Romantic disapearing after marriage?

will when you get married , of course both of you already knows with eachother...your partner when your married is no logner your BF or GF but he or she already your bestfriend , brod or sis and as a hubby or wife...and everything in approaching to each is theres lots chnages but it doesnt mean that he or she no longer loves you coz of all people he or she knows why he or she choose to be part of his or her life...

I guess that I am one of the lucky few, because my husband is actually more romantic now that we are married. He never really pictured being married, and that wasn't one of the things that he wanted in his life. Then, we met and fell in love, and his whole attitude about marriage changed. Now, he makes sure to take the time to show me how he feels, and I do the same for him. I think that is one of the things that makes a relationship last.

I think the special days are over-rated. To be honest, I really could care less if my birthday or mom's day or valentines were forgotten. They are human. When I was married, if money was tight....I really didn't care...didn't want gifts. Romance doesnt have to die when people get married or have been together a long time. People get comfortable and let it die. That is why women find another man so desirable. He tends to slip in when the husband is ignoring her and she feels unloved and unwanted and he sweeps her off her feet. it's simple and happens all the time. If guys would just realize that the same thing that made us fall in love with them is the same thing that will keep us there then maybe more relationships would work. It's not just the guys. Women too....they take care of themselves in order to get their guy and then they just let themselves go once they think they have him. guys do it too. I mean we should love each other for what we are but some people carry it to an extreme. You have to care about the relationship and that includes doing things to show the other person that they are important in your life. A little I love you note scribbled on a napkin at dinner time....any jesture at all to show that you love the person you are with is sweet. I really think that it is most important how you are treated all year.

I don't think romance disappears after marriage - it just has to be worked on by both parties in the relationship. If you wait for the average husband to come up with some great romantic gesture then you could be waiting a long time. I find you have to do a bit of prompting and give a man a few ideas but make it seem as if he thought of it. The hunter-gatherer man has afterall got his 'prize' which is 'you' - he can now sit back and put his feet up!! Trick is not to let him get away with it. A discrete reminder about a week before the special day may jog his memory. Men just don't think along the lines of 'Now who has a birthday this month - Oh yes, must get a card for .....' As for romance its a two way street so if you make the effort to bring a little romance into your marriage, it just might make your man sit up and take notice.

This is some view I do not agree with I have courted my wife for 6 years and have been married to her for another 16, and still feel the same way towards her and am yet to miss any special day in our lives.If there is a will there is a way. If you really love someone, there is no way romance should go away from your lives. You just keep ways of keeping it alive. It is what keeps to relationship alive you see!

Yea, it almost happens in every house. Usually husband forget their wife's birthday or any other special day maybe because of the work load on them of any other tension which he may have. You may of course feel bad if your husband forgets your birthday but later on you will patch up with up. There is love between the couple even if the husband or wife forgets any special day. So, I actually don't really think that romance disappears after marriage, I think it grows more. Have a great day!

Well one cannot say or complain about her husband because it is a simple logic before marriage a husband is a friend and a good friend too he tends to remember anything and everything about his mate. Once these two are placed with the bond of matrimony it all becomes a relationship and the husbands are so very engrossed normally in the day to day responsibilities of the family they forget such small things but it doesn't mean that the love for his soul mate has become less which as she thinks that the husband does not love me all the much as he was doing before, she does not feel and think that he was less responsible earlier and had all the time in the world to think about her and her only, and now he has become more responsible and in spite of telling him that, and sharing his responsibilities a bit, she tries to find fault with him by such views about her husband and such tactics morally cause discomfort in long run as one can say...smiles...thanx

I have heard that love disappears after marriage. But, it didn't happen to me. So, I don't believe in that. I feel that love deepens and sweetens after marriage. Marriage helps two people to become close to each other and share each other. I don't understand the phenomena of vanishing of love. I had a kind of fight with one of colleagues discussing this issue. I also think that it depends on each person.

hello karen, I noticed that for years about my friends and relatives having a romance-less commitment when they get busy with their jobs and their what ever in life. but i know there are those who really love each other even after Marriage Ceremony

Hi Karen, I truly believe one sentence by saying that marriage is the grave of love. Before you got marriage, man will try every means to get the plesant of his love. Once he got the things they would like to get, the freshy sense is no longer existed or maybe this consetrantion has been diversed from his love. In my opoin, if her husband really forgot her birthday, but not intentionally, his wife can gentlely remind him for the special date if she really cares.

.....Hi karenkarenkk, I am speaking as one who never had the courage to get married because I get bored too easily. I would think that you must, if you decide to spend your life with one person, work at keeping that marriage alive and well. To me that means getting up each morning committed to loving that person and doing what it takes to make it work. Not easy, but if you love that person, more than that if you like that person, it will not be a chore. Little things,like leaving love notes for them, making their favorite meal, bringing her flowers. Most all I think couples should take the time to go away together, to rekindle the spark that first attracted them to each other. A marriage must be pampered, each partner should be respected and cared for by the other, sounds great hard to do, but totally possible. Paying attention will, in my opinion, be worth the time taken. Good luck to all.