Do you get mad at yourself everytime you make a mistake?
By Sheri
@tuckersheri (1321)
United States
September 19, 2009 8:36pm CST
I do get mad at myself everyone j make a mistake. I know noones perfect but sometimes I wish I was. I feel like I am always messing up. I get so mad at myself for some of the mistakes I make. When I make mistakes I wish I could rewind time and correct it. I keep thinking it will make things better. I know I can't rewind time so I have learn from my mistakes and try to do it right the next time. Doing this is not always easy but I really do try. When I make the same mistake twice which I have done I feel like I should have learned from the first time. I guess you live and learn.
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26 responses
@uicbear (1900)
• United States
20 Sep 09
There's a saying, "Don't sweat the small stuff....It's all small stuff."
While I can't completely agree that it's all small stuff, I do agree that you can't beat yourself up over every little thing. The times I am toughest on myself about a mistake I've made is when it could hurt someone else or that it might inconveinence someone. Then I just focus on rememdying the situation. To make a mistake is one thing, but not trying to fix what you've done that's where you would be in the wrong.
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@involved62 (790)
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20 Sep 09
For a while, yes, I get mad at myself. But then, I keep thinking why should I beat myself up over my mistakes? I cannot change anything or at least not much. What's done has been done. I try my best to be kind to myself.
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Sometimes I get mad at myself for making mistakes. Sometimes I laugh at myself, I guess it depends on my mood when I make the mistake and how badly the mistake will affect me. If it is just something little I can just laugh it off. I don't like it when I make repeated mistake, but I like to think I learn from my mistakes and don't make the same mistakes more than once or twice, but I think time can be wasted on anger, when it should be spent on finding the solution or fixing the mistake.
@nuemann (332)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Yeah once the mistake is made and you have learnt your lesson it becomes an end in itself with a choice of moving on with the new knowledge or repeating the same mistake all over again. I get mad when I let my friends hang out with my girlfriend and THEY tell me how much fun they got together, I get sick from that mainly because no matter how hard they I expect the girls to show some resistance and prove their onions but most times they end up screwing my mind up!
@VANILLAREY (1470)
• India
20 Sep 09
I do get mad and frustrated about my carelessness. I guess everyone does.
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@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 09
Sometimes i tend to blame myself if things don`t go as i wish..but there is no use blaming yourself too much,,you must analyze why it happened, what is wrong with your plan and what to do nect to avoid the same mistake..we learn from our mistakes,everybody makes mistakes, the difference is how we can deal with it
@swennerholm (664)
• Sweden
20 Sep 09
I don´t get made with myself when I do mistake, because I believe that when we made a mistake we learn something new and thats the way toward to a better life.
@charlies2805 (777)
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20 Sep 09
If you already know that nobody's perfect AND NO ONE WILL BE, so don't wish to be one. =) Wishing to be perfect (in the meaning of REALLY PERFECT, not academically or something similar) is like trying to find draw above water. Or like when you write your new on seashore, and it will be swipped away by the sea, by reality. =)
Everyone can learn from her/his mistake. Mistake does exist, so we can really learn for it, trying our best not to do the same mistake twice. That's too epic advice, isn't it ? =)
@misslovelyfiles (250)
• United States
20 Sep 09
I know how you feel! I get really upset at myself to when I make a mistake. My husband just sees it as a simple mistake for me to learn from but, I still get made at myself. I do learn from them and like you I forgive myself, but I still hate when I make mistakes though. I'm use to everyone expecting so much from me and expecting me to be perfect, so I think that's what add pressure to me to be as perfect as I cam. I don't handle making mistakes well, but am learning.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
I don't always get mad at myself when I make mistakes because that would make my life really difficult. I just want to enjoy things and do the best that I can. Sometimes I do feel stupid when I make mistakes, but I don't let this feeling of stupidity linger because I don't want to be miserable. Whenever I make huge mistakes, I just do my best to correct them, or if I can no longer correct them, I just move on with my life and tell myself to avoid repeating these mistakes.
@berith (27)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
i guess making mistakes is something you cannot escape. Yes, definitely we;re just human beings who are prone to commit errors in life. like you guys, i hate committing mistakes but with all these things i'm striving for human perfection... instead of wasting my time with self pity every time i commit mistake what i'm doing is facing the future with my heads up. I'm not saying that the guilt is gone but i think rather than crying in the dark you should stand up try everything so you can correct all the mistakes you did...
@greatsasuke (472)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Try to use a more positive frame of mind. Like you said just try to learn from your mistakes. If you make the same mistake twice don't beat yourself up, just let yourself know that sometimes to establish a learning habit takes more than one try. It also depends on the type of mistakes. Are you talking about small little things that people mess up on everyday or major mistakes that can really impact your life. If it is the second then maybe you want to write down some goals or resolutions on how you are going to try to avoid making the same mistake again.
@madleo (8)
• India
20 Sep 09
Do you get mad at yourself every time you make a mistake?
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Yes, absolutely.:)
There are two aspects to this though:
a)When your hyperactive conscience plays predator- a result of your apparent or real moral infringement.
b)When the unfortunate sting of self-esteem gets a grip- 'mistakes' related to ability/skill/accuracy etc.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Sep 09
hi tuckersheri well you are not alone by a long shot,myfriend.'so do not be so tough on yourself as I also get so upset when I make a'typo or type the wrong word, or leave something out. we get so hung up
on what we are doing our fingers slip. tucker we all make errors so I have learned to reread my typing a lot and try and correct things as i see them. sometimes I miss an error so I make a comment to explain what it should have been. you are in good company as a whole lot of mylotters have the same complaints. cheer up.
@vandana7 (98719)
• India
20 Sep 09
Hi tuckersheri, how many people love that perfect person? And how many people love u? How many people would go to help that perfect person when he or she is in need? And how many people would come to ur aide, even before u make that mistake? So, now u have the answer. U are lovable as u r. And there are people out there who have accepted u with ur follies! That is a lot of love, dont u think? What more is there in the world to achieve anyway?
@Simon1223 (903)
• China
20 Sep 09
Nobody could avoid making mistakes except for God. What we need to avoid is not to make same mistakes twice. In order to do this, every time you make mistak, you should carefully analyse the whole process and find out the reasons. Then you could write down it in your notebook. You could check it when you do something similar in the next time. What I mentioned are limited to big mistakes. If what you made is just small mistakes, don't get mad for it doesn't matter at all. We should live relaxedly, shouldn't we?
@zeal_jason (157)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 09
To rewind the time and undo your mistake sound like a good idea.If ever you watch the movie "The butterfly effect" you will change your mind.Think positively,what done is done,the only thing you can do is face it.Some people choose to run away from the problem or be irresponsible to it,but the problem will still exist.I agree with the idea "live and learn",when you make some mistake,just bear in mind that you won't repeat the same mistake again.Mad and getting emotional isn't gonna to solve anything.
