Are you simple minded? Does it take you long to trust someone u don't know ?

@voldrox (7205)
India
October 21, 2009 4:45am CST
I believe i am, i am so simple minded that i tend to believe what anyone says is always true, but you know what i honestly believe i need to change, this is not alright, i have been taken advantage of just because i have been nice to people i did not know well, but nothing that big has happened with me but i know i need to be more careful in the future... I dun wanna learn lesson the hard way!, i should take care... So you believe you can trust someone easily? I can and so i am not good with strangers... what do you have to say ? Thank you all...
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@ami2007 (221)
• China
21 Oct 09
honestly speaking ,i am not a simple minded.and i am born so.i always want to have a simpler mind .sadly i didn;t. i guess it is decided when we are born.strangers don;t win my trust easily.it usually take a long time and several tests for me to open my heart to someone i don't know.in this way ,i am quite safe until now.there are disadvantages,that is it makes you feel alarmed and tired all the time.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
21 Oct 09
Hi ami Yes you are right, sometimes i become so sensitive towards small things, i don't like that... that is why i don't open upto strangers, i mean i don't like to share information coz i know i should not, i guess i should be more careful with people, well even i don't open up to people soon, i am a little shy but yeah with time i get close and that is the time when i get to realize the truth, anyways lately i have been careful and i would rather share information only when the other person is willing to start and so i won't be the first one to say about me, i would know more about the person and then i would say things about me... though some people might be uncomfortable being the first one to say just like me but later on things become understandable and then things go well... thank you for sharing ami, have a nice day!
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
21 Oct 09
[b]Hello my wonderful friend You are far from simple minded, you have a trusting nature and you tend to take people at their word, I use to be the same way, your still young you must remember you have many life lessons to learn, this is just one of them, so take this as a lesson learned and do better as far as trusting everyone so easily, simple minded not hardly, you have a great mind, the fact that you realize there are untrusting people out here means you are going to be fine my friend, I use to feel we were all alike and people said what they meant like I do, I learned the hard way as far as my feelings being hurt and things of that nature, but now I know better. Always remember that action speaks louder than words, its not so much what people say that count, its their actions behind their words that makes the difference, don't feel bad my friend. So remember, you are far from simple minded, you have a trusting nature and there is nothing wrong with you, they have the problem, in time they will wish they appreciated you for the person you are. Smoooochessss my friend.[/b]
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
21 Oct 09
Hi Kitty! Nice to see you again how are you doing? wow what a wonderful response my friend, thank you so much for your kind words, yeah i am young and i really need to learn a lot here, it is true we can't keep trusting everyone, i am sorry you had to learn things the hard way, but i guess you must be doing good now, i wish you the best my friend, i will always see you here:) . . . feelings, emotions and trust are not something to play with and some people don't care enough i guess, i will take care and keep my head alert at all times . . . like some say open up your head before opening up your heart, it seems true, this is how the world is, in fact there is one you can always always trust, it is Him . . . don't worry my friend i will always take care and better analyze things before execution hehe... but the good thing is that people who know us and who care find it easy to trust us and that is how i guess i have a nice image at the place i live in, okay i might be a little shy but well i should not be saying anymore coz i am feeling like i am boasting already lol, anyways we both seem to be so similar, thank you kitty for your kind words, have a nice day!:)
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
21 Oct 09
[b]Hello my wonderful friend You are such a great caring individual, your family and friends are lucky to have you keep up the good work my friend, brag all you like you are entitled I love to read what you say, I know you are going to be a remarkable husband someday, just take your time my friend and do what you have to do, never doubt yourself life has many lessons, also watch others you can learn a thing or two from them as well, I avoided so much in my life by learning from other peoples mistakes. Smoochessss my friend. I will be on and off, but never gone for too long.[/b]
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@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
hi kitty and voldrox^^;; how have been the two of you doing? hhmmm...i find myself the same with you voldrox. but kitty, is having a trusting nature different from being gullible? I also easily trust people whom i don't know even if we talk about money so i think the latter one in a way suits my description which disturbs me and i feel stupid
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• India
22 Oct 09
hi Voldrox...u mannn still... Im simple minded but i do take care of myself....i have never been in such a situations. I listen to every people but does tings myway..after what my heart tells me to consider and what not to... do this way...it will surely help....try to be a good listner....only listner Take Care
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
25 Oct 09
Hi sonuherenz! Well i am definitely a good listener, i know it , i can't ignore absolutely anyone, i care enough to listen to everything close ones hav to say but you are right, only listener and not speaker, i fear i say a lot of things when i do that, though i don't get close to people soon but you know, it might take some time for me to open up to people but when i do, i guess i do too much coz i think i already begin to trust them already, i should be careful, very careful. Thanks you so much for responding sonuherenz, have a nice day!
