I gave her another chance ... was it the right decision for me to make?

Bangladesh
October 13, 2009 9:32am CST
Right now i am going through a hard time. I tried to broke up with my GF but it did not happen. And also we are not continuing the relationship as well. The reason is that she asked me to give her another chance for us to be together. And i gave her. The truth is i still feel for her and at the same time i am having difficulty accepting her. But the thing is i don't want to be unfair with her in any way. So i gave her the chance if she can bring me back. I have no hope for this but i am only a human and i can change also. So why not give her a chance for the reason i loved her. May be some miracle might happen. And even if she fails then she won't have any regret. She can say that she tried to work on it but it was failed. But this is going very hard for me & i know for her as well. But i want to know if it was the right thing i did. So please let me know if i did the right thing by giving her another chance? I want the views from different people. Thank you Note: I started another discussion regarding the reason of our break up.
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@maximax8 (27049)
14 Oct 09
I think that your girlfriend deserves another change. Too many boyfriends dump there girlfriend instead of giving her another chance. It is best to forget the past because it is history. Then it is wise to make the most of the present time. It is helpful to think that the future will be happy. Good communication is important in a relationship. Good luck with staying with your girlfriend and working out any problems that you might have.
• Bangladesh
14 Oct 09
It is not about forgetting the past. I forgot this many times but it keep coming back to me again and again. Well there is something that change inside of me. I don't have proper words to express it. Let's see how it goes.
@litianyu (13)
• China
14 Oct 09
i think you can give your GF a chance if you always love her. Sure,i understand your mood because i done. i think that you should believe that if you gave her a chance, that is, give a chance for yourself. i truly wish you do not loss your the best lover.
• Bangladesh
14 Oct 09
Thanks for your wishes. Only time will tell what will happen.
@jemaries (322)
• Saudi Arabia
14 Oct 09
Hi darksorrow!I want to know what's the reason why you want to broke up your girlfriend?Anyway you did not mention, i will make an example.Your nice guy you know because you're giving a chance to your Gf, unlike to other guys they will totally broke up with the girls.I know you really loved your GF because you accept her whatever she does.But if your GF cheated to you, or a have a third party already and you caught in the act, i think its time to give her up, there's a lot of women out there, you deserved somebody that will love you and faithful to you.Its very rare to find a guy like you.Most of the guys they are the one looking for another girl.For my point of view, she's still your GF but cheating on you, what if its you she be your wife, do you think she be faithful to you?You should have pride for yourself.You mention that some miracle happened that you will changed her,you cannot change people for what she is,the only thing you can do is to accept her for what she is.One chance is enough.I hope you can recover with her, you you deserve something better.Goodluck!
• Bangladesh
14 Oct 09
Hello jemaries, Here you will find the reason http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2150265.aspx
@suchi60 (913)
• India
14 Oct 09
darksorrow, You sound magnanimous, but unless you tell us what the dispute between the two of you are, how can we give you a solution to the problem or better still, give you suggestions? I hope you do write in detail so that we can probably answer your question.
• Bangladesh
14 Oct 09
Hi suchi, magnanimous does not fit on me in any way. And i have already mentioned i have another discussion regarding this. Check if you want to http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2150265.aspx
@jbrooks0127 (2329)
• United States
13 Oct 09
There is a saying that apply's here. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." There is one crucial thing to any relationship the absence of will doom it to failure. "TRUST" You clearly cannot trust this woman. Not only once but many times she has done this but come back asking you to forgive. What you don't know about what she does and where she goes is ample reason for you to have lost trust in her a long time ago. I suspect you have caught her an many lies. If this had happened once then perhaps forgivness would be appropreate. Not following many times. Please consider this.....who is the bigger fool here? Is it the one that does what she wants and then talks her way back in or is it you for letting her? Trust your heart. It will not lead you astray. You know, as hard as it is, what you must do.
• Bangladesh
14 Oct 09
jbrooks0127: who is the bigger fool here? Is it the one that does what she wants and then talks her way back in or is it you for letting her? Trust your heart. It will not lead you astray. You know, as hard as it is, what you must do. Nice reply but i am not willing to comment on your reply fully. Just quoting a few lines. I am the bigger fool here. But even whatever she has been doing, i am still thankful to her because she introduced me what is true love. It is the bad part in me which is rejecting her. A part of me still wants her. I am fighting with myself on what to do. This is the hardest time i am facing in my life. Well don't know how and what it will turn out but hopefully everything will go good for her.
@much2say (32843)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I just read your other post. Well, that's a tough one. Your girlfriend sounds like she has a drinking problem and there also seems to be trust issues in your relationship with her. Was it the right decision for you? Time will tell. First, you can't continue as you were . . . there are issues that need to be addressed - they can't be ignored. If the same thing keeps happening and you are both handling it the same way as before, chances are the relationship will not survive. If one person steps up to the plate and makes changes (or at least help the other to make more positive changes), it's possible things could be different. She may want to change, but she is going to need your help. That can take a lot of time and effort - as well as your patience - and it may not be easy. It all depends on what you are able to tolerate. Besides the drinking problem, she doesn't seem to tell you the whole story and perhaps you let her get away with it as well. Open communication is best - and if you can't be truthful to each other - what's the point. Best of luck to you. If it all works out (only if it is worked on), then you know it was the right decision for you.
• Bangladesh
14 Oct 09
much2say: chances are the relationship will not survive. If one person steps up to the plate and makes changes (or at least help the other to make more positive changes), it's possible things could be different. She may want to change, but she is going to need your help. That can take a lot of time and effort - as well as your patience - and it may not be easy. It all depends on what you are able to tolerate. I have no hope but she has hope on us. So she took the chance. Let's see how she works on the relationship. And now it is not about change. Something in my heart changed so she will have a hard time. Even if she changes now it won't matter to me anymore. The damage has been done. Now she has to find a way to heal it or she is free. Thanks for your wishes.
@etavasi (736)
• Malaysia
13 Oct 09
Hello friend, i think u doing the right thing by giving her another chance. Some relation for me it is so sad by suddenly broke up. I know how that feel and it happen to everyone. The right things is give people change and see the result how it going. Also in other way, we must consider our own self too. If u feel it is so hard for you to continue, then stop it before it bring more trouble for you. Other thing you need to consider is how much long already your relation between her. If many year already then you make a right things by giving her change.
• Bangladesh
14 Oct 09
etavasi - f u feel it is so hard for you to continue, then stop it before it bring more trouble for you. Well since i broke up with her and she asked for a chance then she deserves another chance because she loves me. She can do her part to bring me back and if she fails then she won't have any regret. Best of luck to her.