Outraged!!!!!!!!!!

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I am moving. That is that. I am so very, very angry about my circumstances here that I could just puke. Before I say anything, you should know that my father has displayed crazy tendencies before this (hoarding control freak, who I suspect is just a tad schitzo....seeing as he likes to create and believe his own twisted reality). I have been working on getting my autistic son who has been diagnosed with aspergers syndrom on social security for a while now. When I brought the idea up to my dad a while ago he went completely nuts, and demanded that I not let them "label him". You see....as much as I try to correct him, he believes that autism = retarded. So I politely conceded, and continued to work on my sons social security in private. I am 29 years old, and I am the childs mother and legal guardian. It is really none of my fathers business what I do in regards to my kid's wellbeing, as long as he is well taken care of; and, he is. A couple days ago, my dad called me to rant and rave (can't have a conversation with the guy without yelling and criticism) about my son's upcoming dental appointment where he will have to be put under to do the work, because he is so afraid of the dentist that they can't get anything done. My father has taken it upon himself to make this appointment with his own chosen dentist, then insisted on paying for it (a tactic he often tries to use to endebt me to him) even though I told him I definately don't want him to, and I am working on insurance for my son, and I can make payment arrangements if necessary... I can afford to do this on my own. He insisted that I can't then went into a harrangue about me not applying for heating assistance yet and not going through social services to get him approved for medicare, or whatever. I told him there are other things that I need to get straightened out first...you see, we make too much money to qualify for that stuff, and I don't feel that we need it anyways because we are doing fine. So, he proceeded to yell at me about how irresponsible I was being for not doing EXACTLY as he says; so, I told him...I am still going to put the kid on disability, and that is that. All will be taken care of, please trust me to take care of my own family and worry about your own affairs (entire paycheck being garnished by IRS). He freaked out, pretended to have a heart attack, threatened to blackmail me with Social Security, accused me of ignoring my son (hence the inability to properly communicate), accused the schools of not doing their job right (again because he can't properly communicate), called his pediatrician a "witch doctor" for helping me get my son diagnosed, then accused me of running out of patience with my son, and therefore having him deemed "retarded", accused me of taking advantage of my kid for the money, insinuated that my current fiance would hurt my kids (NEVER!), and tried to use his fighting with my mother and their divorce (when I was 4) to hurt me. He has done the last one in the past; he has used my mother, my grandmother, my son, himself, and my current fiance to try to hurt me emotionally, just to get his way. He had also accused me of having munchousen (sp?) syndrom...I should have bailed then. He meddled (up until recently, when I found out) with my child support payments from my kids father. He claimed that my ex refused to deal with me directly (not true...now I know, cus I called him and asked), and that he would take the checks from my ex and ferry them over to me in his stead. That turned out to be utter horse poop. While my father was busy playing monkey in the middle with my child support (also to try to control my income), what was really going on, is that my ex was wanting to go through the state for child support, instead of the private arrangement that we had, due to him having another child with a woman who is being less that cooperative with him. The guy is going completely broke trying to manage the situation, and my dad was trying to keep him broke to try to control his situation, and therefore control him, too. I have had enough of this crap. I am hurt, I am offended, and I am moving. Thank you all for listening to my rant....I certainly feel better.;)_