What you apreciate more? Somebody love or somebody respect?

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
September 23, 2009 3:46am CST
My life experience, teach me that is very important when you got somebody respect, sometimes respect is more as love is; If somebody love you, but you don t have his respect, all is for nothing, but of course that is wonderful when somebody love you truly. I am sure that all of us want from who we love respect and love in same time; but is possible? Are people who love others but don t respect them; is possible; So, what is more important for you, to have somebody love or somebody respect?WHY?
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@sheen13 (567)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hey. Till now in my life I did not experience anything like this. I mean without respect love.But yes I agree you that some people love others a lot but at the same time they don't respect whom they love.So, I think this is really wrong.For me both are important, love and respect.It feels great when somebody loves you truly but if they don't respect you then whats the point?Love and respect, these both things should be balanced in life.Both are a very important aspect of a good and successful relationship. If a relationship is being carried only on the basis of love and not of respect, it can hurt you anytime.Not only this, if you give others love and respect, then only you can get love and respect together.So, I would say "give" and "take". Then you will surely get both and lead a happy life.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
Hi, you know that 90% from relations are just pure attraction, and people think that is love; love is something who come unconditional, no matter in what conditions, no matter distance, age, religion or cultural difference; to respect somebody, is something more...you like him for what he is, for what he do, for how he act in all life situations....is very hard to have both, but if i want something from somebody, i want respect, because somebody respect me, love is near...if just love me, and respect, step by step our relation will be soon just atraction, instincts, i am right?
@sheen13 (567)
• India
23 Sep 09
Yea you are 100% right.Actually I didn't even think about.I really now think that respect can lead the relationship forward.If love is near, and when you both day by day respect each other every time, then your partner will love you as well as give respect to you. You can't force somebody to love you but everybody give others respect for sure. So, when they respect each other, love automatically enters their heart.Do you agree me?
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
Yes..you know all peoples want to feel butterfly in the stomach, is something who make us forgot about this hard life...but; this is nice, our emotions are great, but after a time, when you will know that your lover don t respect you, step by step the butterfly wil die, or they will fly away....but when you respect somebody, for all what he is, will come a time when feel atraction too, because we are human...and when like somebody is easy to love him....atracttion is great....but is not all
@calai618 (1781)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
In my opinion, respect comes wit love. If you truly love someone, then you ought to give him/her the respect. If respect doesn't exist, then maybe it isn't true love. I really do believe they come hand in hand. :D
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
Hi there, i have other opinion, respect don t come with love...you can love so much somebody, and you really don t know the reasons you love him, even you don t agree how he act or how he treat you....love is blind, but are person who you respect and don t love, don t feel atraction, even you want love him for his qualities, you can t; is wonderful to love and respect same time....but is hard;
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
I also believe that respect and love must be partners. A relationship without respect wont last. How could you say that you love the person if you cant even respect him as an individual?
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
Is possible, why peoples say that love is blind? Do you love somebody because is the most honest, smart , who don t make mistakes? I know people who are in love with people who are in jail because they kill somebody...they love, but don t respect...so, in my opinion is possible, but of course that the best situation is when you can have both, respect and love;
@balasri (26553)
• India
23 Sep 09
I give much importance to respect regardless of what emotion makes it including love.Any emotion shown on me without respect will he shunned by me immediately. After all there is nothing important in this world than our own pride.Isn't it?
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
Hi, you know love maybe is the best feelings in this world, is all what a person want and apreciate, but; respect for me is what i apreciate more; why? because, if you have just love, to first step , when is hard you can go, no words, ...but if you respect somebody, respect his feelings too, and can t go , keep relation just because don t want hurt somebody, just because respect him ; i am right?
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
23 Sep 09
humm with my wife its both, we both love each other and have respect as well. others its the same respecting someone bring love to each other. so to me if respecting others or them respecting you brings love.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
right, respect can bring love...but is hard love bring respect, if don t exist respect, is hard to catch it later.
@med889 (5958)
23 Sep 09
Respect and love are both important however what is the use to be with someone you love when the person is not respecting you at all so respect overrides love sometimes, I respect my boyfriend and the love for him increases whenever I find him respecting me more and more in daily life.
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
YOU ARE LUCKY, in life is so hard to have both...but many relations end just because if just love somebody and don t respect, people start fighting, argue...and love end, just because you don t respect somebody for what he is...
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I think that these two pretty much go hand in hand. With real love..there comes respect too. They are both very important to me.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
Hi, this is an ideal situation, but you know that is not possible all the time...as love is blinde, sometimes we love people who don t deserve our respect, as we respect people a lot...but can love them...life is so strange
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Your right about that! We do sometimes love people that don't deserve our respect. I see what your saying about love and respect being the ideal situation but not always being possible.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
dear ice, both love and respect go together because if one is missing, the feeling would be fake. when you love someone, you will respect his being and vice versa. i respect my parent and i love them, one example. ann
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
23 Sep 09
Hi, you right, ...you can have right;but you can love somebody, but don t respect him, because don t like how he think, how he act in life, so...i adore my mother, i love she a lot, i can give my life for she, but she don t have my respect, because make some big mistake in life; is strange, but sometimes as i say before, love is blind
@kutedarsu (254)
• India
23 Sep 09
Love and respect are always synonymous when it comes to close friendships and relationships. Is there love without respect? How can one love a person without respect and admiration for him/her. But then there can respect without love per se. For eg. if you like someone for their impressive manners it doesn't amount to love. So it depends on how close a person is, to like them love you or respect you.
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@cherrc (666)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
i believe love and respect should co-exist with one another. love in terms of committing with the person u're going to spend ur life with, respect each other's rights for a healthy relationship. :)
@jugsjugs (13045)
23 Sep 09
Some one to love me is the best as i know that if there is love i would like to think that the person would also respect me as well.I think that respect and love do not turn up over night but it do take a while to know that there is love there.Happy Mylotting.
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• India
24 Sep 09
Frankly speaking i like to be respected than to be loved as love follows respect in every relationship.
@Archie0 (4669)
24 Sep 09
Hello icesmile Well i think more than love respect matters anywhere. If he got some due respect towards me his love will also be true towards me, only love doesnt make our relationship strong. Respect is alive love comes on its way.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
Love and respect should come along together. if you love, you respect a person. if you respect a person, you love them. As my experience with my ex. He tends to say that he love me but in the end he never respected me. He ruin my life and my dignity as a person. In respect, you need not to say any words. The action is there and the love shows. There comes the saying, Action speaks louder than Words. I really agree with the saying. No need to say any single word, just do it. Only in the action you can know the sincerity of the person. In this, the Respect is more greater value of love. Because you respect, you love.
@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
24 Sep 09
Hi icesmile, this is an easy one for me, I couldn't love someone I didn't respect and the same applies back. One can lose love for someone if they lose ones respect. Blind passion is a different matter altogether of course, though it can be labelled love.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
24 Sep 09
You need to have both love and respect together. If you tell someone you love them with your whole heart and soul but do not respect them it would be hard for them to believe you because you do not respect them. You need to respect the feeling of the people you love.
• Canada
24 Sep 09
For my husband, love and respect go hand in hand. For us respect means appreciating the person for who they are, and not trying to change them. Respect is not about power and authority for us, it's about treating the other person the way they deserve to be treated, as a human being.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
For me somebody respect me because it's useless somebody love you then they don't respect attitude towards you. But for our time now only little done that attitude.