People that visit you with their dogs??

@ilyzium (1206)
Canada
November 17, 2009 10:22am CST
I wanted to bring this up because we've had an incident recently that really irritated me. Ok, well I first just want to mention that I'm one of the biggest dog lovers out there, just love animals. I have a few friends that will come and visit and bring their dogs which is fine by me. I say as long as they respect my wishes, the animal does not run around in the house, do it's business inside, they wipe up the dirty paws esp when they bring it in from outside. Ok, well we have these family members that get offended when I tell them not to bring their dog. Why? Well, they just don't respect my wishes when they bring their dog over. Just before they arrived one day, I had just finished mopping the floors, when they brought the dog in running inside all excited with his WET, MUDDY, PAWS! It was a storm outside and they didn't think to wipe their dogs muddy paws and they never do? I was not amused to say the least and told them they must clean their dogs paws when stepping inside my home. They were quite offended. Now these people barely parent their own kids much less a dog. What are your experiences with people bringing over their pets??
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8 responses
• United States
17 Nov 09
Anytime our friends bring their pets over, they are very respectful of our wishes. On rainy days, they have even carried the dog from the vehicle to the house. There was only one occasion that I had a huge issue. My husband, myself and my son are allergic to cats. We had a family member coming to visit and I specifically told them that they couldn't bring thier cat. I did explain to them why. Now, the day they showed up my husband got a little sneezy and my son's eyes were puffy. We thought it was because they may have had cat hair on their clothes. They told us that they had decided to stay at a hotel and had made arrangements to have the cat be able to stay with them for an extra fee. They requested that WE pay the extra fee. I told them there was NO WAY. They could have taken then to a kennel or anyting for the 4 days they would be staying. It turned into an arguement and they said they were leaving. When they got up to leave, they started looking around the house. I asked them what was going on and they told my they had to find Charlie before they left. Charlie is their cat!!!! The cat had been in the house for almost 3 hours wandering around the upstairs and we didn't even know it! I had to wash everything and ended up taking my son to the ER! TOTAL DISRESPECT!!! I love my family, but we have not spoken since the episode.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Hello, OMG is all I can say!!! What audacity of your family members to do that to you! How incredibly self-centered can people be? They knew that your family members had allergies and yet they chose to bring their cat to your place and LIED about it! They had the audacity to ask you to pay the extra fee at a hotel and try to rip you off. How long ago did the episode happen btw? That's just horrible that they did that to you and I'm sorry you had to go through that, especially your poor son. I don't blame you for not talking to them for a while, I wouldn't either. Did they try to apologize later on or try to make amends?
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Aw I'm really sorry that you and your little boy had to go through that because of selfish family members. Did they ever try to apologize or sound sincere about it? I wonder but did they ever realize what they did wrong and how it impacted you? Then again I know some family members that are so self absorbed and can't think of anyone but themselves. I would be like you too and hold a grudge about it for a very long time! :(
• United States
17 Nov 09
If they even would have tried to apologize, I probably still wouldn't be mad. But they have never even tried. Her response to me was that I should have been a better mother and noticed the cat right away. I don't like not talking to her,but she has no regard for what she did. You have every right to have your rules and don't feel bad about making people respect them.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Don't blame you for asking your visitors to wipe their dog's paws before coming into the house especially on a rainy day. I do dogsit every once in awhile for one of our daughter's dogs. She is an excellent pet and I really enjoy her. She doesn't wet in the house and is fun. I make certain she stays off the furniture by only limiting her to the upstairs area of the house. However I do have a horror story that made me furious. My cleaning lady came to clean one day with her dog. The dog politely lifted his leg and peed on my good oversized chair in the living room. I about lost it. Then the cleaning lady defends the dog by saying he didn't wet much. I don't take our dog anywhere to visit. Just isn't what I like to do plus I have respect for other's homes. I feel like they invited me or us to visit and not our dog. So you can tell I am not exactly nice about taking my dog to visit or others brining their dogs here. Other pets come in here and smell our animals and that is a call for disaster. I am also a big animal lover.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Hi Carol, Oh you have every right to feel the way that you do about people bringing their pets over. Some people just don't like to bring pets over and vice versa, which is fine. I can't believe a cleaning lady actually brought her dog in to work!? That seems really odd but ok whatever...Well, at least the dog peed and didn't leave a "deposit" which would have been worse, though he shouldn't have peed at all. True, that can be a recipe for disaster when a pet comes over and smells another pet in the premises, unless he's already familiar with the pet. Some people are just very strange...
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
17 Nov 09
I was beyond livid with that incident. The furniture is in great condition and rarely used. Also a light color. She had no valid reason to bring her dog to work. She's lucky I still have her clean for me. I doubt she will ever bring that dog again. If she does, I will have to send them home.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
I don't blame you at all. I would be furious too if I had someone's dog pee on my furniture, and a pale carpet at that! She's lucky she still had a job to go to, because some people would have said "good-bye".
