Is online friend important

@vingyan06 (2489)
Malaysia
October 1, 2009 6:07am CST
For me, making new friends after I have family and kids isn't an easy job. I got some new online friends from blogging and get some from social net working website. There are important to me where some times I can share some thoughts or perhaps my problems. Do you have any online friends. Are they important to you? Do you prefer to have online friends or real life friend? For me, I think I would like more real life friends than online friends...... Do share your thought about online friends.
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@drannhh (15240)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I think both kinds of friends are important, and in some cases real life friends are also online friends and even vice versa. I have some friends I knew only online for over then years before we actually met and became real life friends. As you see, I am very careful about meeting cyberspace people in real life as there are real dangers out there. But it sometimes happens. It is also possible to have a very good online relationship with family members who live too far away to see in real life, but they are certainly real friends just the same. Sometimes the lines get blurred.
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@drannhh (15240)
• United States
1 Oct 09
ewww, typo. I meant 10 years not "then" years. Some friends I used to play online games with for ten years now visit us in person once a year or so. Funny, though, we don't play the games together any more. Now we go out to eat.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
Hello Drannhh, Enjoy reading your response! So you have some online friends that you guys know each other since 10 years ago, that is amazing. And it is fantastic you guys still keep in touch! Do you think online friends as valuable as friends in real life? For me, that depends on what your qualification and requirement of a friend are. If a core part of your friendship requires them to be physically present then no they cannot. But if the friendship is based on the value they bring to my life via words (wisdom or otherwise), their ability to aid me without having to physically intervene; then yes I can have a great friendship. What's funny is you'll be surprised, if you allow yourself, at how much easier it is to listen to someone you've never seen. Since their vision of your situation is based solely on the information you provide they can only respond to that information. They are not hindered by looks, social status, or other esoteric stimuli. Friendships are what people make of them.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
1 Oct 09
Hi vigyan I know what you mean. It's difficult but happens automatically for people like us who are internet people. I love your blog and read the updates whenever I can. Apart from you, I do have some great friends. Many are part of my virtual home 'mimpidreams'. They have made me feel special in every way, Its such a bliss knowing you all. Life is different, more beautiful. Having said this, its important to maintain real relationships as well.
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• Indonesia
2 Oct 09
Yes, having a friend is fun, wheter it is online or real life friend. Having some one to communicate with you and become you reguller blog reader is also a fun thing. And one thing that you should remember is, sometime we can make our online friend became our real friend if we really meet them. off course take any precaution like always meet them in a public place where there are many people, so you can ask help when they end up doing crime to you.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 09
Hello Mimpi, Thanks for your response! Glad that you have great online friends around and I am happy to have you as my online friend too, ! For me, It is good to have a few closer online friends. I have an online friend who actually stay very near to my place. We did not know each other until we get into the internet world. Now we know we are staying so near and we might want to meet up more often if we want to.
@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 09
Hi Lord, yeah, when we have regular visitor in our blog, we are slowly going to build a good friendship. I can see some blogger or Mylotter are actually getting meet up after they know each other better. For me, I still haven't meet up any online friend. True enough, we do not know online friends in real life before hence we need to be careful if we get the meet up session.
@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
hi vingyan.. it's nice to have friends no matter at what situation ya.. for me, every friends are just as important, and by having them, (just like you) is a precious treasure to me. I do have online friends, and it's actually a good thing to have some virtual person to hear our rants and discussion
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
Hi Cwong! Thanks for your response and happy that I have you as my online friends! I admit my online friends can sometimes do better than the real life friends! Just this happen to me few weeks ago. My real life friend had forgotten my birthday but a few of my online friends and blogger friends get to know my birthday from my FAcebook personal details and they all the birthday wishes flooded in Facebook, LOL. So you think are online friends as valuable as friends in real life?
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@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 09
hi vingyan.. I am glad too that I got you as my friend's list.. I don't think I have you in my FB!! and alternatively, get all your 'real' friend into FB, and I am sure they won't forget about your big day! actually, come to think of it, if someone were to remember your big day, we don't need the reminder.. hehehe.. :D maybe this is due to age factor?
