It's MY time to stop smoking!!!!!

Stop Smoking - Stop Smoking For Life
United States
December 8, 2009 7:27am CST
Oh WOW mylotters, do I need some advice and suggestions on this. Myself and hubby have decided that it is has come the time in our life to lay down the habit of cigerette smoking. We have talked about it and came up with a date to stop. We have chosen to do this on the Jan.1,2010. Yeah I know you probably are thinking that everyone starts a new years promise but never keeps it, well Im going to give it 100% to keep my promise to myself. So you may be asking what can you do about this. I need any tips,tricks,suggestions and lots of support. I know that I have a few days left but I thought I would get the advice now that way I can keep a journal and make it my bible to live by when that days gets here. I want to say thanks in advance for any help that you can give mylotters.
12 people like this
42 responses
@rakhii (1302)
• India
8 Dec 09
u can have chewing gum as an alternative. my hubby is also trying to quit smoking but its really hard job. I would also follow this discussion if i could get a better idea
2 people like this
• United States
8 Dec 09
Hi rakhii I wish him the best of luck. I know that my son also use to smoke and he quit because of the cost of it. He had a very hard time doing it but he did get thru it. I like the ideal of chewing gum. Im going to jot that down so that I won't forget your tip. Thanks for sharing and have a good day. Keep Smiling.
1 person likes this
@laglen (19783)
• United States
8 Dec 09
I have no suggestions :( I tried to quit once and ended up divorced! You can do this tho. Good luck and use each other for support. Do not sneak, and be honest!
1 person likes this
• United States
9 Dec 09
Oh wow laglen I don;t want to get divorced...LOL I just want to stop smoking. Are you married now and do you still smoke? If you aint married and want to quit smoking then join me and gabs on here. We are going to do it together. The last distance way. Thanks for your thoughts and have a nice evening. Keep smiling.
@anyket (106)
• India
8 Dec 09
hii rosepedal , i am going to tell you something whicjh you will find very hard to believe.but trust me its true. you can quit smoking by simply reading a book.this books name is "The Easy Way to Stop Smoking: Join the Millions Who Have Become Non-Smokers Using Allen Carr's Easyway Method (Hardcover)".the best thing about this book is that u are supposed to smoke while you are reading the book and by the time u finish reading u will completely stop smoking. you wont even need to use your willpower .it is too easy.but just if u dont believe me you check out this link where people have given their reviews about this book.i hope u will check it out. http://www.amazon.com/Easy-Way-Stop-Smoking-Non-Smokers/dp/1402718616%3FSubscriptionId%3D14H876SFAKFS0EHBYQ02%26tag%3Ddomediscchrim-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D1402718616
1 person likes this
• United States
9 Dec 09
Hi anyket I will have to agree that it does sound strange a bit. But you know what I am willing to try another at least once. This is something that we have to do. I will check into the site and see about getting the book. I will let you know and everyone else how things work out for us. Have a nice evening and as always Keep Smiling.
@shellback (865)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Good decision, thats a very nice things i heard this day, keep on the run to go on changing your daily habit, you gain nothing about smoking but only illness and promoting bad breath, lol, have a nice day, happy mylotting..
• United States
8 Dec 09
Thanks shellback LOL..Yeah the breath has become an issue with me. When I noticed that I would put a mint in my mouth before going into the store or some place of business was my first clue that I didn't like it either. Thanks for your thoughts and have a great day. Keep smiling.
1 person likes this
@carmelanirel (21113)
• United States
29 Dec 09
You have a lot of suggestions, so all I can do is tell you how I quit. I used the nicorette gum and alternately used it with chewing gum, (this was before they decided to poison us with aspartame in every chewing gum there is..), and I starting dancing to get in shape at the same time. I also have heard eating carrots, especially raw, helps to remove the toxins in your system..Also I prayed a lot, knowing only God can help me in the long run..I hope this helps, it has been 7 plus years and I no longer cough and run out of breath as easily, plus I don't feel nearly as old as I am..
• United States
29 Dec 09
That is my problem is feeling older than what Im really am. I also am getting tired of people telling me that I smell bad..LOL Thanks for sharing and I hope that I can do this. Keep smiling
1 person likes this
• United States
2 Jan 10
a piece of advice, if you don't succeed, don't give up because it took me years and many tyys to finally give it up for good..You can do this, just don't loss hope..:)
• United States
4 Jan 10
Thanks..I really needed to hear this...I have started on the path and today has not been good at all. I just cant seem to control my urges..Thanks for your thoughts. Have a good day and keep smiling.
