a song that reminds me of my past :(

Philippines
September 10, 2009 5:16am CST
It was few weeks ago when my friends and i decided to meet up in a coffee shop near by. I got there early so I decided to browse some magazines while waiting for them. I ordered my favorite mocha latte as usual with some extra cream on top. On my seat, I hear a familiar song playing at the coffee shop, it was a song that me and my past lover use to share. I ignored it, as if it was just a plain song that doesn't matter to me at all. My friends came and had our time together. As, we bid our goodbyes I heard the same song being played again, but this time its coming from a cellphone. Suddenly the music stopped as this young guy beside us answered his phone. I took a cab and got home. I wondered when I was still in the cab, if that song will be played again it would be so weird and my day would probably be sad. But it didn't happen. I got home and hit the bed. As I closed my eyes that music starts to play on my mind, hunting me with my past, reminding me of the happy days with this guy, it was like running through my head and it wont stop. I cried all night, no matter how hard I try forget about my past relationship its still comes back everytime I hear that song, but thats the way it is I guess. Do you have any song that reminds you of your past? or the one you loved before? How was it?
11 responses
• United States
10 Sep 09
I believe it was better that you had the good times with that person, than to have never had them at all. I understand how it can make you feel sad, but try to make it "bitter-sweet" rather than just sad. Music play a huge part in my life. I hear songs all the time that bring back memories of so many past experiences. I almost always can connect a song to every memory or visa-versa. Recently my oldest son's Dad (my first husband and still very close friend) passed away suddenly of melanoma cancer. I've known that wonderful man for 40 years and loved him in one way or another (lover, husband, friend) for all those years. There are songs I hear nearly every day that bring a memory of him. I can smile through my tears though, because I had that time with him. I hope you will be able to do the same. It helps.
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• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Wow thank you very much lynette. I appreciate your thoughts. You gave me a positive outlook on how important it is to cherish those a happy moments with your loved one. You made me realize that its important to have such memories and learn from it rather than to be just all sad about it. After all these experiences makes us a strong and better person. :)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Memories: Forever & Ever, Amen (Randy Travis): Being asked to dance by the absolutely best dancer on the dance floor! It was awesome! Crystal Blue Persuasion: The first line is "look over yonder, what do you see....". My boyfriend (the "ex" I spoke of earlier) was driving, and he pointed over the steering wheel to the left of the car while he sang along, and I was dumb enough to lean over and try to see what he was pointing at. Not funny maybe just to read about it, but we laughed about that for years. The Dance (Garth Brooks): The most meaningful line in that song (to me) is "I could have missed the pain....but I'd have had to miss the dance". The pain is doubled now (since my ex passed away) but originally it meant to me that I could have never had that time with my first husband, but if I hadn't had that time, I wouldn't have my oldest son with him. Time in a Bottle (Jim Croce): When my son was younger, I sang this song at a karaoke place and kept the tape (the old days, ya know, we only had cassette tapes) to give to him. I felt like it was about him in a way. "Save every day like a treasure and then, again, I would spend them with you" (or something like that). Every time he hears that song, even today, he'll call and say "hey Mom, that song you sang for me is on the radio!" He's 32 now and still remembers. So many, many more.....like I said, music is a big memory thing for me. lol
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@leo1985 (164)
• China
10 Sep 09
Actually, I have similar experience. I and my ex-girlfriends love a song called ??(english meaning is take hands with you,singer:??surui,taiwan singer) because we really want to be together for the whole life at that time.But as the time passed by, so many thing happened and finally our relationship is going to its end.I know we still love each other,but some thing make us have to choose to apart.To be truth,I never heared this song in real world, but when the evening is coming, sit will sound ,to my ear in my heart,her face will appear, I was so sorry AND I can't weep at all,but I really wanna tears got out of my eyes to take away my miss,BUT it didn't...
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
I know how you feel about it. Ive been there, in the same situation you have faced. Most of the time when I hear songs that we use to sing I can't help but to think about those days we still together. The music helps us to reminisce those happy thoughts although it sad as you may think. But with music too, we were able to cope those sad memories.