@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
18 Nov 09
i have dogs and i've never brought my pets to someone elses home, even if its a relative. For me though, I wouldn't mind if they'd bring their pet as long as it's trained and as long as they clean up after it. I would not want anyone to bring their pet if it isn't trained and if they don't clean up their own mess. I would also have reservations about having someone elses dog over when it rains because it's messy. I wouldn't do this to anyone and lucky I never had to have experiences like these. If someone would get offended if I said I didn't want them to bring their pet, well, I wouldn't care. My house. My rules. Don't like it. Don't come. Simple as that.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
18 Nov 09
Exactly! I couldn't have said to better myself: "my house, my rules, don't like it, don't come". You're right because when it's raining outside the dog is naturally going to have wet, muddy paws unless it's owner's clean him up or carry him inside to your house. You're lucky you haven't had experiences like that. Hey would you like to have my in-laws? You're welcome to them! lol Have a good day.
@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
18 Nov 09
Oh those were your inlaws you were talking about? Ouch. No, thanks I don't want them LOL. Too bad though cause you're having such petty issues with them. I think it's simple. Don't disrespect a persons home. They're inconsiderate.
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Nov 09
hi ilyzium It depends wholly on the dog, Is he trained to go outdoors or not,if not tell them to leave fido at home as you really do not want dog urine on your new blue carpeting, thanks very much but keep your dog at home. I do not appreciate people bringing their dogs with them when they come to see me as my home is not dog proofed at all. Of course that was when we had our own apartment which did allow dogs anyway.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Hey Hatley, Oh actually this dog is trained to go outside, however I've heard that he leaves "deposits" in the house as well. Well from now on I am telling them that they have to leave their dog at home when they visit us. They say that their dog really is the responsibility of their 10 yr old son, who is not very responsible himself. I just hate having to continuously remind them to clean up their dog when he sets foot inside my place. They should be considerate enough to know that on their own, without me nagging them about it every time. Plus he takes off running in my house after my cat, my cat takes off and doesn't come home until late evening, and all the parents do is laugh about it!! Oh no that dog won't be coming over any time soon.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Almost forgot but that dog is not trained to do anything because his family is too lazy to enforce anything.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I think your friends and family should respect your wishes. They should clean up after the dog. I also do not allow dogs on my furniture and would expect anyone bring their dog to my house to keep their dog off my furniture. I do love dogs and other animals.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
18 Nov 09
Oh absolutely dogs should be off your furniture, and also not getting their wet, muddy paws all over your floors or carpets either. Well, their dog doesn't go on my furniture, but he gets his wet paws all over my floors, chases after my cat. The last time the dog was over, he chased me cat through the house to the outside balcony. Well the cat had enough of being scared and jumped off the top floor of my balcony! I'm glad the poor thing didn't break any bones because of my idiot in-laws and their dog!
• United States
17 Nov 09
I have a friend that can bring her pet into my friend house just because she is a lap dog! I find that very unfair. As long a they clean up after there pet, I have no problem with that, as I too love animals. I think your friends are wrong, they should respect you wishes, because you are kind enough to let them bring their dog over in the first place.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Yes thank you I so agree with that! Not everyone likes animals in their home, and I am one of the biggest animal lovers out there, providing that people follow my RULES when they come to MY house. Well these are actually my in-laws that are selfish, and I think if they can barely discipline their kids, how are they going to discipline their dog? Well how does your friend feel about having someone bring their pet into her home? Is she has a problem with it herself, she should lay down the rules and tell them that it's her home and respect her wishes.
• United States
17 Nov 09
I think dogs just like children should be under control when you take them visiting someone elses home. You have to do more than you would normally do in your own home. I have a friend who when she comes over gets very offended when I say no dogs on the furniture she says she is allowed to sit on the furniture at her home. I say that is fine but in my house no dogs on the furniture. My poor dog always looks at hers with a look like why do she get to be on the couch when I can't. After they leave my dog tries to do and looks at me as if to say why can't I do it. I am at the point where I am about to say she can't come over and bring her dog if she won't obey my house rules
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Hello, I can't believe the audacity of your friend to deliberately disobey your rules and let her dog sit on your sofas! That's terrible and yes you have every right to be upset at your friend. You should do the same thing as me and tell her that she can't come over if she doesn't RESPECT your wishes. I hope you won't let her continue with her rotten behavior anymore. I also won't let these family members come over with their dog any time soon. Good luck.
@laglen (19782)
• United States
17 Nov 09
I agree with you. Dont mind if they bring them but make sure to clean up after them. I have three dogs. We do not take them to other peoples houses, they are too messy. They are huge dogs and that is just rude to expect somebody else to put up with them. But people seem to think that since i have dogs, i wont mind cleaning up after theirs.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Oh yes that would be a lot of working lugging around 3 huge dogs to your friend's place. Exactly, and if you did bring them along, you certainly wouldn't expect others to clean up after your dog. See that is sooo rude, other people expecting you to just clean up after their dog. I hope you told them not to bring their dogs over if they're not going to clean up after them?
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