• India
26 Oct 09
Hi Voldrox.. Yes, I have face the same problem...It takes time to over come this problems...and i know, you will surely come up with... Take Care
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
28 Oct 09
Hi sonuherenz Yes i know it is hard at times, but i guess we need to be hard with people whom we can't trust... thank you again you too take care
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Hello voldrox. I believe we have the same attitude. I easily befriend people around me and i don't see anything wrong with it. You just have to exercise your judgment meter when it comes to unusual people. Those people who look suspicious. Again, there is nothing wrong with us. It's more on being smarter than usual. Don't take your niceness away.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
21 Oct 09
Hi Koalapenguin! Hey i am seeing you after so many days, where were you ? Anyways i am glad to see you, hope you keep coming here when ever you get free time, i always try to come here when i am free, lol i say that like that i like i am busy person but somehow stay here longer than i should be coz i have to concentrate on others things as well hehe... anyways drop in like this at times thanks for sharing and have a nice day koalapenguin!
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• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Well i was busy with some short trainings that i wished to be my work. But unfortunately, i failed it. So here i am again. No problem. Take care,
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Oh i am sorry koalapenguin... i wish you best for your future and i am sure you will do great i know!... do come here though when you have free time, i would suggest you concentrate more for your future... all the best dear!
• India
22 Oct 09
Well, I used to be a person who could trust just anyone. Due to this simple mindedness of mine, I had been laughed at by many. But now things have changed and I can't say that I go on trusting just anybody, but I still am good with strangers, cause the one thing that I have learned that I can always trust myself. I trust myself enough, that I can handle most of the situations, and when I can trust even myself then I just keep away. That's it.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
28 Oct 09
Hi raphael keep it up friend, i am sure there are many people out there who would adore you for the person you are, well i can't make friends easily, i look mean and all, ok yeah i am little more serious and it takes me time to open up to people i haven't met before but yeah i believe i am a good person as well, they get to know only after having lots and lots of conversations with me, the only thing is that when i start getting closer to them.. i begin to trust them, i trust people i am open with, sometimes it is these people who kick the sand in my eyes, and so i am more careful and thoughtful these days, it is the way we have to be living in this world, trust should not come easy and probably not trust everybody we know well... all the best my friend. thank you for sharing your views here Raphael, have a nice day!
• United Kingdom
22 Oct 09
In terms of believing what people say I used to be like this and I used to be very naieve but I then noticed that this was getting me into problems so as a result of that I have become hard hearted as it were although I'm still a nice person! I don't easily trust people now, I have to get to know them quite well before I get close and start doing things. There are lots of people in the world that are willing to take advantage of you if you are soft not strong willed. There's nothing wrong with standing your ground and saying no to someone that requests something of you, if you don't feel easy about this then you shouldn't do it. Andrew
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
28 Oct 09
Hi Andrew I am sorry for being a little late here, it's nice to meet someone like me here, i was more shy kind earlier but lately i have also become a 'hard hearted' person, i understand how it feels, but sometimes it just gets a wrong impression on people who don't know us, i guess they don't know we are like this only from the outside and not inside, it is our nature to become like that especially when we meet someone we haven't met before earlier, some people think i am mean just because i look serious most of the time but i guess frequent conversations will let them realize they have had a wrong impression, we are after nice people, just need time to get friendly with people, we are not as hard as we look... thank you so much for responding to my discussion Andrew, it is such a joy to know there are people who understand, have a nice day!
