why should i be "sorry"

September 18, 2009 9:03pm CST
whenever there is a poblem with friends or family or collegues why should i be the person to say sorry, sometimes the problem may have been caused by me at other times by others, but is it necessary that i have to always feel embarrased and say sorry, no it doesnt work that way with me, if others dont like it so be it, but i am not going to say sorry
4 responses
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
We do not have to say "sorry" if we are 100% sure that we did nothing wrong. Nevertheless saying "sorry" once in a while can in the long run, be to our advantage. When something goes wrong, everybody involved can be said to be at fault, but in varying degrees. "I am sorry for not being alert to the mistakes that you were making, leading to the present situation." is one of the sentences that I have used several times in the past. The point is some people become more open with greater responsiveness when they are not totally blamed for the things that went wrong. It should be reminded that this type of reaction should be used sparingly. There are also people who are fond of twisting words, making us the sole culprit.
@Archie0 (4668)
19 Sep 09
It should not matter whether you like the person or not,if you feel you owe an apology for some slight against this person then just tell them you are sorry for whatever specific thing you are apologetic for and leave it at that.Takes a big person to admit when they are wrong..even more so when the injured party is not popular...however the apology is still required if you genuinely believe you were wrong.We are all a mix of good and not-so-good,it's the entire package we should look at. You may well be surprised and find this person is not so different after all.At the very least,if you apologise and even if it was not accepted,you should feel proud that you did the right thing. If that is the case,then just do the apology and then walk away and forget about it,secure in the knowledge that you have done the right thing. Good luck!
• Canada
21 Sep 09
Hi Knightrider! I totally agree with you on that,i am a firm beleiver that when you do something wrong you need to take responsibility for what you have done or caused, but in saying that, i however dont think you need to say sorry for something that was not your fault. If the person that has caused the issue is not going to take responsibility for what has happened then it is pretty childish on their behalf. Thanks for your post happy myloting:)
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
If there's no need to say sorry, you don't have to, only that in the family, the younger ones seemed to be always at fault. Whether it's our fault or not should misunderstanding happened between us and our elders, we are always bound to say sorry, out of respect. Though sometimes you don't have to say sorry but by just talking to them, they will feel better.
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
19 Sep 09
Good for you! You stand by your principals...if you are in the wrong, admit it but if you are not in the wrong, don't let anyone make you feel like you have to make it right. You are not responsible for anyone but YOU and sometimes it's hard to stand up for yourself. Do what is right and you will feel better about it in the long run.