Have you ever been homesick?

United States
October 12, 2009 4:50pm CST
I've been away from home for extended periods of time several times in my life, but I've never really gotten homesick. That is, until recently. I moved away in August, and I'm really starting to miss my family and friends and where I came from. Some days it's just a passing thought of how much I miss them, and some days I want to pick up and go home. Have you been through this before? How did you deal?
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@us2owls (1681)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I moved from England to the USA a long time ago. I was so homesick that first Christmas I just wanted to go to bed until it was over. Now I have a family - children, grandchildren and even a great-grandaughter in Illinois. I married again last year and my husband is English. We are in the UK and I am so homesick I could just cry constantly. I can't wait until I can look down out of a plane window and see Chicago, knowing that some of my family will be there at the airport to meet us. My second great=grandchild is due in early February and I so want to be back home for that. I don't think homesickness is something you can cure any other way than going home. If you do it might take years.
• United States
14 Oct 09
wow, I can't imagine ever wanting to come back to the USA if I ever finally manage to escape....lol...but sounds like you were there a long time and have family, whereas I only have my husband and truly hate it here after 5 years!
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
13 Oct 09
HI Theweerouss, I have been away from my hometown for fifteen years,since I graduated from high school, I went overseas for further study and now I got married and living in another country. I always keep in touch with my parents,my siblings every month. My brother will call me every week. I also miss the food at my hometown.Sometimes, I will bring back some local food from my hometown. I always go back to my hometown once a year during year end,at least for about a month and this coming December, I will be on the holiday trip to my hometown again. Nowadays,technology is so advanced,everytime when I miss my family, simply give them a call or either chat with my siblings online. Our home is always the best!!
• United States
13 Oct 09
I've been homesick only twice in my life. My first time was when I was in the 4th grade and I left to go to Girl Scout Camp for about 4-5 days. It was sooo bad. I was really shy back then and didn't know how I could get along with the different girls there. Plus I hate bugs and we had to sleep in tents in the forest. That was the worst part, it drove my crazy. Finally we were able to stay in the inside rooms so that made me calm down more. It was a fun experience but I just couldn't take being away from my family. The second time it happened was actually earlier this year lol. I went to Kansas City to play in a volleyball tournament for the weekend. I really didn't expect to get homesick since I was with my team. But out of nowhere I really really missed my mom the most. Since I was 17 when this happened it made me realize that I'm not going to be able to go out of state for college within the next year. I hate getting homesick, and I also hate being away from my family. So solution either travel with them or just stay in the same state lol.
@cherrc (666)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
oh yes, been gone for two months! i'm used to being with my family and friends around so it was really hard for me. i kept myself busy. woke up early in the morning, did the briskwalking, cleaning the house, then study. then when i got bored, i went out and saw some bags that i could sell. these are the things that made me busy while i was away. :)
13 Oct 09
I live far away from home, and honestly I don't feel any homesick at all. Maybe because I keep in touch with my family and all of my old friends almost every single day, either via phone, sms, or e-mail. So, I just feel like I'm still with them in my surroundings. And also, my business keeps me even from my luxurious time here, and I don't even have enough time to manage all my stuffs. And I don't even think about missing my home. =) This is the result of being over-busy! =)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Yup, i already experience it on a vacation when my aunt invite me to sleep in her house. i really could not sleep the first days and the number of weeks have gone that i always count the days that I would be back again. Even attending a joyous occasion i could not really enjoy it unless i have a family member companion. Even in the joyous events i feel sad and thus often I hide because i am not comfortable talking to a lot of strangers. Thus, I cried in silent as i really miss my family and decides to fight the loneliness by keeping myself appear alright with my companion. I call them by phone or chat with them on the internet that is the easiest way to kill boredom and homesickness.
• China
13 Oct 09
The problem that u confronted with was a common thing happening to everyone, I was busy this summer and so I couldn't go back home, I do miss my family very much.But the key is that you need to find some new friends where you are currently in now.Then you will have not much time to think of them and it will make you more and more adjust to your new life...
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
I was 12 when i first felt being homesick. I moved to the city because i was on scholarship since high school. it was really sad and i felt like i was forced to cope. but after a few months, i got used to it and i consider it to be a strengthening time since i developed my independence.
@SQD444 (679)
• India
13 Oct 09
i have always been homesick ..though i have been away from my hme for many years still the feeling of being at home is awesome... now am back home and settling down back.. but when ever i am told about going away even for some time i feel really mioserable....
