I don't get people!

If I could understand people, I could get my own talk show and be rich. I would put Dr. Phil and Oprah, and uhm, Jerry Springer out of business! I only care about trying to understand the people closest to me. I care about their feelings, opionion and beliefs. I also work very hard at understanding myself at times. That's enough for me to handle at any one time

I think a lot has to do with how large an individual perceives his (or her) universe to be. Some people's universes are so small, that they only see themselves as part of it - right at the center. Those people care little for the feelings of others, only their own matter. People whose universes encompass a large part of the world treat others as they would want to be treated. They are less apt to see themselves as the center, but rather a part of.

There are times, when I can't really seem to understand certain people. I have a difficult time understanding not everyone, but certain people. There are times, when I wonder and ask myself questions about certain behaviors and such. But I have face the fact that I definitely won't understand everything or everyone. As much as I might want to, I know that it's impossible.

I can normally figure what motivates the behaviour of most of the people I know personally but casual acquaintances are often more difficult and total strangers impossible. I believe that everyone has underlying reasons for the way that they act. My husband's father became unbelievably difficult to deal with towards the end of his life. The reason was medical and age related but he refused to get treatment no matter how many of us talked to him or what we said. It cost him the company of most of his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. He was okay over the phone so I used to call him every couple of days...which is sad because he lived one block over from us, nextdoor to my husband's brother. If I went to see him, I was being b*tched at within 5 minutes but he was okay with me over the phone.

There are a lot of people and behaviors that baffle me. But, there are probably a whole bunch of people who are just as baffled by me and my behavior. So, I try not to dwell.