The choice you have to make...

Malaysia
September 26, 2009 11:59am CST
If you have to choose between a new employment offer that require you to start immediately and attending your sister's university convocation day, which one would you willing to give up? The graduation day will be held in another state, where you have already purchased a return air ticket, which is not refundable, and booked an accommodation for a week. Thanks in advance for your response.
6 responses
@ENVY68 (158)
• India
27 Sep 09
I would definitely choose for my employment offer rather attending my sister's university convocation day because I had to pass different tests to get my employment in this competitive world and if I do not choose it then I repend later for not taking up if that might turn out be fantastic offer. My sister won't like if I leave employment offer and attend her convocation. Though this sounds selfish I have no other go but to take up my new employment. Leave alone airtickets as you can earn much more than those non-refundable return tickets if you get a prospective job.
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Hi, Envy! I respect your choice. As for me, during that time, after weighing the pros and cons, I was thinking positively that there were always better opportunities else where. I would rather let down the employer who I have just met than to miss the important moments of the sister I grew up with. It made me realized that it was not all about the expenses I have spent, but the choice I made. Each choice I made would change the future. After a couple of months, I secured another job and guess what?? I met the man who's destined to be my husband at my new working place.
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Take the job. That is your future. You have to make a wise decision.Forget about pennies to get pounds.
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• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Hi, Dove! I love the quote, it's quite inspiring. I know how important a job is, going through so many stages of interviews, so, I did not reject the offer just like that. I did try and I was glad that I chose the latter.
• United States
26 Sep 09
This is really difficult, because jobs are so scarce right now, but I would also go to the graduation because I know if it was my brother I would not miss it. You can feel less guilty about flaking on the job because you did invest a ton of money into this trip already. That said, the squeaky wheel gets the grease as they say...so if you have not already done so, I would call the place of employment and make your case--stress that you have made a non-refundable investment for air fare and accommodations, and also stress how close you are to your sister (even if you aren't--lay it on thick). The worst they can say is no, so it's worth a shot. Good luck!
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Hi, Laurie! I am not in this current situation actually, but I have faced it before and I would love to hear the opinions from others should they have to make a choice between those two. I love your response and that what I exactly did. I was offered the job immediately by one of the 'Directors'. I told her about the pre-paid trip, but she has shown no interest in fact she asked me to make a cancellation as she has other candidates to consider. I said I would think about it. A week before the trip, I did come for one day to see if I could cope with the environment, but I was still not happy. Well, actually, half day because during lunch time, I went to see her right away and told her what I felt and had to reject the offer. I thought she would respect my choice, but she clearly said that she was sooo disappointed in me! Looking back, I was glad I made the right choice.
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 09
corrycrystal, If I were you, I'll just fly to your sister's convo. Tickets have been bought and arrangements have been made. The new job, I wont know how long I'll be there. But I'm sure to regret it when I think back that I missed my sister's convo just for that job that doesn't last me a lifetime. :)
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• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Oh, actually, this has happened to me a few years back. I just wanted to know other people's thoughts on this kind of situation. I so agree with your response about being regretful of not attending such an important event of one of my family members.
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
26 Sep 09
Hi Corrycrystal, I would do what the other's have suggested here and ask my employer if I could start after the graduation. If he said no then I would go to the graduation and have a random relative ring my employer and say I had swine flu and couldn't make it. I would then stay elsewhere for about 9 days and when turning up for my first day at work I would make sure to look a little pale and moan about being in quarantine and missing the graduation, apologise profusely to my employer, and then get to work hoping I never actually get swine flu as I don't think you can get it twice LOL Good luck and I hope your employer will give you leeway to attend the graduation All the best, Dranz
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Hi, DC! Well, I was in this situation a few years ago, so swine flu definitely was not a good excuse. Seriously, it's good to share and hear some people's thoughts on issues like this. I did just what you have said, asked for some considerations if I could start a week later, but the employer was not being understanding with my situation. She even said that I could make the cancellations otherwise the place would be given to somebody else, but after weighing the pros and cons and not feel happy about it, I went for the graduation, which I have no regrets at all. Anyway, frankly speaking, I don't like the idea of cheating especially mocking my state of health, and swine flu?? Everybody is hoping and praying that this plague would over, you know...
27 Sep 09
Hi Crystal, I guess we don't take it that seriously over here anymore. In the beginning it worried me, but then all the reports were that people were recovering, and now it has vanished off the radar completely. Even at a family gathering my aunt was joking like I did here so I guess I figured it was okay . Sorry if I offended you with this, and I hope the graduation is very enjoyable Dranz
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
No worries on my side, Dranz. I was not offended, but some people might especially the families of the victims.
@dreamr802 (987)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I would go to my sister's graduation over the job...plus when I get hired by someone I would warn them that I have a commitment and I would think that most employers are ok with that.
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
Hi, Dream! Yes, most employers prefer us to be honest and tell them straight to the point that we have other plans and unable to start immediately, and they are very understanding. Unfortunately, in the situation I encountered before, the person-in-charge was not one of them.