Does it matter to you how others think about you?

Philippines
November 8, 2009 11:15pm CST
Sometimes people can be silly. Really. No matter how you try to be good, they still have so much to say about you at your back. Do you mind? Do you care? Or do you try to ignore?
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15 responses
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
hi there.. i hate people who always watch your back... who couldn't mind their own business... and honestly it kinda irritates me... but now...i don't mind them at all..i cant always please them. im being true to myself and if they don't like the way i handle things up.. they better shut up..heheheheh!rude huh?? but yeah!honestly..i just ignore it so that they will get tired and stop.. and i don't mind it already cause im used to it..lol! all i can say if they being nice to me.. they could always expect my kindness in return to them... thanks!
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
it's nice to know that someone here had change for the better :) keep it up girl!!! even if people have done you wrong, just always be good to them...it's not your loss!
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
gieeeeeeee...thanks friend..lol! i dont know why other people always like to mind other business..heehhehe! and loves talking behind someones back.. we are not perfect!were just humans..duhhhhhh... hehehe! take care! hugs and kisses!..
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
that is very true!!! hope you'll enjoy life even if there are lots of people who tries to mess around!!! *HUGS*
@dpk262006 (56558)
• Delhi, India
7 Dec 09
Hi invisible! You see finding fault with others is the one of the favorite past time for many people. Some people get a kind of sadistic pleasure, when they criticize others and they want to prove that they are better than others. we find fault with others because in our hearts of heart, we want to prove to the world that – “look! We are better than others, we do not commit mistakes like others, and we are flawless.” I think not much could be done about this human tendency. I do not care much about others, what they think or say about me behind my back. I know how good or bad I am and even if my good conduct cannot satisfy others, I cannot help it.
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Owww... You are so right! Indeed! That must be the main reason why people tend to destroy other peoples' lives by saying bad things about them. Just can't help but think on saying to them "Get a life!" But of course, I can't do that. Just so sad why some people talk too much at my back wherein they seem so nice on my face.
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@dpk262006 (56558)
• Delhi, India
7 Dec 09
Hi dear! Please do not worry about those people who talk bad about you in your absence. Let it be. You yourself know that how good and nice your are. If you are really good and behave decently, their saying silly things about you, will not make any difference. Cheers! Keep enjoying your life!
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Yeh, I know.. I have to keep that in my mind though because I forget to enjoy life whenever I hear what they have to say about me. It just hurt, you know! Thanks for the cheers .
• India
6 Dec 09
No it doesn,t matter at all until and uless you depends on them and they are reponsible for your future. Saying something on the back is very peculiar and is always present in this world. It canot be avoided at all and is alwys suggested to be ignored as you are nver sure about their saying. so just be good and honest life would be wonderfull.
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
Yes, you're right, we can really never ignore those people who try to talk at our back... So, like you have suggested, it is better for us to live a good and honest life. So that no matter what they say, we won't be affected too much if the things they say are only lies...
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• India
6 Dec 09
Yes very much correct we can answer to the peoples who talks behind us. we can only reply to those who come and ask staright. if we are going to mind the peoples who talks3from behind we will call trouble to ourselves and gets depressed and even sometimes we cannot move forward and miss the better opportunity, so it is always better to ignore such talks and even such peoples.
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
You are right and I can perfectly relate to what you are saying. I have been living that way. I always think about what others say about me.. And in the end, I get so much affected. While the people who are talking at my back aren't worth to be thinking about... Owww... Now, I know!
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
hello invisiblelady! well, sometimes it does matter to me. i am always cautious to my actions coz i know that what i do might affect my husband's status & reputation... but, i have learned to ignore people who are doing such things. what i just do now, is to be myself and just do what i think is right. i know i can't please evrybody & no matter how good i am, there will always be bad things that they can say about me. so as long as i am not hurting anyone, its better to ignore them & just live my life the way i want it and just be myself... anyway, people like them are just a waste of time and don't deserved to be mind. haha good day!
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
Yep! You're right. And as the saying goes, nobody's perfect... so why do we need to try to impress them? Those people should know that they are not perfect too, right? Haha
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
yes, so don't waste your time thinking what they think about you. as long as you know that you are not doing anything wrong and not hurting someone... and besides, if they keep on talking bad things against you on your back, it is them who were sinned and not you. and most of the time, those people who do such things are worst than we are and they are usually the one who have such issues... yes, nobody's perfect.
