I Want A Husband!!!

@Rozie37 (15503)
Turkmenistan
September 28, 2009 8:09pm CST
I turned 40 years old this past August. I have never been married and I have no children. I have faith, but I must admit that I am starting to get a little nervous. I have made up my mind to wait on the Lord for the right man, no matter how long it takes. But I feel it is taking too long, LOL. I have prayed and worked hard to make myself a better person. I don't know what I am doing wrong. Those in my family are constantly marrying and having babies. When will my day finally come?
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Hi, Rozie, I understand what you are saying, and my words probably will be of little hope to you but continue to pray and ask the Lord. In John it says God's delight is to give us what we ask when it is His Will. Never under estimate Him, He may just surprise you and your wedding may just be around the corner. I will say a special prayer for you now before I close this message and say it is a done deal. God Bless You.
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@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
1 Jun 10
In spite of what was said here, don't give up until you hear from the Lord; You a Christian lady, wait on him; I know that isn't easy I know, but I tend to notice when you least expect something, that's when it happens. So keep working on yourself and praying. Cause all we got on here is advice and nothing else. Peace.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
2 Jun 10
Thank you so much for your response, my friend. When I saw all the different responses to this post just now, I was sure that some of them would not be positive. So I decided to skip to the last one and I am glad I did. God bless you.
• United States
2 Jun 10
Well, I don't like to sit here and dog no one out; you expressed a desire nothing wrong with that; it's just that you got folks who will not support you because of what they went through mostly. there are a lot of dreams deferred and unfullfilled here but you, keep it up. peace.
@irefed (200)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
really? There are lots of ways that you can meet someone.You can chat and have a little conversation by getting to know each other. There are some who get married because of chatting here the net. Just try your luck.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Don't lose hope I think you going to find the right guy for you soon. Don't stop prying and it's never been too late for you. Sometimes yes you will envy to some like me that they are married at our age. Sometimes we find the man who really destine to us it takes time and patience.
@irefed (200)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I agree with you.. I think there is still someone for you wait along your journey..
• China
29 Sep 09
I do understand you well, Rozie. I'm 30 years old this past August. And lots of my friends are married and have their babies. But I'm still single. Once I dated with a guy, I confess I liked him at the first glance. It's said he also liked me. But when I told him my faith, he refused me. How weird! It made my father angry, I mean, my father was angry about my faith. In fact, christianity is not common in China. But now I realize that I must learn how to insist my faith, love others more, endure others even they offend me and change myself under God's help. As you see, you cannot find a man completely same as yourself. So we must know how to get along well with each other. I mean, you have different opinions, habits, etc. And this man will live with you all your life. It doesn't like to relationship with friends or colleagues. Now I'm preparing myself and praying to God for my marriage. I hope I can meet my Mr. Right soon. Let's pray together! And wait for the ones God preparing for us.
@sblossom (2170)
29 Sep 09
I feel sorry for your story. I know what these men think because I’m from China too. However in the UK I found many men don’t mind their girlfriends having children. To them these children are as same as their own children. I have a couple of friends like that. So I suppose you should insist your faith, you also need to open your mind and to see an open world. I’m sure you will find your other half who really love you and the child. Also to Orangejuice, believe yourself you can find your soul mate. However you should move first step to look for him. Best regards to you both.
• China
30 Sep 09
Thanks very much, sblossom. Just one thing, I haven't child. But I will try my best. In fact, I feel my life is changing clearly by God's help. I will keep on my faith!
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
22 May 10
I believe that God will put your future spouse into your life at some point, but I believe that we have to work at finding them and work on a relationship. I truly believe too that God puts people in our life that he possibly wants us to have as a spouse, but we let him or her slip away and later in life even if in a relationship we see that we should have taken that opportunity. God may bless you with a wonderful husband, buthe may require you to work at it.
@kirthy (387)
• India
22 May 10
hi, i will pray for you to get a good husband. all the best
@chiyosan (29911)
• Philippines
5 May 10
Have faith and pray to the Lord to give you the perfect husband for you. Tell him what you want in a husband... and of course, you will also need to go out and be "seen" in order for you to meet the man God is going to give you. You will need to go and find the person with God's guidance. Goodluck, have faith and don't lose hope.
@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
30 Sep 09
If you keep on searching, you will definitely get a good husband. The reason why some people fail in finding spouses is because they do not search properly. When you search properly and with wisdom and awareness, then there is no problem. People feel attracted by like-minded people. When vibrations match, one knows who the best partner is.