@starluna (10)
• China
22 Oct 09
yeah, i am simple mind ,but it's hard for me to trust a stranger easily , i think maybe it's a person's personality , because it's really hard to change it , or maybe it relates to different life's attitudes , you know ,we often just think things in a particular fixed way ,then you will react it in a similar way ,it's very bad because it's very difficult to chage the way how one look at the world, even a very little unintentional trifles will trouble them for a long time , spoil their mood , so i think you have a very good character , please , do change it , just pay more attention on your safety , and being able to trust is really a very good feeling , i just envy you , may you be happy !
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
28 Oct 09
Hi starluna I am sorry for being a little late for replying to you, thank you so much , yes i have to be careful with people i don't know well, when it comes to trusting someone, it isn't a small thing, if the other person is selfish kind then it could pose a lot of problem to me and people like me, but you know i do take some time to open up to strangers, i take time to make good friends, i guess it is just because i trust someone easily and so i take some time to get to know the person, i have some really good close friends who understand me well and i know i can trust them when i need some help, i have some other people as well i know, they are mostly around only when they need some work done, and when they know i could do it for them, they wander close and act more friendly, this isn't good i know but at least i have come to know something like this happens as well, there are a lot more things i guess i need to learn out of life, and hopefully i will be same... thank you so much for your appreciation staluna, i hope you have a great time here at mylot! have a nice day!
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
If there is one thing about me, I always believe that people are basically capable of goodness. I do give people a lot of chances and I am usually trusting of people. I agree with you that this not always a good thing because there are people out there who are out to fleece people who are too trusting. I guess the trick id to believe in the goodness of people but still maintaina certain level of caution. As you just said, you do not want to learn your lesson the hard way!
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
25 Oct 09
Hi scarletwitch Nicely said... yeah sometimes it is hard but i know i need to take more precautions, chance should be given to each but we should also take care to realize any signs of flaw or faking, there are some people real selfish people out there and we can't let them take advantage of our goodness, keeping that in mind we should be careful enough Thank you Scarletwitch for your nice response, have a nice day!
@lindiebiz (1014)
• Canada
22 Oct 09
i used to be like you but now i know better though i have not had a terrible experience, but i have been a witness to some else plight, you have to be careful so that nothing terrible happens to you. dont be too skeptical but be careful because you think you know someone until the person reveals his true self not to talk of a stranger
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
25 Oct 09
Hi lindiebiz Yes you are absolutely right, i am sorry you had to learn it the hard way i guess, i need to be careful, i should not trust someone just like, after all not each and everyone is like me, i mean always speaking what you really think, there are many backstabbers out there and they are always looking to take advantage out of people like us, and we should identify such people, eh this is what the world has always been like... anyways thank you for responding lindiebiz, have a nice day!
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
22 Oct 09
I think I am simple minded. But I can't trust people very easily. After get along with some one for a period, I can start to learn this person and if he or she is worth trust, then the friendship can be set up.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi zhangfzoe Well i don't get along with strangers well, i don't talk much with them either, i just like to keep things to myself coz i can't ignore people easily and so i too like to know the person well enough. thanks for you letting us know your point of view zhangfzoe, have a nice day!
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
I am simple minded because I want to live a simple life but I can't easily trust someone or especially strangers. I always keep my profile private even to those person I know and not close to me.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi irene I understand it is hard to trust strangers, i tend to be that way too... i can't share any personal details with people i don't know well, especially in a train even if someone tries to be nice i don't want to share personal information and all... thanks for sharing irene, have a nice day!
@rheine99 (16)
• Indonesia
22 Oct 09
I will easy to trust someone that can be trusted :).
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi rheine yes i guess that is true, i trust people easily and i guess some people also find it easier for them to trust me... thanks for your response rheine, have a nice day!