@xiahps (28)
• China
1 Oct 09
hehe YEAH!!I have many online friends too,like some SNS websites FB,MSN live.... I like making foreign friends so that we can have a cultural exchange,or share our thoughts on the blogs,or talk about some interesting things....It's a kind of fun I think.. In my opinion,online friends is not that important,but without them,we may lose some fun....:)
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 09
Hello Xiahps, We have online friends just to have some fun of it? It is good that you mix around with foreign online friends. It is a good way to know more on people from different countries. You can actually exchange thoughts, ideas ... Will you visit your online friends if happen you travel abroad to their countries ?
@xiahps (28)
• China
4 Oct 09
Yeah of course if it's possible!!^^I would like to take a trip to some countries such as the States,Australia,or some euopean countries..etc..hehe
@daliaj (5689)
• India
1 Oct 09
I don't think online frienship is important, but it is nice if you have a few online friends. I have some online friend, but I am not too close to them. Many people wear a mask when they work or communicate online. They don't want to reveal personal details about them and I am also a person like that. I enjoy online friendship, but with certain limitations.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
Hello Daliaj, Yeah, I get to know some people are just doing some hiding on their personal details so to get more online friends.. Of course we need to beware and do be more careful when choosing the online friends for yourself. It is good to set a limitations on so far you go with your online friends. But who knows one day later some online friends could turn into your real life friends.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 09
Hi Vingyan, I also prefer to have a real friends,but it is not easy to have a real friends. Some friends can't be trusted and they even betrayed you one day. There is a need to have a TRUST to establish a pure friendship. I do get to know alot of new friends when I first joined MamyPOko Forum.I even have a holiday with some of them and during my trip to Johor,I stayed at one of the mamypoko friend. They are all very nice person.Although that is our first meet-up,we can chat and get along very well.We are all first time mothers,sharing our experiences and get our kids to have more friends are pretty fun. I do hope to meet up with some of my blogger friends in my december trip to KL.Of course, I hope can meet up with you too.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
Hi Shia, Yeah, it is so hard to get a real friend in life, I mean a trusted friend. Glad that you get so many new friends from MAmyPoko Forum. I do get some NEW friends through blogging. I wish we have the time to meet up blogger mummies and of course It is my pleasure to meet you up!
@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Oh i have online friends, and found out that it's really hard to get real friends on net, but I've found two. We keep chatting and talking for over a year now, one of them then is my boyfriend now, I do trust him cus i know he's a good person. but i still keep my guard on. So whatever happens, i wont get hurt much. =) Hmmm they are very important to me, i learned things from them. And from chatting we are looking forward to meet each other. And i really can't wait. =)
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 09
Hello Ayebelle, Thanks for your response. I have a friend she get a boy friend through internet. And guess what, they have meet up, dating, and end up got married! WHat is amazing is they have 2 kids now, . They are a happy family now. Her hub is a caring and loving person. She is lucky enough to get the Mr Right. So I kinda believe that online friend can become a real life friend. Bu of course not all the online friends can be trusted. We have to be careful when we select online friends. Have you meet your boyfriend in person yet? How do you know both of you have fallen in LOVE? It is good you keep beware of your online boyfriend until you know him well and so to his friends and family. Good luck and happy Mylotting!
• Indonesia
1 Oct 09
Well i do have online friend and real friend. I usually more open about my feeling and my mind to my online friend, because i know they will have an objective opinion about my view. While real life friend, thought is fun, we can be too open because usually of point of view is affect them also. But if i have to choose, i off course like real life friend better.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 09
Hello Lordcaocao, Thanks for your response. I can get to see some people are getting their online friends turn to real life friends. Maybe this is because online friends come in handy where you can easily get new online friends from MSN or social net working website like FAcebook, Myspace or friendster. Any where I will choose to have more real life friends than online friends. Glad that you like real life friends better,
• India
11 Oct 09
hi vingyan06! for me a friend is important whether online or real.the kind of situation you are into or people who are simply not that social may have their wish of having friends fulfilled by the online ones. i do agree the online friendship do sometimes loose their reliability due to the lack of transparency . but i think people can enjoy great companionship online too if they are honest to each other...may be a bit of wishful thinking...but i think i can value my online friends as much as the real ones once i start trusting them and seeing them as honest people.
