Any tips for a soon to be housewife?

@SomeCowgirl (32270)
United States
September 10, 2009 2:34pm CST
Of course, I'll be working too but I would like any tips you all have for a soon to be housewife. I'm having to learn things, I should have learned before... but no time to dwell on that. Any tips are greatly appreciated. Any anecdotes, anything... Here are a few topics to cover in this discussion: Ironing Cleaning Packing Lunch Keeping Things Fresh Longer FRUGALITY in GENERAL Well Please??? I'd be greatly appreciated...
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
11 Sep 09
ho somecowgir, Here i came across an article from a book about how to be a good house wife and i m going to copy and past that for you..i hope it gives u something to think The following is an excerpt from a home economics textbook used in Ontario during the 1950'S. Each excerpt is followed by a Bible quotation. Get your work done. Plan tasks with an eye on the clock. Finish or interrupt them an hour before your husband is expected home. Your anguished cry "are you home already?" is not exactly a warm welcome. "She...worketh willingly with her hands." Proverbs 31:13 Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know you have been thinking of him and are concerned for his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed. "...She bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens." Proverbs 31:14,15 Prepare yourself. Take 15 min. to rest so that you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift. "She maketh herself covering of tapestry; he clothing is silk and purple. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come." Proverbs 31:22,25 Clear away the children. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. "She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness." Proverbs 31:27 Prepare the children. Take just a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. "Her children arise up, and call her blessed..." Proverbs 31:28 Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate noise of washer dryer, dishwasher, vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. "And that ye study to be quiet..." I Thessalonians 4:11 Be happy to see him. Greet him with a smile and act glad to see him. "...Her husband also, and he praiseth her." Proverbs 31:28 Some don'ts, don't greet him with a problem or complaint. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this minor compared with what he might have gone through during the day. "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her..." Proverbs 31:11 Make him feel comfortable. Have him lean back into a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillows and offer to massage his neck and shoulders and take off his shoes. Speak in a soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax to unwind. "Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all." Proverbs 31:29 Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first. "She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness." Proverbs 31:26 Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax. "Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates." Proverbs 31:31 The goal, try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I saw a few of my favorite bible verses and couldn't wait to get to this! I saw it an hour ago I believe. I love Proverbs 31... The whole chapter! As for the article, some of this looks like parts of an article I've seen. This is very good advice though now women also work, that doesn't mean that a woman should not do her best to understand and be comforting! Men still have a big roll, just as women do!
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@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
10 Sep 09
Hi SomeCowgirl, well the best tip for this is always to remember that he also has arms and legs and is capable of mucking in as it certainly isn't brain work you'll be suffering but pointess and tedious and never ending. As he's probably genetically incapable of wielding an iron then it's best to show it's impossible for you to master that ever so heavy hoover and let him get on with that one. Never soil your hands with rubbish when there's a man there to see to it, just explain it's his rubbish too. Frugality - well this is my most excellent tip for you, never ever, let someone else run the finances, you must take control of this right from the start as you are more than capable while he might squander the money on boy things. Never let anyone else be responsible for telling you how much money there is to spend, take complete control and save as much as you can in a separate account.
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@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
10 Sep 09
Hi, there was actually a serious point to it as well as just squirreling away money for oneself. Look how many women are left alone and are clueless how to balance a cheque book or know how a mortgage is dealt with, or look at those debts she knew nothing about. I'm not talking about me here but it happens and it shouldn't because one should never let such a serious matter out of ones own hands. Women are much better organised than men anyway, there's just no denying it, but men can be very handy about things like getting up on roofs.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Hey Ya'll, well I appreciate all you've had to say. thea09, I think I may have confused you again. By an iron, I mean a steam iron to take care of clothes. My fiance and I take care of our finances ourselves, that is to say while he balances the checkbook, I know what's going on in our accounts as well. He's very wise with money, he doesn't like to spend what he doesn't have to, though just like anyone else, he likes to get things for himself from time to time. I think our finances will be safe as ours. Saving in a different account or different way is a great idea. We'll most definitely be saving money back for a rainy day. Just seeing from my in laws perspectives, we'll need any saved money we have. Which is where mylot comes in handy, am I right?
