How do you cope?

Philippines
October 7, 2009 2:50am CST
When you are faced with a very challenging situation, there are natural impulses that serves as a response to a given situation. People have different coping strategies. Some keep quiet, some go to alcohol and drugs for relief, others have fun and try to brush the problem away, while others try their best to solve the problem in the shortest time possible. I also know some people who try to stay away from the issue for a while to be able to think. And face the issue of difficulty when he has ready solutions to the problem. My way of coping is staying away from everyone and thinking by myself. When this does not solve it, i start talking to the people very close to me and discuss the situation with them. However, there are troubles that can be fixed alone. How do you cope?
16 responses
@Tom728 (176)
• United States
11 Oct 09
I like to just sit and look at the sky. Sometimes i listen to music but that can make things worse. Exercise is good for me too.
@fifileigh (3621)
• United States
10 Oct 09
i go to the gym to work out and think about it. or go for a walk and think about it. and maybe relax in the jacuzzi. just different ways on meditating for possibles effective solutions.
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
8 Oct 09
Hi barbiejune! My responses are a lot like yours. I am emotional and tend to jump in with both feet. So I try always to walk away from a situation until I can get a better perspective. Sometimes I ignore a problem, but I know in my heart this is no good. I usually talk myself into coping with it within a short time. Ignoring a problem never works, and generally makes things worse in the end. Thinking through the problem when I am alone, and being able to pray about it before tackling it, helps tremendously. Usually I am able to see things from the other side if I do this. On the other hand, a crisis situation I am pretty good at. I can jump in, take control, and get things handled correctly. Then, when it's over, I go off by myself and fall apart! Strange, huh?
@Jhaszy (236)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
well i too do the same..i try to stay alone to give me time to think..then if like i am going to burst,i call my closest friend and verbalized my feelings,it makes me feel better..
• United States
8 Oct 09
It's great that you are mature enough to walk away for a while when you need time to think. There are a lot of people that don't understand why some people do that and try and force an issue to resolve. When that happens things are said or done that leave scars even when we don't mean to do so. It's like being in a fight with a loved one or having a boss at work question on why you did something in the office. The situation has gone by and you sit down alone after the fact and think to yourself, why didn't I say this or why I didn't ask this question. People then tend to go back thinking HAH!!! I got them now and go for round two. I agree that you should think things out alone or collectively among friends when warranted before you address and issue. If that is a common practice there shouldn't ever be a round two on your part and you will never be known at the person that can't let things go, just the one that always wins a fight or disagreement.
@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
actually sometimes when were in the situation already, we dont know what to do and we cant think of the things that can solve the problem itself. ive experienced that one. i have lots of fears, i lost of self esteem and confidence. its hard in my part honestly and i took me a year to face them all. thanks for the word of God that enlighten me and i was able to stand again. and now iam so thankful also that ive experienced it because iam more tough than before.
@Bluepatch (2481)
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Oct 09
Think and pray. The more you think the more solutions appear in your mind and the more you pray the calmer and clearer your mind gets. its an unbeatable combination and it works for me everytime.
@Venus914 (34)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
Im very proud to say that i cope well with difficulties. Maybe it's mostly because i have a great support system. It's humbling to know that whatever i do and whever i go, these special people in my life will always stand by me. They may not like some of what i do and they're not afraid to criticize me and tell me im wrong. But they are always there. It's a nice feeling to know that i'll never be alone. Secondly, it's not just in my nature to sulk. I am pro active. I give myself the room and the time to grieve. Afterwards, i pick up myself and move on from whatever it is. I accept the situation and look for ways to get me out of it or make it an opportunity. During this time, i do not forget to always look good. Life may throw us rocks but we can still look good inspite of it. :-)
@iceydon (342)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
When such challenging situation arise I usually cope by being alone. I jog to have more relaxing hormones run into my veins at the same time thinking of any solution that would be applicable to solve it.
• India
7 Oct 09
it depend upon the situation i have to face. mostly i stay calm and take the situation in a very normal manner as it is not important at all but at the back of my head i try to figure out various solution that can resolve it in a manner that will not create another situation out of it.To me applying ur mind till the extent is the right way to cope up with an issue and this is what i do generally.Also there are issues in which keeping quite and not do anything is the best solution.
• United States
7 Oct 09
To cope with a challenging situation I like to pray and meditate. Of course I do these things on a regular basis, but especially so when I'm in a difficult fix. It helps to relax my mind and empty my emotional baggage. I also end up feeling that everything happens for a reason and works out for my benefit in the end. I can then face the situation with a clear mind and an open heart. Otherwise if I try to face the problem when I'm worried or upset it always ends up postponing the solution. I don't think there is any problem in this world we can't face if our minds are clear and concentrated and our hearts are opened for a solution.
• United States
7 Oct 09
I usually react according to my emotions at the time, but then I take time to think it over. I turn it over in my head, lose sleep over it, then figure it out. Then I adapt, improvise, or overcome.
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
7 Oct 09
I have an ability to lay down, watch television and fall asleep. When I wake up, my head is clear and I can think out the situation. If I am not at home and something comes up that needs to be dealt with immediately, I just deal with it and do what needs to be done to fix the situation. I can always talk things over with my husband if my brain goes to overload. He's very level headed and has great logic.
@gowriv89 (295)
• India
7 Oct 09
Hi barbie.... happy mylotting.... i am very calm in nature... so if i get some trouble which is out of my tolerance level... i will burst out into tears(with no other go).... then the next day i will start thinking what is being the source of the problem.... the third step is fixing it somehow.....(mostly by asking what has to be done to my guy)... have a nice day
• Singapore
7 Oct 09
When faced with difficult situation, I am just like you. Try to be silent while figuring out the solution by myself. It is better if I will be left alone so I can think clearly. Too much distrations will lead me to nowhere thus, I try to avoid people when I am having problem. Sometimes even if they say that sharing your problem to others will ease your burden, I seldom do it. There are few occasions in my life when I did just like that, the matters got worst instead of being ironed out.
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
7 Oct 09
hi barbiejune, well i do manage to cope up by first listening to music to calm myelf down, then smile or laugh but i like laughing better, to give me that push anf feeling of lightness on any matter or issue. then from there i will start to think and see what i need to do and carefully plan how and what do i need to do to resolve my problems. and most importantly, i pray that everything will goes well.