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
I really find it hard to trust anybody including my close friends. Much more to someone I don't know. No way. I have trust issues because I was betrayed before. Because of that I don't trust anyone now except for my family and my girlfriend. shadow41
@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi shadow I am sorry to hear that my friend, learning things the hard way isn't good, i hope this doesn't happen with anyone... thank you for sharing shadow, have a nice day!
@SakuraR (10)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I've always been simple minded, but i try not to act like it. A lot of the people i've met thinks that I trust them on the 3rd day of our meeting O_O There's a lot of backstabbers out there, and I learned my lesson before....
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi sakuraR well small lessons i have also learned but i don't want to take a bigger hit! well, but my friend you won't have to take the big hit, we just need to be a little careful that's all, care not much and also think not much after realizing the person isn't worth our trust. thank you for joining in my discussion sakuraR, have a nice day!
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
It is hard for me to trust as mostly I do love to meet a lot of people be in real life or in online. But i do like to test a person patience if i could trust them that it takes a long time for me to fully trust them without thinking twice..I test patience and perseverance as sometimes being timid is safe that being foolish rushing into something which on the long run could lost its essences.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi neelianoscet Well i guess it is easy for me to trust anyone and so i am not at all good with strangers and people i don't know well, it takes me time to actually talk open with people coz i feel the need to be like that, i guess i test them if they are worth having my trust coz later i can't ignore them easily, it is so weird the way i am sometimes.... i know i have to be stronger, don't have to care for people who don't care for me! thanks for putting you viewpoint here neelianoscet, have a nice day!
@joygracia (1338)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
yes! I`m simple minded. I really don`t think ill against anybody the first time I met him or her but trusting someone would depend upon such person.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi joygracia well we can't think ill about anyone we meet for the first time, but sometimes it is necessary for us to see how the person is, especially because it is not easy for us to ignore people... thanks for your views joygracia, have a nice day!
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
21 Oct 09
i have an issue with trusting people and more with strangers. i only trust a very few people. and one thing i becamse good at well i was growing up is reading people
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi syankee well that is nice to know you are good at reading people, hmm i guess i am getting better at it, i mean i am not good at talking to strangers, and i don't talk much to people i don't know well giving no space for me to trust them easily... thanks for your response syankee, have a nice day!
@solared (1210)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I wouldn't go around admitting that, your asking to be conned...lol
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi Solared, i understand ... yeah if you see that way then you are right but yeah i guess sometimes getting conned really makes a discussion interesting all the more ... thanks for being honest solared, have a nice day!
• India
21 Oct 09
hi...even i am very simple and silent..i don lik speaking much..so ma negative point is that il trust people very soon....i know v shouldn beleive people very soon coz it creates some problems in our life so wile keeping each step forward in life or while taking some decisions,v should be very carefull...so don trust anyone without tinking...have a nice day !!!
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi prakrithi I understand, i trust others very easily so i am not good with people i don't know well, i don't talk to strangers much especially when i am traveling in the train, i am never the one to start the conversation, it is best to keep it to yourself and have a good time enjoying listening to music and all and not bother others much... thanks for sharing prakrithi, have a nice day!
• United States
21 Oct 09
I do agree we have to be careful and I think in some ways I am too trusting. But then I have seen people who don't trust anyone and have become very cynical about people, and I think that is sad too. So I think we should protect ourselves to a certain extent with strangers, but at the same time there is certainly nothing wrong with being a friendly open person - don't lose your openness!
@voldrox (7205)
• India
23 Oct 09
Hi EnglishTeaDuck yes we need to be more careful when it comes to trusting people especially people trying to make out some sort of deal, or even some salesperson, they get to get a hint of you when they have a little talk with you and they start to bug you a lot, when they cross limits i get frustrated and simply tell them i m not interested... i guess i am changing, i becoming more 'hard hearted' i guess we need to be that way at times... not much speaking to strangers and all.... glad to have your response EnglishTeaDuck, have a nice day!