@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
11 Sep 09
Hi again, did you think I meant a golfing iron? No, I meant a steam iron, but, it's men who have those shirts with huge shoulders to do and ironing really is a terrible bore
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Sep 09
Goodness... After math, all my weak areas: Ironing - buy permanent press and hang up straight out of the dryer Cleaning - make a schedule and I hope YOU aren't doing all of it Packing lunch - well I don't know, for yourself or him? Find out what he likes... Keeping things fresh longer - don't buy more than you can use? Frugality - coupons use lots of them but don't use them to buy stuff you wouldn't normally purchase
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Sep 09
A steam cleaner would probably work great. I like my rotten way of doing thing though!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Why change what works, right? I don't know that I'll even get a steam cleaner like I said. If we get an iron for a wedding present, and an ironing board, I'm not going to waste my money on something else, ya know? lol.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 09
And never go to bed angry - stay up late and plan your revenge!!!!!! Only kidding!
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@jenniely (41)
11 Sep 09
Being a housewife are very tough career. All you have to give is to give not just your best but the better for your family what makes them happy especially the feelings of your husband try to figure out what he wants and what does not to avoid problems, and you have long patience in any situation always think positive and turn negative into positive sides. In any problems there's a solution just try to analyze what is wrong. Goodluck
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Turning Negatives into positives. Like that. I know it's much easier said then done, but I also know it can be done. Keeping Patience is good too, though I need to learn on that.
13 Sep 09
It's just my perception about things If things seem to be negative I turn it into positive I analyze why this negative things are happening. I'm a positive thinker that's why I didn't see problem as a problem, If there is something wrong find ways to make it right. Always remember the individual differences.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
You sound to lead a very good life! Never taking things too seriously but only taking them in stride. Am I Right? Are you married?
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
10 Sep 09
O.k. sweetie pie, here goes. Ironing: Try never to iron. If you have to or something is wrinkled the put a damp cloth in the dryer together with the clothing and set timer for 4 minutes. Alternately, fold clothes as they come out of the dryer. Use half of th detergent that the manufacturer recommends unless the clothes are really soiled. Never WASH WITH HALF A LOAD AND ALWAYS USE COLD WATER. Shopping: Make a list of what you need for the meals yo intend to cook and keep to it UNLESS you see a bargain like chicken at half price etc and then stock up. don't buy too any fancy cleaning products when bleach and vinegar will do. You can save so much money in this area. do have some food fas stand bye for those times when money is tight so learn how to do a few frugal dishes. Go to frugal.com or living on a dime.com for many ideas to cut down on cleaning products and for cheap meals. I'm stuck for time here as my lunch hour is finished but I know that so many others will assist you. Good luck. Oh, unloug everything that is not in use. Cell phone charges etc. These eat up electricity.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Damp Cloth: I think I've heard of that, though that's a really great idea. This is whilst the clothes are damp? I'm a bit confused there though! Half The Detergent:Somewhere I've heard that as much as the manufacturer says is needed can be bad for the clothes. I haven't seen it myself, but this may be for the liquid detergent vs the powder, that my fiance's mom uses. My family uses powder and liquid. I'll definitely be using less, if for nothing else then to save money. Frugal Dishes: We'll see what we can do! My fiance is very picky on what he eats, but I'm sure I can find something he'll be willing to try! lol! Shopping Smart: Another suggested meal planning, so stocking up on on sale meat is a good idea. I've also read an article on how a group of women got together and prepared a week's worth of meals (or maybe a month?) and froze them to be defrosted and heated later. Electricity: I already go a long and turn off lights, and I've been known to unplug a few things as well! I'm also thinking about getting a washer that doesn't require electicity. I forget what it's called though, but it's one that requires wash basin tubs. I was just searching for it today! Ah, The Wringer Washer!
