Have You Ever Lost A Friend Or Loved One To Suicide?

@KrauseHome (31782)
United States
November 13, 2009 9:57pm CST
Some of my co-workers just lost a really close friend of theirs to Suicide. He was only 32 and had a lot to live for. He left behind a lot of people who cared about him, and the mood was quite somber in our room as well. But this made me think and wonder how many here have Lost a Friend or Loved one to Suicide, and what was your reaction when you found out? I hope you did not choose to blame yourself. Personally I have lost people I knew to Suicide, and was dating a guy even who tried to kill himself once in my own apartment. To loose someone close to you by suicide leaves a lot of unanswered questions for sure. I lost a guy I was dating to suicide, and tried everything before it happened to stop it. It was all because of financial issues, etc. and I did try to talk him out of considering suicide and thought everything was OK. But when I found out he actually did kill himself I was in Shock, and disbelief as well. I even questioned it for a long time, but have moved on from this for sure, as it was many yrs. ago as well. Then there is the questions and nagging thoughts in my mind knowing my Mom tried to kill herself only 4 months before she actually died, if she did not somehow succeed in killing herself. I lived over 13 hrs. from where my Mom did when she died but knowing that my sister who lived in the same town never went to see her before she died continues to be a mystery as well. My mom did have a lot of Health problems in the end, and a lot of severe depression. From someone who has suffered from Depression, and suicidal thinking in the past, I have learned to work thru all of this, but often wonder if there is something more that could be done as well to keep so many out there from considering something like this as their next step as well. ~~TINA~~
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@AmbiePam (43588)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I really don't have anything to add to this discussion, but I fel compelled to thank you for touching upon a subject that really needs to be open for discussion more than it usually is.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
14 Nov 09
one of my very close uncles killed himself when i was about 19. no one really understood or knows why. he was the life of the party kind of guys. he was fun and funny, and just always the go to guy. the thought of him being so down and out that he wanted to die really shocked all of us. i will admit that i have thought of and attempted to kill myself when i was younger. but now as an adult with my own family, it is something that i would never ever think about. i would never want to leave my family feeling like why, or what could they have done... what a horrible feeling!
@ANTIQUELADY (36492)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I think sucicide is a very selfish thing to do.. I had 2 step-fathers that committed sucicide.
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
14 Nov 09
yes i've lost two friends to that in almost one year. its sad when i heard that thinking maybe i should have called them more, or gone to see them and tried to talk to them getting help with everything. it's sad knowing someone who is close to you have an illness like depression and they have sunk deep into. i had a nephew who was having issues with depression and his g/f made him come over to talk with me and i talked him getting help. so that made me feel good i could save one life from depression
@katsmeow1213 (28597)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I do know a girl who killed herself. I wouldn't say she was a friend. She started working at Pizza Hut after I quit, but the guy I was dating (and living with) was still working there. He talked about her all the time. She was the type of girl who would sleep with anyone, so I'm guessing she was sleeping with my boyfriend (I did later find out he'd cheated on me a lot, so there's no doubt about these 2). A lot of the guys who worked there really liked her, not sure why, she was annoying and not attractive, and a tramp, I guess that's the part they liked. Awhile later she and I worked together at Home Depot, along with my new boyfriend (who'd eventually become my hubby). She and I bumped heads quite a lot. I remember wanting to fight her over something, I swore if I saw her outside of work I'd fight her, but I don't remember why. I think maybe she'd blabbed to my ex about my current personal life, about the guy I was dating and stuff, because he had e-mailed me at one point about stuff he shouldn't have known. It may have been more than that, or it may have just been that I disliked her that much! Anyways, eventually we all stopped working at Home Depot, and it was maybe a year later we heard she shot herself. She was only like 20 or 21.