What is your opnion?

@krajibg (11939)
Guwahati, India
November 23, 2009 8:31am CST
Life is meticulous. I had a friend who introduced me with mylot but ironically he is my foe. To elaborate he introduced me to mylot but because of some misunderstanding he has now become my foe. Now tell me if I should continue with his referral or create a new account as he is my now foe would still be benightedness my income. He would be profiteered as mt referral and hence I do not that fellow to have income from me. What is your opinion?
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
23 Nov 09
I'm not really sure that I could ever envisage a scenario where a friend of mine ever became a foe to that extent I can however put myself in your shoes and understand your dilemma right now BUT if you were friends in the past, it must have been something really awful which has now divided you. Is there absolutely no chance that you can reconciliate? Isn't that what friends do? If you do decide that there is no turning back then weigh up all of the situations. Realise that you must first delete this account before opening another and that you would lose earnings and your referrals, assuming you have any. Think carefully my friend but, most important of all, please do not abandon us!
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• Philippines
23 Nov 09
i agree with our friend here that it is not that easy to leave an existing account an create a new one. there is some kind of attachment that has been developed through time between the account and the account holder. also, it is just some form of gratitude to keep on allowing the person to receive his portion of earnings because he did exert some time and effort introducing mylot to krajibig. however, the final decision lies with you, krajibig. i just hope that you will not allow yourself to drown in your anger. time heals even the deepest hurst after all. give your wounded heart a good amount of time to heal before ever executing such a plan.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
24 Nov 09
I CAN understand how you feel Rajib If I was that person and had decided not to give you anymore tasks (for whatevere reason), if you were in my downline I would not cancel you from my friendlist. I do not see the point in doing that at all. This personis still eatning from you. I have a different way of treating referrals, especially here. Having a downline should be teamwork so that both parties get the best of it. I respond and comment on any activity made by those in my downline, spurring them on to post more (and therefore earn more for both of us). Your upline (as I would no longer define this person as a friend), at this point now that you have explained, is wrong for having cancelled you from their list. This is a decision that onky you can make myfriend. If the fact the they are going to be earning from you posting is going to bite at you for the rest of your time here then Ican quite understand that you feel like startung afresh and I might feel the same way too. It is a very difficult decision. Others before youhave started again but you will have to start from the bottom again so weigh up all the pros and cons before you make a decision. Put aside anger. Only you know whether you can bear this situation in future or not
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@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Was he in the wrong? If so, you should continue to let him use your referral. That is a sort of revenge, where he profits from you every day as he resents you. He is forced to think of you and when he spends the money you have a hand in it. Most of the things we argue about are petty and small. Taking additional measures to hurt our "enemies" only diminishes us and makes us smaller and more petty.
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi there, Yes that is a noble way. Eating from the income of an unwanted sort of enemy is too mean and it further proves his meanness. Thank you. If you please, please do read the details at Diana. I could write or copy pate here too but it felt not so nice an act. Please do not mind.
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@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
If it's a way for you to have peace of mind then go ahead and start with a new account again. Although you can be grateful that he introduced you to mylot since you are not in good terms anymore it's better if you create a new account and start from scratch. Cheers!
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi there, Yes this is my choice whether to stay back go get go. But would you be still grateful after reading the account that I have typed at misdianait, response no 6? If yes I am with your thought.
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@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Before you decide on whether to create a new account or continue with your current account, weigh first the advantages and the disadvantages and what's more important to you. when you create a new account it means you will start from scratch and if you have referrals they too will be gone. When you're new, you will not earn as much as you do now based on reputation rankings. on the other hand, if you continue with your current account, your friend will keep on earning a portion of what you earn. And it's really not that big. If you look at it closely, you will still earn more. The bottom line is, if you start with a new account, you'll have peace of mind because your friend will no longer earn a portion but in the process you tend to loose more, that is your ranking and your referrals and your earnings. If i were you, i would just stick to my current account and continue posting, and forget that you're someone else referral. but it's really up to you. Good luck on your decision. Cheers
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi ybong, Very well wrought calculation. Did you read the account anyway? Now I am thinking on reverse way and lets see what outcome it bears. And thank you very much for all these.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Nov 09
if you don't mind starting over and giving up your points and everything... I guess I'd feel the same way. I'm cheap though. I'd wait until after payout. :-)
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi dawn, why should you be cheap? i am still contemplating. Lemme see what my little brain calculates.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Nov 09
Oh I just mean that I wouldn't give up the money I had earned. But more out of principal really, since I don't need the money.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Whatever suits your liking. If that person has really become your enemy to the extent of apologies won't change anything, make a different account which would not benefit that enemy of yours.
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi ratyz, Now have reversed my thought. Just curious- suppose you were in the identical situation and you deleted that friend but still enjoying the referral income? I would not do so. No gentleman does so I guess. So if he still relishes on my earning just imagine how mean that fellow could be.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
If you make a new account, you'll have another fresh start with the site. If you just delete him among your friends list but still be under his referral, you'd still end up earning a little more. Like that I said earlier, if you want to make a new account, do so. Just make sure about your decision. Is it really worth it or you have already established a good account? If it were me and I have not yet established a very good account, I'd just make another one but, since I do happen to have some referrals and I do have some friends here in this site that start up interesting discussions, I might as well continue. So what if the one who referred me here earns from my hard work, fine.
@meapas (2434)
• India
23 Nov 09
I am really shocked beyond words. Am I really reading a discussion by my good friend Krajibg? Such an action will really put our education and upbringing to shame. Are we going forward or backward? Is this an example we are setting for others to follow? Well I have no right to ask you to continue or discontinue under the same account but if I were in your shoes I would continue under his referral though I may not be as friendly with him as before. Let bygones be bygones. It is for mere mortals that Jesus Christ uttered even on crucifix "Oh God forgive them for they do not know that they have sinned." And a mere mortal said something sublime "To avenge is honourable but to forgive is divine".