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 09
Hi Irish, I have not ironed in years. I do not even know where my iron is. I was taught to iron. collars and sleeves first and then the shoulders. YUCKY! Not me. what a waste of time. Don't buy anything that needs ironing. My mother would make us sew in the pleats of our school uniform skirts before seam pressing them with a cloth. This was done every week! Irons should be made obsolete.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Whoop! whoop! No ironing!
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@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
hello SomeCowgirl, Is that mean that you are quitting your job? If that is the case being a full time housewife is a nonstop job. It requires a lot of patience and courage for you will be doing all the household chores yourself. From the time you wake up till the time before you sleep. It's a job that doesn't have salary at all and more often than not you don't receive any compliment/s for that matter for all works that you have done for the day. Use newspapers to keep your veges stay fresh and longer. In ironing, if you can iron once a week the better so you can save electricity bill. General cleaning, schedule it when you have more time so you will not get tired that much. In everything that you do, just do it with fun. Goodluck to you.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I don't have a job yet but am working on getting one. If I get this job I will still have it. I'll be a housewife with a regular 8 to 4 or 5 shift. My job will entail cleaning and taking care of my great grandmother in law. So, doing things by pacing oneself is the way to go! Making everything fun instead of boring is also a good idea. I plan to listen to music and dance whilst working when possible.
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
^^^^^^
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Sounds like you will be very busy and possibly really tired at the end of the day. Your best bet is to try to keep things neat to begin with. Clean up as you go, clean things right away and don't let them build up. If you let things build up you will be overwhelmed, make new rules for hubby and your kids if you have any that they need to do certain things to help you. Keep their shoes and backpacks in certain places, put their clothes in a hamper, you could even have 2 hampers one for whites and one for colors to save time on sorting. Having them help out with little things around the house will make things much easier on you.
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@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
26 Sep 09
Well, Congratulations on your soon to be housewife, and wishing you the Best with your marriage as well. Some tips I have learned over the yrs. is to not let your work become too overwhelming. If you can learn to focus each day on the regular things you need to do, as well as keeping up with some of the other smaller things you will get a lot further as well. Things like Dusting, cleaning out the cobwebs, etc. usually can wait some if their is something a little more pressing and if your husband is willing to help share in some of the housework and cooking that takes off some of the stressors as well. Personally unless you know the man you are marrying really well when you first get married sit down as a couple and see what both expects out of all of this, and then there will often be No Big suprizes in the end as well. Wishing you the Best.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Krausehome, although I don't know what CST time is compared to my EST, you responded on the day of our wedding, which was yesterday. My husband and I do know each other very well, but there is always room to ask questions and learn what is expected, or merely desired of the other person. I appreciate all of your advice, and hope you are doing well! Have a wonderful day!
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Ironing I almost never do anymore, unless someone in the family has to wear a dress shirt or an outfit that absalutely has to be ironed you don't need to iron most things these days. Just wash them as usual, dry them in the dryer to between %50 and 75% dry, then hang them on hangers and let them finish drying the rest of the way while hanging, the weight of the wetness will help pull out the wrinkles. You could also get a steamer which is lot quicker and a lot easier than an iron. I usually make a little extra dinner every night, and then I pack left overs in to my husband's lunch. I don't give him what we had the night before, but what we had the night before that, that way he doesn't feel like he is eating the same thing twice. As for keeping fruits and vegetables fresh longer those Debbie Meyer green bags really do work. But generally any thing that is rotten in your vegetable bins will cause other fruits and vegetables near them to rot, so check your vegetable and fruit bins in your refrigerator to make sure nothing is rotting in there. If something is begining to rot use it or toss it out right away to keep your other fresh produce safe. Store cottage cheese and sour cream upside down. I don't know why but this keeps them fresh longer.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
4 Oct 09
I know my family doesn't iron, but my mil does, so she's taught me how to iron. I'll get used to it, or buy a steamer! lol! Yes, My husband doesn't like to eat left overs to many days in a row, the day of and the next day, maybe the next day after that and that's it... so every other day sounds like a plan. I think my mom has the Debbie Green bags, but I haven't asked her about them if they work. We'll after see about investing in them, but we really don't keep vegetables or fruits that much. I know for bananas, keeping them in a brown paper bag will help them ripen faster. Cottage cheese and sour cream upside down? Kind of weird, but I guess I could see why the cottage cheese would... it's curdled. We don't use much of either, but these are all good tips! I appreciate them so much, and am sorry it took so long to respond.