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Yeah I know. Lets cheer up! LOL! :) Theres always tomorrow and we can redeem ourselves with these past relationships that we had. Happy Lotting. :)
• China
11 Sep 09
I have not this experience like you and It sound very sorrow for you when you hear this songs again.Because it contains many happy stories in your life with your boyfriend.I can understand what's the felling will you when you hear that again. I hope you can forget it and have a nice day!
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Thanks. I know i will. :)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 09
I always think that a good song is actualy a sad song(or mostly). Because we like to hear our favorite song with frinds or someone special. And when we apart from our friends or lover, or let me say we have problem with them, a song can bring back all memories we had. A special song will always reminds you to a special someone. So it is ok if you cry, crying is good. :)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
I totally agree with you lazuardhi. I got more attached with those beautiful sad songs. Thanks. :)
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I have a few songs that remind me of my past, and there is one in particular that puts me into tears every time I hear it, no matter what part of the song I catch it at. "The Dance" by Garth Brooks reminds me of my son who passed away eleven years ago. It makes me think of how much I wish he were here with me still, but how much I treasure the time I did have with him. To me, the songs says how I feel quite simply, even had I known that I was going to lose him, I would have not wanted to miss out on those precious few weeks that I had with him.
@med889 (5958)
10 Sep 09
There is a song like this which in fact reminds me of my past when I was complaining a lot and it is the song "You are all I need", it reminds me of the day I realized that I should not complain about life anymore because what I have is already too much.
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
That really is a nice song. Yup, we should not complain about life and the struggles we face because that makes us a better person.Its just that I can't help it when something reminds you of your past and that tool that reminds you is music or a song which is like present almost everyday. Thank for responding med! :) Happy Lotting!
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
Well that usually happens. I have a new album downloaded on my PC when i received a call from someone i hate so since then i never played that album eventhough it's still fresh. lol! It's kind of traumatic. About songs which reminds the past, i guess there's just no way of escaping from it. We hate the feeling but we sure would want to listen to that song to help us remind about things eventhough it's something unpleasant, especially if it's about love. I guess listening to these songs just gives us a clearer view of the past.
• United States
11 Sep 09
I have songs that no matter how many years go by, remind me of past loves. It's a connection thing in your mind that associates that person and those times with the song. There's really no way to ignore it. You just have to push those thoughts aside when you hear the song. By the way, Al Stewart wrote a song in the 70s called Time Passages, that sort of reminds me of what you were talking about. You can see it on You Tube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_dKEG86cndE
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 09
Well, i have but it doesn't make my days become bad anymore, we should remember it as a lesson, but do not make it as a block stone in your way, your life, now at presents i don't have any memorial song with my new hons it doesn't important either
@dolmitta (221)
• India
11 Sep 09
Songs have so powerful impact on us, no matter how strong we are. I know a lot of songs that i could relate with different stages and incidents that happened in my life. One simple example is Enya's 'Only Time'... It always remind me of the 9/11 incident. Tragic but it makes me feel really bad about the people inside. It is very difficult to take away that hard feeling but whatever happens life has to go on...
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
11 Sep 09
It's common for a couple to share a song they consider to be "Their Song",whether it's the song that was playing when they Met,their first date,or any of the "firsts" a couple would have and consider significant..If the relationship is deep and sincere,events together are being imprinted in your memories..an example..If you still dream of this person,do You "see" them in colour,like you remembered them? Important memories are retained this way..less significant memories could be felt in a dream as a presence,or a voice,or a shape without detail..Having that song evoke such emotions,It sounds as though you didn't want that relationship to end,and you're not properly over it having ended..It doesn't feel as though there's someone else in Your life since,when this song can bring you down..I hope You get the closure You need and have someone to make those sad memories fade with new Happy ones...As for Me,There are loads of evocative songs from my life,some sad for those I've lost,and for happy occasions I remember..Music and Smell are memory triggers..the emotions are what makes us feel alive..