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• India
1 Oct 09
Hi There, Having online friends is not a bad thing but we can't trust them blindly for all their sayings. So be always cautious while doing something said by them. Happy mylotting.
1 Oct 09
Yes, i love my online friends, and have met a few of them in real life. I think having online friends, is pretty good, you can talk about allsorts of things, and get advice etc. I have friends in the real world too, although, i talk to my online friends more , obviously. I have made som lovely online friends, some, i will have for life.
• Indonesia
2 Oct 09
Well many of us actually talk to online friend more than we talk with real life friend because in the office, when people actually should working, we can still chatting around with our online friend. it is most fun that way, because other will c us working, when we actually chatting. Thought when i really busy, i actually ignore many messaget that my online friend gave me.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
I have many online friends. They are important to me as they practically take the place of my real life friends whom i dont usually get to meet up with. The only problem i see with online friends is that there are more insecurities and more tests on trust. Although videocam can help solve a bit on the mystery on your chatmate, it still is somehow not enough.
• Indonesia
1 Oct 09
Yes, being friend with online friend is kinda trust. Some time you just cant simply trust some one u never met. Well, for me, i actually have my own rules. I only chat with them about something that i will not fear to spread out. I usually talk about general think, or about my feeling. I never talk to them about private data, security number, etc.
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
26 Jan 10
Online friends are important as they help us out in whatever problems we face online.I too prefer real friends than online friends as they are close to me and we always keep in touch through the phone.Mylot was the first place where i got online friends from around the globe.Because i play a multiplayer game online when i feel bored so from there also i have got lots of online friends.Even in social networking sites like facebook i have got friends who i do not know.Internet has made our lives easier in a lot of ways.
@dipak06 (913)
• India
11 Oct 09
i thinks both are important in our life,..of course real life friend are more important and mandatory in everybody's life..i cant imagine my life without my friends..friends means someone with whom you can share your views
@SHAMRACK (8532)
• India
4 Oct 09
Dear friend, It does not matter where the friends is from. For me friends remain important as long as we are friends. I do have only very few online friends among them only one I had seen directly, the rest are still going without seeing each other still for every friend I have is important for me.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 09
Dear vingyan, I personally think real life friends are better. However, online friends are great too... Certain things it is easier to share with those people who do not know us 'personally'. Then the views they gave will be more neutral, no 'bias' element! Online friends are from all over the world. Their views might be more creative too :) For me, all friends are important..every friend is special and unique in the own ways! Be my friend
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Well I am in the middle, I can't seem to open up to real life friends, since I hate to allow people in my home. I feel invaded with I do, so that leave having real friends out. I don't care to give some one outside my home the license to criticize me or talk behind my back about my way of life, taste or anything in my home. I don't need anyone's approval. On the other hand I find myself making online friends and that leads me to want to have them close and at times that confuses me.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Hello my friend They both mean alot to me, but real life means a little more, nothing like talking with someone face to face I have fun when me and my friends get together and laugh and just enjoy each others company nothing like it. Thank you.
• India
2 Oct 09
I have very limited friends in my place. So I have some time to spend it on internet. I like discussions very much. It enriches me with new way of thought & views. So I think its an important part of my life. I have also some friends whom I can only contact through internet. Maybe in my life i will never meet them in this real world. So I don't like to miss them on this cyber world. Hence friends from both world are important to me.
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
Online friends are also important but nothing could equal a friend who you could see and talk in real life. As some online friends never really retain the ultimate friendship and the wording is artificially made unless one have already meet before they becomes separated. So far i been active only in one networking sites and in this sites. as I really have no time to see friends in YM or send them messages. I do hope they understand my absences as I really busy too with my life and work could not hardly cope out to send messages to them except only in special occasion like birthday, christmas, valentines day and new year that I have uses to send greeting or messages from them.