Love Triangle...Is The Third Person Wrong???

Personally if a man wanted to leave me for whatever reason, it's best to let him go. There are other fish in the sea. Sure I would be bitter but no point in acting violent and getting myself tossed in prison for a useless man that didn't want to be with me. I think these people who kill just don't think! It's a quick fix to a bad situation. Ya know, the chicken way out! Just do away with the culprit and then kill myself. Makes no sense because too many families are effected by this distored thinking. Violence is not always the answer.

That's really sad. You are right; why should the 'new partner' be shot? The only person to blame is the person breaking off the relationship, and even then, shooting and violence are definitely not the answer. Out of spite, it led to this person doing this ugly deed, IMO.

Well in my case the Ex Husband had plenty of Women he blamed me lol Of course at the time I believed him but no there was only one Person to blame and that was him But hey good luck to him, I have peace after a long time

Yeah it has always puzzled me too.I mean you and your love have some kind of understanding ,she is suppose to be the one protecting your interest and ensuring that you are not hurt not the other person.If I ws to kill anyone it would my love and not the other perosn but I am not into killing anyone.I believe that if my love wants to be with someone else let her go. There are only a few times that I amy blame the other party at least a little.For example a woman is married and he still pursues her especially when he knows that party is going through a difficult period in their marriage.I think that is just wrong

i was in the situation before, i was left by my husband for another woman. younger than me...but my kids told i'm prettier...haha. at first, its natural for you feel like you want to cursed them and slapped, scratched their faces especially the woman. but as days goes by you learned to forgive and forget. now, we're not friends but we're not enemies.

For me it really has to go over a very long process before I can make any decision I have to see to it who really is wrong. I am an open person and I always want to listen to everybodys side in order to determine whom is correct.

I blamed them both when it happened to me because they snuck around behind my back for a couple of years and I thought she was my friend, we even emailed back and forth as she was in another state. I should not blame her but she pursued him for years even showing up at his parents' house a few times trying to get his address or phone number. Well, she finally got him. So I blame her. And there are women like that out there who are divorce or widowed (she killed her husband through diet, on purpose) and go after their former lovers. So you see, it's both their faults. A man or woman has a choice whether they become an adulterer. Nobody deserves to lose their life over a love triangle but I've come to the conclusion that we all reap what we sow and those that break up a marriage will be punished. As for relationships that don't involve marriage, it's still wrong to date while you're involved with another and I think people over react WAY too much when their SOs break up with them or cheat on them. Violence is never the answer.

If your spouse cheated on you I could see being mad at both of them, There is always going to be some anger there but when one just leaves you for anohter.. i cant see being mad at the other person.. it isnt their fault.

I feel sad if it is happened to me but I can't do nothing on it. If he wants to leave me, he never love again anymore. Therefore I don't need to beg or force him to stay with me in the future. His heart is no longer belongs to me. Try to forgive the other, it seems hard. But it is also good to yourself too.

Towards the title of this discussion, yes, for me, the third person IS wrong, UNLESS he/she doesn't know that the other person is already involved with someone else. Coz you know, if they already knew, why is it that they'd love to be in love with someone who is supposedly to be in love with someone else? See how much this love triangle leads towards the word love? They should have some dignity within themselves not to mess with other people's love story. I respect those who had once be a third person unknowingly, but once they knew that they are messing around, they withdrew from the triangle no matter how much hurt it will cost their hearts. However, towards the link posted with this discussion, i feel that the third person is not wrong. in fact, he is not a third person at all. coz the girl had already broke up with her ex months before. her ex should see that they are not destined to be together. if he still couldn't accept the fact, talk it out with someone, even her, not shooting people however wrong he may seems towards his eyes. coz some say love is blind, at time you might be blinded by love, so u should ask advice from other people sensible enough to see it through.

i always believe that a third party has to be blamed in cases like this. if the person doesn't attempt to explore the feelings she/he has felt towards the commited one, there's no reason to belong to the united team..