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Well meapas, This is life. If you and me come to a mutual conclusion to say let the bygone be bygone here things are beyond repair. just imagine what mentality one could bear if he/she is to delete friendship from his/her list? But I am not changing account now. Let the sinner shed sinned tears.
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@meapas (2434)
• India
24 Nov 09
Well I can really feel your pain and understand your anger because I have been in such situations before. Any way thanks for not closing the account.
@cream97 (29168)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Hi, k. You should stay with myLot. Don't quit because of your personal feelings for this particular person. This person will earn their own money as your referral. They would receive any amount out of your own personal earnings. Don't quit on what you have worked so hard to accomplish.
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@cream97 (29168)
• United States
23 Nov 09
They won't receive any money earnings out of your own personal earnings.
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi cream, No friend I am not quitting but was contemplating of deleting this account and opening another. But now I have started thinking on reverse action. Might be I would not get out of this account. Thanks for the response and concern.
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@MJ_Dakota (126)
• United States
23 Nov 09
I think you should keep your existing account. You signed up with the referral from your friend/foe and that is that. Many people sign up using referrals of others they do not even know. Referral income shouldn't even be an issue when you just lost a friendship, but that is just my opinion. "Treat others as you would want them to treat you."
@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi Dakota, You are right. Why should I bother about how a friend turned enemy or to say a gentleman would be receiving the referral income and go on feeding on it? Only a mean fellow would do that.
• United States
24 Nov 09
Not necessarily a mean fellow, but also a hurt fellow. I just wanted to help you refocus that hurt from a destructive thought to a healing thought. You have tried to contact your friend and he has refused. Really, the loss is his, not yours. Money can help us to survive and buy pretty things, but money cannot buy love, true friendship or trust. And those are the "things" that are needed for peace, balance and happiness. MJ
@MAllen400 (830)
23 Nov 09
Is the misunderstanding so bad that you cannot eventually put this behind you and become buddies again? I think that if you cancel the account you are also telling him that there is absolutely no way that you are going to be his friend again. Keep the account open and even tell your friend that you are keeping it open and then perhaps you can sort things out. Good luck
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24 Nov 09
Hi that being the case then I am sorry but I would change my account so that I did not earn him a penny.
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@bettydeng5 (1709)
• China
23 Nov 09
When he introduced you as his referral person, he intended to earn referral bonus from you. In my personal opinion, if you registered another account,will it affect your payment? Because you have sent so many discussions on mylot, if you registered another account, first you need to confirst your benefit. If you really don't as his referral person, then register another account.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
23 Nov 09
yes friend I must be grateful to a person who help me or introduce me to a new world. But it not means that he is everything to me.
@tuyakiki (3026)
• India
23 Nov 09
Hi Rajib!! Nice to see ya after a very long time.... You may create a new profile when things are not working well with you and your pal.Why should he earn profits from your hardwork?This is not fair,especialy when he is not co-operating. But try to keep in contact with your network,I mean,other members who are helping you with earnings over here.
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi tuya, Nice to see you too. Very practical thinking is yours. Since one is my hardcore enemy why should I let him enjoy my earning. But mean people like him might not mind. So thinking of maintaining status quo.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 09
Mylot is just like one big family. There is no permanent enemies in mylot unless you take matters too personal. Professionalism and maturity should be the guiding force whenever we are in a heated debate. Your own mindset is the deciding factor whether to severe the ties between you and the person who benefits from you directly. If starting all over again frees you from the bondage of this person and makes you happy, I don't see any reason why you should remain as someone else referrer when that person is unappreciative of you in helping him.
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@krajibg (11939)
• Guwahati, India
24 Nov 09
Hi The relation has already been severed by him and I am still open to receive even after he deleted his friendship from my friend's list. Are not we human and are not we prone to pain and insult?
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• Philippines
23 Nov 09
from my point of view, it is only proper that you keep on with your account. after all, it was that friend before and now no more who put in some effort at making you know about how mylot is. it wouldn't hurt your income anyway if that person receives what's due him. as you keep on doing mylot, you receive everything that is due to you. at the same time, he gets what is due him. it is only fair and square. by the way, don't bathe so much on the grudge that you have against any person, it is not good for your health to be so hateful. be forgiving. you may no longer be friends, that's fine, for as long as you are neither enemies. be just acquaintances. good luck in life, dear friend and happy mylotting.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
23 Nov 09
Hi rajib You are right life is meticulous. In my view you continue what you are doing. Let him feel but before open an account please close the old account.It will help you for future. What do you say. Raju.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
24 Nov 09
No I would just keep going and not worry about it at all, my Referral used to be a Friend to but I never see her now or anything but it does not bother me I just keep going it makes no difference at all to me that she is earning a bit from me I would just leave it instead of starting all over again with a new Account
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• China
24 Nov 09
hi,krajibg! keeping using your present account brings that guy some earnings,using a new account instead bring yourself some losses.you are very clear about these. so just pick up the one more important for you. and that is my opinion. have a nice day!
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@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
24 Nov 09
So when you reconcile you will want your old account back. Are you really willing to start again because of a quarell
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@celticeagle (118280)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Nov 09
I think that is totally up to you. If it were me I definitely cancell my referral to him and start my own account. Why help him if you are foe? If you want to then do so. Why should he have your income and have that opportunity when he has been unfair to you? Just my opinion.
• India
24 Nov 09
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@madie8008 (209)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 09
First of all, I am sorry that you have a foe now, I hope I don't have one because I want to live a peaceful life. About this referral system, I don't understand whether the one who introduce us get the money we earn or from other allocation of myLot earning. I hope myLot has a good and fair system about this.