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Well I am there right now we moved from Forida to Suth Crolina I love South carolina an wouldnt move back to florida but most of my family is there an I miss them even though we keep itouch though internet it still not the same
@malpoa (1218)
• India
13 Oct 09
The best part of my life was during school days, and the worst part was during collage days. Iused to study in the capital city, quite far from my home and i wanted to go home after coming to hostel from college!!! It was such a horrible time, I found difficulty in eating, sleeping and making friends in hostel...Initially I went home every week and gradually reduced it to once a fortnight and like that...Now after amrriae I go only once to my hometown in a year!!!
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Last year, August to be exact, I went to Florida and stayed there for 8 months. I left my three kids. I missed them so much. I got homesick. I just tried to divert my attention to my niece and nephew and watched shows from the filipino channel. I was taken to Disneyworld also, hehe...
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Not really, maybe when I was young. ahaha, or maybe when I'm away for too long? I haven't been gone home too long ^_^ I enjoy staying out of my home though, so maybe I don't get home sick too much ^_^
@brisk123 (2826)
• India
13 Oct 09
I lived far away from my native due to my job which often makes me feel very lonely and home sick.Back at home, I have my parents.I missed them a lot,and all I can do is call them up twice a day.This makes me feel little better.
@buping (954)
• China
13 Oct 09
well i think girls alway be homesick. i remembered that before i came to the college, i said that i would never be homesick and would not miss my mom and dad, because i hate them being so strict to me. but when i enter to the college, i missed them so much, and i cried the first night in college for being so far away from them.
@mjweed21 (693)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Yes, I am homesick almost every day. I miss home this mcuh.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
13 Oct 09
i am very much attached to my mom and when i got married and had to stay with my husband and inlaws i was really missing my mo´m and i was just not able to manage and then i had to move abroad and i just had a little child of 8 months with me and my mom use to help me out in taking care of the baby and when i had to move abroad it was really difficult and again i missed my mom too much but later got adjusted slowly and it was fine.
• United States
13 Oct 09
Yes, I have suffered pretty badly from homesickness, but then I made a pretty extreme move! I am originally from England, but my husband is American, so I moved from England to America to be with him. I am happy with my husband but at the same time would give anything to move back home (I have been here 5 years) and so sometimes living with those two things can become overwhelming. What I have learned is that it is not wrong to be homesick. At first I felt guilty, thinking I should hide it and not upset my husband and all of that, and that if I was homesick it mean't I wasn't 'trying' hard enough. But I realized I AM doing everything I need to, I got a job, I got involved with a local church my husband went to, I sing in a band, joined the Y, made friends...and I have made a home for us. I am doing ok. And sometimes I am homesick and thats just the way it is - I sort of felt better for accepting it. I left my own country and it is a normal reaction to miss people and place and my culture, and sometimes to compare things! I am living my life, I am not wallowing every day so I just let myself feel it and move on. Some things that help - talking (or writing)to my best friend or my family at home - it helps to know they are still there and the distance doesn't make a difference to our relationships. Writing about how I feel. Getting some English chocolate and making a cup of English tea...lol Watching some English tv (especially funny stuff) Keeping in touch on facebook. I have made a couple of slideshows of photos to music to show people where I live here. The process of expressing my feelings in a creative way helps me. I hope you feel better and that you have someone to confide in. Good luck xx
@komkri (17)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Oct 09
Whenever I return from my homecountry after spending two months of holidays, I feel homesick. I recollect all those beautiful memories of my family and friends. Just to avoid this homesick, I call my family members daily and discuss lots of things. I involve my self in cleaning and decorating the house so that i can be away from those thoughts. I always deal this homesick by making myself busy in the activities i am very much interested.
• Boston, Massachusetts
13 Oct 09
I am used to travelling local and international to attend conferences and attend seminars from 3 days to two weeks. I can manage homesickness during this period--short period. When i worked in the United States for almost two-years, there i experienced terrible homesickness. I missed my family so much...my husband and kids. How i managed that feeling? I bombarded myself with work. Aside from my regular job as a case manager, i had two other part-time jobs. So, even weekends i am out for work no time for self-care. I missed cutting my nails, sleeping without even taking a shower and changing clothes. That's how tired i am just to forget the thought of missing my family. One day, i fainted in the office and 911 to the rescue. I was advised to rest for two weeks and that made me give up my weekend part time job. Homesickness can break you! Inasmuch as you want to deal with it productively always consider your physical capacity to cope with the stress and the demand of work. Give yourself time to rest and sleep and find time to connect with your family the practical and econmical way.