• United States
29 Sep 09
I can relate to this even though I am fairly young, as a women 4 years ago the same questions came to mind. will I ever get married, why is everyone around me having babies and getting married. I Started to feel as though something was truly wrong with me. I stayed prayed up and in my faith. and a good friend and I were talking about virtuous women in the bible and how God has a specific plan for each that maynot include marriage or having children and then I accepted that I may never get married one day because of God's will so I stopped worrying and soon after I let it all go God blessed me with my husband. and I say this to you because if it is in his will, you will have a husband and your baby, wait on him and don't worry and it will all be revealed. God Bless :o)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Be careful of what you wish for. Sometimes what you desire is not what you need. To have a companion is rewarding if he intends to respect and love you not for you can give but you are. Find your perfect match and you will not regret a single day of your life. You might also go to a meet. So you can find Mr. Dreamboy.
@mansha (6301)
• India
29 Sep 09
Believe me you didn't miss anything in the end even the married once feel as lonely as you but are scared to admit...lolz. you just have to look at divorce stats and on line help forums an d sites like I hate my in laws or husband r kids. There are too many troubled marriages out there not everyone finds there soul mate and I thought I had but then he had a mom too lolz. I don't think marriage gives you anything but heart ache better stay unmarried have an affair or two then get stuck with one old boorish person.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
29 Sep 09
what about christian dating sites? i know lots of people that have met and married people on there. This could be one way that God could bring people together, dont you think? or try going to different churches to see what sort of single programs they have.
29 Sep 09
Belated happy birthday. I met my husband when I was 29 and knew him for nearly 5 years before we decided to get married. Thus, I got married when I was 34 and got my 1st child the same year. The 2nd came after 2 years. We are married now for 13 years. I'm glad though I got married late. At 34, I had already 10 yrs. working experience, finished my master's degree and have travelled a bit. I was certainly ready to settle down. Now, I am a full-time, stay-at-home parent and have not regretted it. This is a mutual decision on our part. So, don't worry, you will find someone who is meant for you. I didn't look for my husband, he found me. I'm sure yours will look for you as well. If it is meant to be, then it is meant to be.
@IMEzekieL (500)
29 Sep 09
Have you tried joining any dating sites? My 2nd cousin met her husband through Smooch http://www.smooch.com Perhaps you can consider joining any of them. I heard that PlentyOfFish http://www.plentyoffish.com is a good site for meeting people who are looking for partners.
@jellymonty (2358)
29 Sep 09
Girl I'm in the same shoes as you.. I'll be 30 and never been married, haven't had a boyfriend in seven years.. So I gave up and just take one day at a time. Maybe one day when you least expected he will show up. But yeah he's taking his sweet precious bloody time!!
@gohigh00 (65)
• China
29 Sep 09
oh,lady, I am 27 years old lady and I am in a traditional country,where nealy all the female get married before 30. And I don't a stable relationship up to now, evernthough i am 27, but sometimes at night, i am a little upset about my marriage. So, really, I can understand your feeling. I have a faith that girl has her own Mr Right,sooner or later, but to your situation, it takes really too long, really to long, eventhough we make our mind to calm down ourslef. I think there must be external reason,external reason are not so important, but it is a reason, so my suggustion is as follow: 1 Spent sometime on your apperance, including making up your face and dress your self beautifully, remeber, which style is your own style and your beauty. 2 Take part in some high quality social activity to creat more chance for you and your Mr Right. Maybe your Mr Right are look for you as anxiouly as you.He's complaining why you have not come up to now. These 2 are the tips I can think out. And finally, good luck to you and your Mr Right.
@biman_s (1061)
• India
29 Sep 09
I think its time for you to get married now. You can expect Lord to hand you a perfect man, you have to find it yourself, they don't come to you unless you search for them. Start dating and eventually if Lord permits you will find your life partner very soon. I will pray for you.
• United Arab Emirates
29 Sep 09
i don't know why you start discussion here for. i think you want husband from net relationship but i suggest you its not fear. if you await a long time then now be serious without waiting try to find some one. internet is 99% fraud and every thing fake her. i am 23 years old but i have still experienced about net relationship. every person try to fun with other but some time you are serious in this case when you heart allot. i suggest be avoid and take relation with your own family and own relatives.
@shellback (865)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Are you a Christian or catholic? you know its different, its important to know whom do you pray for, if it is in Jesus name, well your prayer got results but if it is for the saints or images you got nothing, so i say it that you must turn on to JESUS.. God bless you.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
hello Rozie37, i understand how you feel sicne you are not getting any younger anymore. but don't worry too much. love will find you in no time. you are still young. i remember my mother-in-law get married to my father-in-law when they were both 41. and luckily they have two children. they were classmates before when they were in high school. try to look in the internet, the niece of my wife foung her partner in the internet. they met in hong kong and after two months they got married. don't lose hope.