• United States
16 Sep 09
Cowgirl, I started thinking about this discussion tonight while I was being domestic and thought you might like to know a secret to keeping your microwave clean. I take a regular kitchen sponge, soak it in water, and put it in the microwave for about a minute. Once it is done, I wipe the inside down with another sponge (the other one will be really hot). The grim wipes right off!!!
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@KaraKATAD (246)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Well I think you should learn how to budget and you should learn a little bit about economics. It's important to know economics so you can keep the family's spending in order and make sure that you don't end up in debt. And if you get really good at math you'll be able to work out your own taxes and save on an accountant!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Budgeting and Saving as well as knowing a little bit about economics is a good idea. Understanding inflation vs deflation in economics is good too. I took economics back in HS but couldn't tell ya all that I learned. As for Accountant, not any of the people I know hire an accountant. My sister went to school for accounting though she dropped out once she found out she was pregnant with my nephew, and hasn't gone back since. She now has a little girl as well.
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11 Sep 09
sister, the husband loves it when his wife is thrifty, knows how to cook his favorite dishes, sweet and caring, affectionate, can-do person and most of alln DOESN'T NAG HIM.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Thrifty I can do, cooking his favorite meals I'm learning, sweet and caring, most of the time... Nag... more often then I want to admit! He still loves me though... I know I've gotta work on that.
• Australia
11 Sep 09
I won't try to give you tips on housekeeping, but I'll pass on some good advice about marriage. A grandmother, celebrating her 50th wedding anniversary, was asked by her granddaughter for advice regarding her coming marriage. The grandmother replied, "Well, dear, before we married, I made a list of ten things I would not tolerate in your grandfather and decided that I'd forgive him for everything else." The granddaughter asked what things were on the list, and she answered, "Every time he made me angry, I'd say 'Just as well that was not on the list of ten' and I'd forgive him. To tell you the truth, I never did write the list" I hope you celebrate your golden wedding anniversary in 50 years time with the same degree of happiness and thankfulness as that grandmother did, and as I will in a few months time.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
That is some good advice! It reminds me of a joke I once heard, and a country song I can't remember the name of, nor most of the words to! lol! The joke goes as such : An elderly dying woman asks her husband to finally get down a box that he had never asked about and she never divulged him with. She told him that her own mother told her years before that whenever she was angry she should crochet a doll... In the box was only one doll and some money. The husband teared up so happy to have never angered her but once only... then he thought to ask about the money "Oh, that's the money I got for selling all the other dolls"... While the latter part isn't funny and the fact that the woman is dying is not funny either... there is a good idea in the story... Busy yourself before getting any more angrier... I try to do that now. The song was talking about a man and woman, the man being abusive but the woman loving him through it all... I believe the man called himself lucky to have such a woman by his side. I hope you have a great anniversary coming up! I hope in fifty years I will be as happy as this woman in your story was!
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
All you need to do is to spend time and buy time for him even if you are too busy...Because in marriage you need to do consatant communication because you need to gewt to know more about your husband. And the real Him. And you need to learn to adjust especially when situation calls. you must try to do your best to maintain the love that you had especially when you are still boyfriends and girlfriends....Do not always look on the negative part just focus on the positive side...And learn to develop self-control...
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Communication is very much key! I agree with you there. Learning to adjust to everything and take everything in stride is also a good idea! Very nice! I appreciate the response!
