business meetings...just birthday parties!lol!.. and wedding invitations!...... theres no need to be ashamed of... as long as they invited you..meaning your free to eat.. but if your not invited and you went there..that is much shameful.. take care!
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
sorry thats were...not wear..lol!
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
Yes, I think so. We should not waste food. EN, so maybe next time I should eat up all the food and tell the host that I am really too full...lol~
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
yes...thats bad..if you wont eat it all up..if you cant eat much just put little on your plate and add a little if your hungry again..
@deebomb (15347)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Here in the United States I don't believe there is a special portacall about leaving food on the plate when eating out. All the restaurants serve such big servings that unless one is a big eater it is hard to eat it all. They serve enough for two people. Regardless whether it is a business or just friends. I always get a togo box to take the extra food home. It was paid for and I hate to see good food go to waste.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
OH,THAT'S wonderful in USA. You know that I am young and tall man. So the amount of food is always considered first in most cases, because I DON'T want to be hungry sooner. So I think I will like American restaurant. By the way, when I have meal with my relatives or my friends in restaurants, if leave some extra food, we also choose to ask a free meal box to take home. That's a good habit not to waste food. Thank you for your reply!
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I am 65 and 5foot 2 these days. So I really don't need as much fuel food as you probaby do. do.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
10 Sep 09
It depends on how hungry i am..I have eaten everything on my plate & then their or other times i leave some..I eat what i want or until i am full....There is no such laws here in the states as to how much you eat or don't eat..We tend to think if you leave food on your plate you did not like it that much..
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
Amercian is really a freedom country and you can do what you want and no such constrains. But now I think eat up all food is not shame but a good thing. But if you really can't endure the taste of the food,why not give up? Thank you for your posting!
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
Thanks for sharing interesting information. I have seen that also in movies, chinese people leave some food on the plate , now I know the reason. Me when i am the visitor, I always do that, leaving some food on the plate, but I am sure that the house owner will not think that they have given not enough food, but just that I am shy to finish it all lol.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
You shy to finish it all.LOL~ Maybe you are a girl and have to stay in shape. I think you are beautiful already. You can enjoy the food one or two times a week,physical exercise will help you have a good shape~ enjoy everyday my friends. Thank you for your reply!
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
personally, i would appreciate a guest in my house to consume everything he puts into his plate. that would be very flattering for the owners as it would be telling them that u like what they serve u. additionally, i would like to consume everything i take because it would be very embarrassing stuffing ur plate with food which u cannot consume. isn't that just a waste of food? if u hadn't taken that in the first place, other people could have eaten the same. we were trained by our older folks to consume food on our plate and to bear in mind that some people don't have as much food as we are and telling us how fortunate we are instead.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
Oh,my friends.You really teach me a lesson. I have to admit that I SOMETIMES WASTE SOME food when I dislike the taste of it,I am so sorry to do that before and I realized that it's a sin since so many person are in starvation in some developing country.Thank you for your posting and keep in touch!
• Brazil
10 Sep 09
In my country (Brazil) we are not very formal people. I like to eat everything cause i was taught to do that. My mother when was a child passed for starvation so she taught me to give value to food. So I feel bad when I leave food on the plate.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
I now realize that the food need to be cherished. My grandfother/grandmother is also in starvation in their era. So I am scolded by my grandfother when I leave some food when I was a kid in my home. Thank you for your posting!
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
9 Sep 09
This is an interesting discussion, and I like to read about the traditions in different countries. I have heard about the thing you mention (that it is best to leave a bit of food on the plate) but in my country it is the other way around, and it is considered polite to eat all of your food. If you leave food on your plate the host might think that you didn't like the food. My parents always told me to eat all of the food when I visit someone and get invited to dinner, but I was very fussy when I was a child, and I always tried to avoid food that I didn't know
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
Thats really the different habit I think and intertesting to discuss. When I was in my childhood, I was asked do eat too much the food I like very much...~ Thank you for your posting~
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
9 Sep 09
Hi leo, Greek style we are expected to eat everything the host puts on our plate which can be a bit embarrassing sometimes as I find it impossible to eat as much as them as they are always way bigger than me. People who know me are used to the fact that I don't actually need a huge pile of food falling off my plate but am content with a lesser amount and may accept the fact that 3 lamb chops is enough for me and really really I don't need 10 of them. For persistent offenders of popping food onto ones plate without being able to stop them I usually have a large bag with me with some kind of container inside so I can sneak the food into it whilst no one is looking and thus not insult anyone.And I've never been caught doing it either.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
So funny~ Thanks my dear friends sharing this interesting experience.How did you do that? Nobody discover you "sneak the food into you bag"? I do like your way to deal with the redundant food. Thanks for your posting!
• France
9 Sep 09
I try to, whever I can! But sometimes, if I really can't I say that I'm really full and just can't do it, but always feel awkward to do so. I understand this view anyway: if you eat up your dish, it means that you liked having it, thus it's a compliment. But sometimes the problem is in the quantity, not in the quality.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
I have a english teacher,every summer vacation she will take her son to the USA to have fun.When they were invited by the Amercian professor in cateen. The professor will ask the boy,"Do you choose quantity or quality." The boy is really a big men so everytime he prefer the quantity to make him be full. The same as I,for a students and also a tall men, quantity is really improtant I THINK...
@cherrc (666)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
i guess i would. it's like being offered a cup of coffee. though i've already drink one, out of politeness i will. :)
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
LOL... Bye the way, I have to say I was a little scared of the coffee,because IT MAKE ME HAVE energy just a moment and then really tired... influence my sleeping. I like ORANGE JUICE~ Thank you for your reply. KEEP in sharing our feeling~
@KaraKATAD (246)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Well in our culture it doesn't really matter to us. I don't really know why. But for me, I always try to finish up my bowl or plate because I think that the food is wasted if I don't eat it all up! And I am very frugal so I think that wasting food is a very bad action. And if there is left-over food, I usually try to pack it up and give it to poor people.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
Hi,my friends.From your words, I can see a boy/girl with a kind heart. You like to help the poor person?Thats a good morality, I DO ALSO. Everyone is equal to be born in this world! We should cherish our happy life and do a favor to that disadvantaged groups, RIGHT? Thank you for your posting!
@coolcat123 (4392)
• India
9 Sep 09
my parents have taught me that never eat much at other persons house being a guest since its a bad habit. they said that we have all that in our home why to eat all in other's house. Even if u like the dish and love being eating more then also u have to leave some as the habits comes in the way.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
Yes,my parents also teach me like that way,maybe they think eating up is not respectful to the host. So as you said, even if I was so like the food, I was asked not to eat too much. BUT I WAS really not full,BECAUSE i was kid,I need food to grow...lol.Thank you for your posting.
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
9 Sep 09
Well i'm a Chinese too . If somebody invited me to have a meal outside and i ordered my dish i would eat it up surely. I don't think it's kind of Chinese culture , at least i don't have in my own heart. But i've found that in my family now people don't eat up dishes at all and leave some pieces in each dish. I don't get used to it and i hate overnight food . My hubby often jokes about this and he says that they don't want to wash the dishes or bowls so they don't eat them up.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
I should apologized that maybe this is just the habit of our region(I was born in jilin province and my parent are form shandong province, they teach me that when eat outside don't eat all of the food...). so sorry.
@webearn99 (1744)
• India
9 Sep 09
In India if you leave food on the plate it means the the food is not good. The hosts feel bad about it. As you say different cultures have different ways of appreciation.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
9 Sep 09
Oh, so interesting. I love Indian dish, especially curry beef and curry chicken!Thank you for your reply~