Are you a control freak?

Oh dear, you sound like my mother! The difference is that although she likes to be the one in charge and driving at all times, she doesn’t actually have a driver’s licence which makes her the most annoying back seat driver in the world! I have stropped my car and asked her to get out and walk once and she’s stopped doing it to me now but my poor dad still has to put up with her! She has to be control of everything. Her house is like a spotless show house. I suspect that she is really insecure and by keeping everything and everyone in line she does not feel the anxiety of her insecurities. I have no idea why you like to be in control because everyone is different; I think it uses up so much energy that could be better spent having fun...

Hi, bounce58! The only control freak I am is to my children. Since they can't make decisions on their own, I make the rules and therefore I may control what they do and don't do. Since they can't think for themselves, I will have to make sure that they are doing what is right and not wrong. I don't control them in a harsh way, just in a loving parent kind of way. I don't control others, that is not in my nature.

I don't think it is so much being a control freak as having confidence in your own driving ability. Let's face it, we all have different driving styles. One of my five sons is a very capable driver, but his style is so different from mine that I find I am watching all the way - but I am content to let him drive. When my husband is driving (almost never) I tend to hold my breath the whole time. When I am a passenger I can relax completely with some drivers because I have confidence in their ability, but with others I watch the whole time.

I'm a control freak but I really don't think I'm that bad. I don't offer to annoy people by trying to drive their cars and stuff. That's definitely being a huge control freak. There is a point where it becomes too much and you have to just let go and let someone else do something for a change.

I think that it is just a driving thing. You said you got anxious and restless when others were driving on the way to San Francisco. Now with the other point, I think it is just that you don't feel comfortable driving with others, not that it's a bad thing or anything. I can be a bit of a control freak, I know that I can be so I won't even bring up any examples. I will say I am trying to work on that though.

Hey bounce, I don't think it makes you a control freak. A little paranoid maybe?..LOL..just kidding. My husband is one of the least controlling guys I know. Until he gets in a car with other people. He drives a big truck for a living and he prefers to be the one behind the wheel, most of the time. He does however love rollercoasters. Were you ever in an accident or almost in one when someone else was driving?

hi bounce58 I had a friend like that, when she sat in the front seat beside my husband she would automatically put on ' the brakes with her foot and do other manuevers too. it was'evident she was uncomfortable with someone else driving her car. so on the way back she took over the driving and all was peaceful again. I don't think its a control freak thing,its just that you are used to your own driving and get nervous when others drive.some people are like that,they like to drive and are comfortable with their own driving but not with others driving. he he.

I cant say that I am a control freak but I do like to have everything in my life under control.I really dislike it having no control over my own life but I do not like controlling other people.

That's more like abbsessive.

Being a control-freak could be a good thing or a bad thing. I think you being a control freak in driving is actually great because your friends could just relax on their seats while you travel for so many hours but I think it's not cool if you want to drive their cars especially if they want to be the one driving it. But your experience isn't actually that bad. Some control freaks just annoy people and could possibly turn them away. So i think your case isn't that bad, but you just have to learn how to control yourself.

bounce. you are right in one way that you dont want to take a chance and to risk yourself, the other thing is you dont trust and scared on others driving skills.. not to worry this is not a bad sign because im also the same as you.. how long the drive maybe or how irritating.. i will drive and wont let others to do that.. because i cant relax sitting next to them while they drive.. but sometimes i compromise(while travelling in trains and flights).. good or bad.. continue the way your doing.