Do you think long distance will weak the friendship?

China
September 28, 2009 1:53pm CST
When we were ar school, we have a lot of friends. We met with each other every day, to have classes, do excerisec, studying, playing. We got along well and we were best friends. However, we graduate and we went to different cities, we are busy doing what we need do in new positions. It seems that less and less time that we communicate with each other. Sometimes, we call each other almost one month. Do you think that long distcance had weaken my friendship with my friends? Thanks.
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21 responses
• United States
28 Sep 09
Being apart and having lives of your own may have weakened the friendship some. But what really matters is this: Would your friend still be there for you if you got into a tight spot and needed her to? I have had a long distance friendship with a friend who moved away ith the 5th grade. We are both 29 years old now, so that was almost forever ago! We may not see each other all the time, nor do we talk all the time, but we both know that if one of us needed the other, all it would take is a phone call. Distance can stain relationships, but don't count it as a loss. Your friend is still your friend.
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@Kindia (14)
• China
29 Sep 09
yeah, i like it - "your friend is still your friend"
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29 Sep 09
Yeah, that's what friends are for right?
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• China
29 Sep 09
Yes, friend is still my friend. But I am afraid that people can not keep close friendsip for long distance. Friends are not equal close friends.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Distance alone can't weaken the friendship, but sometimes as we age, our priorities and beliefs change, that may cause a gap between friendships. I do have close friends in high school that even we haven't seen or talk with each other for years or months, you can still feel the same friendship everytime we got to see each other. and sometimes it also depends on the kind of friends you have.
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@lengzki (125)
• United States
29 Sep 09
It's not the distance. Once you're good friends that would remain forever despite your distance or even lack of communication.
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• United States
29 Sep 09
Yes and no. It will by not being able to see each other everyother day but on the otherhand most poeple don't see their friends everyother day when their working and have things to do. If you two still call and see each other then it would be fine i think. "True Friends Stay Friends - No Matter What". How far away are the cities?
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• United States
29 Sep 09
It could, and sometimes it does, but with todays internet there are so many options that makes it super easy and free to stay in touch with old friends, such as facebook and skype. I personally use both features and constantly skype with family and friends, its harmless to your computer and super easy to use. I use skype with our webcam but you can do without.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 09
People will change. They grow up. They move on. However, the friendship will remain. The distance is a part of growing up. Communication maybe scarce but the it will only make the feelings fonder. True friends stay. Just trust your buddy.
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29 Sep 09
Friends who are really friends will remain friends even if they are far away from each other. I have friends whom I have not seen since high school days but should I see them again, it's just like we never grew up, the clock did not tick. We keep in touch through Yahoogroups and whenever somebody is in town, we gather together for a quick reunion. We also inform each other through the e-group with what's happening in each other's lives.
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@IMEzekieL (500)
29 Sep 09
I don't think so. In fact, I believe that long distance friendship have a great chance of strengthening the bond between two people. It's like testing them on how strong and loyal your friends are to you and vice versa.
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@biman_s (1064)
• India
29 Sep 09
I don't think that true friendship can be weakened by anything. I was away from my lover for 18 months and we were unable to communicate with each other but when we finally met we realized how much we love each other. Its our love that kept us together and so will your friendship.
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• India
29 Sep 09
really saying now days friend are not that much close to us people use to have earlier. its sorry to hear but its an fact. lets see no as you are saying that you all used to go together to every places when you were leaving close. my dear you were having some reason that's why you were meeting and if there were no reason tha you will not meet regularly so please dont mind but its todays fact. now you are saying that you are living far away that means now you don't have regular contact because now you don't have things to share that's why and as you are saying that may be your relations has weakened that is correct because now days its difficult to maintain relation at long distances as every one in this world are too busy and not able to contact even fast communications are availaibe
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29 Sep 09
I have been away with my best friend for more than 6 years now. She visited me 2 years ago. We still had communication on the net. Sometimes, I can say that she had changed and that I am like facing another person. But, deep inside, I know we still care for each other because we never forget greeting each other on our special days and we always find time to have communication.
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@ella_l (64)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Hello wanghui! For me, once the foundation has been laid, no amount of distance can weaken your friendship. Although, it really helps to stay in touch, you will find out that true friends, no matter how long the time has gone by without communicating, will always be there and will always be your friends. It's like you and your friends are embarking on different adventures, discovering your part of the world. You will realize once you see each other again that it's just like old times and you will continue right were you left off. you will fill-in each other of what happened in your lives. And that brings a nice warm feeling with in you ^_^
• China
29 Sep 09
sorry for my straight words,but I do think long distance could weaken the friendship. Just thinking when you and your friends were at school, you almost stayed with each other everyday. You knowed very well about everything happened to your frinds, your friends too. Without a doubt, you would have many topics which leads a closer relation. But now, you talk less and less, you have differnt jobs, different colleagues, different experiences. Maybe both of you may consider each other be your best friends in heart but the relation is not very same as you were at school.
@Craicha (802)
29 Sep 09
it depends of how you get in touch with your old friends...yah maybe it weakens but thus not mean your friendship is lose...just always keep get in touch..:)
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@shimanaja (495)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 09
Hi there mylotting, There is always consequences for what we want to acieve in friendship. I think friendship will never die if we realy be part of it. Nomatter how friendship can not break down if we have smooth communications to each other.Especially these days of coomunication can be done through many ways, including using mobile phone, cell phone and others. Happy my lotting, hope you are happy with your friendship :)
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• Philippines
29 Sep 09
no,as long as you have communication with each other friendship is there.... like me,my friend live across the miles but since communication is there we feel closeness and nearness to each other.... concern is there and you can feel it...
@zhouxi (1757)
• China
29 Sep 09
No, i don't think so.we can remember every movement in the past those precious time.though we are very busy now.last year our college classmates gathered at a beatiful city after we graduated for twenty years .we suggested that we would gather again after twenty years.so we always have a beautiful dream.precious friendship may be unforgettable in our whole life.
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@ample03 (403)
• India
29 Sep 09
I do not think long distance makes friendship weak. As in this busy world both we and our friends don't have time too much to meet everyday. I am working now after post graduation, but I still remember my old school days and friends I had and still I meet online with them through many social networking sites. In the age of technology, the word 'distance' is going to be obsolete.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
28 Sep 09
Hi there, Two things play roles in distancing long distant friends. First thing, which is universal, is 'out of sight, out of mind'. We remain more close as long as there is physical proximity. As we often see and converse over a cup of tea or coffee, this bonds our relation but when the same person goes away to a distant place and if there is no possibility of seeing each other for a long long time slowly the relation wears smooth and there is hardly left anything that binds you like before. The second thing is that as we grow and settle with family of our own we have extra responsibilities and have least time to keep on interacting with our friend. Let alone long distant friends we would not have time to spare for the ones who are in your vicinity.
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
just depends on how close you are as friends, i don't talk to many i was with at school. those who i wasn't closer friends with i've got more chance of talking to now, if i see them. but most of us have moved away. the person i call my best mate has lived in the city her entire life and we only see each other once every few yrs, but we've know each other since birth, and can pick up the phone and have a good chat. she lives about a 9 hr drive from me, i chat to her more now on facebook.
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