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
being a housewife is a wonderful tasks, making sure of taking care of your loved ones, especially your kids and husband. patience is the most important traits that a housewife should have. it's not easy to raise kids of your own, caring them from bathing down to dressing them, night life from you single life way will be out of the topic... your time will be spend more on your family, but be sure to make time of yourself also and don't forget to take care and beautify yourself inspite of all the pressures inside your home.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
13 Sep 09
The transition from woman to wife and then to mother shouldn't be a hard one at all. My fiance and I are both homebodies, are dates consist of going to wal*mart to pick up groceries with his mom, or going out to eat with his parents. We don't care to go out any place and when we do it's just as good to have others with us then to be by ourselves. Of course from time to time I like to go out with just him, but even that could be a simple ride up the road and back.
@twooten (64)
• United States
11 Sep 09
well soon to be housewife let me say this please don't sign up just to be a housewife because men always want more. remember in the time of a heated discussion with your significant other that at the end of the day you both are together and you love each other. Love is an action word not just something to say. Never go to bed angry because you never know when it will be the last time. Now as for the ironing try to iron for the week at one time and not just one day. As far as fixing lunches, if you cook enough for two days you can fix your lunches for those days ahead of time. Hint some men don't like left overs check with him first. Never make the mistake of cleaning up after a man all the time because once you train him that way then he will expect you to do it all the time. Never begain something that you don't plan on doing for the rest of your lives together. Always switch it up when cooking and possible get him to cook with you sometime. plan recipes/ menus together. Always have date night at least once every week or every two weeks even just a picnic and you both pack lunch. quality time spent together and the little things mean the most. Congratulations in advance.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
11 Sep 09
All of those tips sound great. I appreciate them! My fiance only likes left overs for the next day, sometimes two but it depends on what it is. Spaghetti, taco's, and pizza he'll eat for three days... of course we don't leave food for longer then that, unless we're going to freeze it! We both clean now, but I think I'm more lazy about it. That's soon going to change though, I'm sure. I guess the fact that we don't have our own house yet makes me not want to clean as much, but if it's my stuff, I'll clean. Kinda sounds selfish a bit, I know. In any case, For cooking, I'm sure we'll both have dishes we want to cook, and some we don't. We'll work that out when we plan our meals! Which is a good idea. We'll have to see if that actually happens though, all depends on the scheduling, rigt? . As for dates? Popcorn and a movie does it for us. We're not very social people, so just staying home and reading, watching t.v., or playing a videogame is entertainment enough! Again, I appreciate all you've wrote!
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Hello Somecowgir, here are a few tips from a girl that's been married over 20, daily you must do the dishes, make sure your general living area is clean. Check all bathrooms making sure that they are presentable just in case you have company. Be sure to cook breakfast lunch and dinner but if you happen to get tired, take a few breaks in between and put your feet up on the top of a few pillow. Mind you, in the rush of doing all this, you must be sure to keep the kids looking good and happy at all times. If they start crying you have to make sure they don't have dirty noses, lols. Okay well if all this get to be too much for you my dear then you can take a few mylot breaks and when ur hubby comes home, greet him at the door with a smile on ur face and try to make sure ur looking like a million bucks. Be sure to ask him how his day went? Never mind talking about yours because who actually wants to hear about a bunch of cooking and cleaning? Anyhow, try to make sure that you are looking pretty when he comes in and hopefully he'll forget the other stuff and he won't bother to ask you what you've been doing all day. Lols, well this is pretty much it in a nutshell. Be sure to take care of everything else and you should have it made. Lols..... PS: HOpe you can find the humor in this and hopefully you won't work yourself into a tantrum. Remember that life is meant to be enjoyed and there is nothing more beautiful than a married couple that spend time with each other. So enjoy ur new life and my you have many beautiful children may God continue to send many wonderful friends ur way to help cheer you up when ur feeling down. Happy mylot!
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