Long Distance relationship works....
By maean_19
@maean_19 (4655)
Philippines
October 20, 2009 10:28am CST
March of this year, my fiancee came back home from abroad because his contract for work abroad had ended. Before he planned to get another work abroad, we both decided to get job offers after my Bar Exams. In short, he supported me all the way for 6 months until he left last October 15.
It is really painful and hurting on my part that he has to leave again and work abroad - miles miles away here. I can't control my tears to fall every night I go to sleep thinking our happy days with each other. Text messages and calls over the phone are not enough to ease the missing and loving.
On the other side, I have to think that we must go on and focus on our work because we both know that the sacrifice is for our future. We made it once, we can make it this time. Besides, our love became deeper and the relationship became more strong.
Share to us your stories....Do you think Long distance relationship works?
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10 responses
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
I am sorry but I am a no-no for long distance relationships. If I were you, I will terminate the relationship so that if one of you falls in love with somebody else, no one gets hurt. If you are meant for each other, it will come to pass.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
I understand what you mean my friend, but it is not that easy to let go of someone you had formed your dreams with. One year will not be long enough and he will be back. I believe more that life is like that, we have to sacrifice at some point. Besides, it is hard to find someone like him. Thank you for responding.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Okay, love springs eternal, like hope. So I will wish you good tomorrows and may you and your beloved soon be together again.
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@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Sorry to hear about that. I know how that feels. I've been in that kind of situation before. Except that I was the one leaving.
The extent of a relationship really depends on the couple. Whether it's long distance or not. Although I've heard a lot of long distance relationships that failed, there are some who actually made it. It's not very easy. Trust and faith in your relationship is a must. Once you lose hope, everything may fall apart. You just have to be strong...both of you...and, I can't emphasize this enough...resist temptations! They are everywhere! That's one thing that destroy relationships...long distance or not.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Wow! So, what happened? Hope u don't mind asking you that. You are precisely right, the relationship would depend on the couple and that trust and faith to each other is a big factor to keep it stronger and lasts long. Likewise, temptations really arise on both sides. I think, that is the toughest challenge which we have to overcome.
Thank you for responding my friend.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
21 Oct 09
Long distance relations do work but it depends on the mental condition of the people and their upbringing. Society plays a major part in keeping couples together and long distance relations are no different. Once you are betrothed and have been brought up to believe in this, there is no way you’re gonna fall for another person. There might be distractions galore and you can slip a few steps but ultimately, you guys will stick out for each other. Also, if you are ready for the sacrifice and for the compromise. Many people think that why should they compromise for a person who’s working abroad…they are correct in their own way, as per their own thinking. So if you feel that yes, both of you don’t mind sacrificing the present for a better future, then yes, long distance relations can work!
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Definitely, like every relationship whether near or far. There are relationships that even when the couple are not far to each other, it will still break for some reasons. Same is through with long distance relationships. As you mentioned, it will really depend on the couple on hos they handle the relationship.
So far, we talked it out about my fiancee going to work abroad. I also have a career here that is why I have to stay. Precisely, we have thought of the circumstances for being far apart and prepared ourselves to sacrifice. Likewise with all the temptations that may arise.
Thank you for sharing your opinion on the discussion my friend.
Thank you for sharing your opinion on the discussion my friend.
@rebaozi (100)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I've been in a long distance relationship.It was really terrible.I'm so lonly.I can't see him,touch him,play with him...It was just his voice across the phone.So after half a year ,we parted as friends.From then I swore I woule never be in a long distance relationship again.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I feel sorry for you my dear. I guess, you cannot bear the situation that he is far apart from you. But on the other side, the love is not that strong because you allowed the distance break the foundation.
Well, that's how you see it. I respect that. Thank you for sharing your opinion and story.
@kris2947 (2)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I have an ex-girlfriend that lives over 2000 miles away. We are best friends now and that says alot. However, she recently flew 2000 miles to see me and we re-kindled that old flame.
We talk on a daily basis, sometimes 3 or 4 times a day and we miss each other very much. Our love is strong and has been for the year we have been apart. She is back home now and we talk of re-locating so that we can be together. But, for now the distance works very well.
If the love is strong, no distance is too great!
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@Emilycyf (61)
• China
21 Oct 09
I can't tolerate.
Communication in internet nowadays is convenient, this, at some extent can relief the troubles caused by missing. But people which are far apart can't make effective communication and solve the problems instantly when there are disputes or quarrels. Short-time seperation can be accepted.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
I get your point. I guess, it depends on how people handle the distance. So far on my experience, we do not fight and quarrel that much. Good thing, we talk it out and resolve things very civil. I guess, it is just a matter of trust, understanding and respect to handle the relationship. It is temporary anyway.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Personally my thoughts on long distance Relationships is that they can work if the 2 people are willing to make it work. They often say when 2 people are apart absense makes the Heart grow fonder so you just need to keep focused and think about them, and yourself and a future you will have when he can be around you again. It is not always easy I am sure, but if he is really the one for you, and you for him then it time it will all work out for the Best. Just hold your head high and time will pass and then you can be together again as well.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
8 Nov 09
Well, there have been several times that my husband and I have had to deal with long distances between us. When we were dating, I went to school for a year in another state. We only saw each other occasionally. Then he got out of high school and went into the Navy. We didn't see each other until the night before we got married.
Then after we were married, he was gone for three months at a time while I was on the base, a year later with a new baby and thousands of miles from my family.
Recently, my mother had a stroke. I had to move in with her to take care of her and my step dad. Hubby had to stay in our home and continue working there until he could find a job and transfer to her hometown. We were apart for 6 months, except on the weekends when one of us would travel to meet the other one.
In two weeks, we will celebrate 23 years of marriage. Our love is stronger than it ever was! So yes, I do believe that long distance relationships can work...if both parties are commited!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 09
Why not.....any relationship will work if both respect the love for each other. Regardless of the present situation,if it is fated to be united in marriage nothing will tear the relationship apart. One need to have patience and strong understanding of the prevailing situation that keeps both of you temporarily separated. It is with this unshakable love that you both share, the sacrifices will eventually be rewarded with a happy ending.
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@mje631977 (29)
• South Korea
14 Apr 10
As much as I want to agree with you but for me, since it happens 3 times already and repeatedly it never works so its much better not to push it because it might only hurt the both of you but if you really love him and you think you can trust him enough then go with what you feel is right....