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
YES, right! And they say that other people points their fingers on others not consciously aware that they are actually the ones who have that issue.
@olepmis (843)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
People are fault finder most of the time so I just try to ignore what they said at my back because I cannot please everybody. I practice the Golden Rule.
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
That is good. Golden rule must still be applied in our time today. Though a lot of people have been trying to ignore that. I hope that there will be more people who see the advantages of using the golden rule again. It will help us live a peaceful life..
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
hey invisiblelady.. i personally dont mind what other people think.. at the end of the day, you will be the one responsible for your own life.. lol.. so yeah dont mind them º,,,º
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
You are one positive person huh? That's a good attitude. Yeah... Let's hope that we will have the positive outlook in life so as not to be bothered by the people who talks bad on our back...
@VirtGod (58)
• Portugal
21 Nov 09
For some kind of people I don't care for what they think, but I care for what they might say wrong (lies) to people I still don't know or I'm beginning to know and they get a bad idea that doesn't match with the reality. And possibly do not get the proximity or trust I deserve because of those lies.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Yeah--I feel the same way about that. I hate it when other people talk about me especially when they are all lies. Grr!
@maryann7 (17)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hi invisiblelady! well we cannot please everyone. if we continue to live a life based on other people's comment or opinion i guess we would not find happiness and peace of mind from within. who cares what they say about me. what matters is that I am happy. besides nobody knows me better than myself alone. maryann7
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Yes.. You've got it all right! I hope you had a nice life ahead...
• United States
10 Nov 09
Ahhh I'm weird... It matters to me in the sense that I like to know what people say behind my back out of curiousity.. For some reason I just want to know what people have to say about me- regardless of how nasty it may be! But I don't let it affect the way I live my life. Obviously it knocks me down a bit (I'm not made of stone) but I'm not going to change the way I live because one person doesn't like the way I do things or the way I behave...
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Right. I have the same feeling about curiosity. And I hope it's easy to get by when they say bad things about me...but I'm trying to ignore them. I salute you for being a forward person.
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
I have to admit that there are times that I can't ignore it especially when it's too deep that I don't think i'm like that. I, myself only knows the true me, so i have to say that they don't have the rights to judge to the extreme. But there are also times that I just ignore it and don't take it deeply, But I think, being a sensitive person, I always take it into heart of what others say about me, But if it's about physical appearance, then hell I don't care! x3
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Hahaha. Go girl!
• United States
9 Nov 09
I guess people can talk behind my back. I don't like it though. Also, I guess others will just think how they want to. It's OK I guess.
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
Yeah. And to be fair, you'll never like everyone that you meet, too.
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
I don't care. It doesn't matter what they say as long as I know that I am not hurting other people. People will always have something to say be it good or bad so whatever their opinion is, I will continue to mind my own business.
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
Right! Mind your own business...
@bounce58 (17523)
• Canada
9 Nov 09
I know I shouldn't, but I put a lot of stock on what other people think about me. Sometimes, I use it as motivation to be better. For example at work, I don't want anybody to perceive me as a slacker. So I work harder than most. In my personal life, I am trying to learn to ignore what other people think of me. It actually is harder than it sounds.
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
Yeah, you're right. It's really hard to ignore what other people thinks about you. And that is also my problem, that's why i started this discussion. I live in a world that is at the center of some attraction. It's hard on my part knowing that people are expecting too much from me. And i got really annoyed when somebody is talking about what I did, especially when I'm present. But I can't imagine how harder it is when you just know that others are talking bad things about you at your back right? So my father, the ever diplomatic man, always teach me how to do my best on my given duty. Or else, I will fail if I keep on worrying about what others think about me. Yes, it's easier said than done. But I tell you, I really tried hard to impress them-those people-but nothing good comes out. So, I think I better focus on what I'm doing rather than thinking about them. Hard! Really!
• United Arab Emirates
13 Apr 10
I think you continue to do good, dont worry about what others say to you. There are others too who will appreciate your good work, so dont worry those who speak bad behid your back does not have the guts to say to you, and actually they have nothing to say that is why they are speaking behind your back. Dont worry all are not the same, ther are those who will appreciate the good you do.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Apr 10
I think if you do your best and dont appreciate it, dont worry about what people say about you behind your back, they do not have the guts to say anything because there is nothing to say. So be happy and you be your self. Remember everybody is not the same, there are people who have a good word too. So keep up the good work