1 person likes this
@aerous (13482)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
I think you should stop smoking because that is really a danger for health. Have a little discipline with yourself to stop smoking but if don't have that I don't you can stop smoking. Because if you have discipline with yourself you can stop smoking...Because you can suppress yourself when you see someone smoke...Do it my friend not just a promise
• United States
10 Dec 09
I think that my biggest problem will be the habits of lighting up. I am working on changing the habits now. Then on the first it will be about the addiction mode. I will have the discipline that I need. I will report back and let you know how things go. Keep smiling.
@aerous (13482)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
Okay, I appreciate how you doing in your life. just go on do it without any hesitation or doubt, my friend. You can do that and yes you can stop smoking...
• United States
11 Dec 09
Thank you for having faith in me. I will do the best that I know how to do. I will promise that I will quit the smoking..I have made that promise to me. I havent made a lot of promises to myself. I intend on keeping this for life. Keep smiling.
@derek_a (10905)
9 Dec 09
As a therapist I have counselled many people and helped them to quit smoking. The most powerful technique you can use is with the imagination. For instance..,.. Imagine every day as often as you can, how much healthier you are going to get from quitting. Follow that up with taking some regular exercise and watch as your health improves. Share with others how much healthier you are going to become. And how much wealthier you will become. Imagine what you can do with a month's worth of money you usually spend on smoking. Good luck. I am sure you will be able to quite OK. The more you share, the more real it becomes and the more likely you are to be successful.. - Derek
• United States
9 Dec 09
Hi derek Hey you might be the guy that I will yell at when time gets tough with me. If that is okay with you. I know that it is going to be hard and Im going to need all the support that I can get. I will do this no matter what. Thanks for the tips and I will put them to good use. Keep smiling.
1 person likes this
• United States
10 Dec 09
Okay derek You say never to ignore the craving. I think I know what you mean but not real sure. Let me tell you what I think and if that isn't it then let me know. When I have a craving I should allow myself to know it and talk myself out of it. I really appreciate your help. I have started cutting back now. We have what we call a bed cig, which we smoke one while we talk before turning the light off. I have removed the ashtray and there will no more smoking in the bedroom starting tonight. Keep smiling
1 person likes this
• United States
10 Dec 09
Oh derek You have put so much time into me now thru this discussion. I greatly appreciate your help. I know understand what to do with the cravings. I know that I will need more help as the time goes. We are still focused on the 1st. I guess it kind of a celebration day for us. You know a day to remember to celebrate other than the national day. I know my husband made a remark last night...I hope we don't try to kill each other during this time..and should I get a cot for the gargage for a few weeks...LOL I think we will be okay. I think the support system will play a big role in our recovery.. Once again thanks and I have you listed in my journal for a support contact.. Keep smiling.
• United States
8 Dec 09
Hello rose, I just quit smoking back in July..it was something I had to do for my own health issues. I am a severe diabetic and was told by my doctor when I was 24 that if I didn't quit smoking I wouldn't have 6 years so I knew I had to do it. It took a few different tries within the past three years but I finally was able to quit a few months ago. First thing is you have to be sure that both you and hubby quit because it will make it so much harder on the other if they are still smoking. Second there is no real secret you have to just want to do it, it is more about the will power than the actually doing, if that makes sense. You have to consider things like your health, your kids health, and your check book. i didn't realize the real effects until I quit and was away from it for awhile and now i can't believe that myself and my children smelled like that every day. When I am near someone that smokes now the stink almost takes my breath away and makes me want to hurl. Now of course there are those times when the smoke still smells good and there were the times when there were so many cravings but there came and went and after you pass through them you get that almost achievement feeling and it make sit so much easier for the next time and then after the first few weeks you start feeling so much better that you just don't want to go back. You can do this rosepedal you just have to put your mind to it and put your heart into it. Best of luck to you both.
• United States
9 Dec 09
Hi froggie Thank you very much. You and some of the others was the reason why I started this discussion. I needed to hear from ex-smokers and their stories on how they did it. I also needed the encourgment that most have given me. I will have another discussion on my progress when that time comes. I have my mind set to do this. My husband does too but he just said that he doesn't think that we can quit cold turkey and I told him that we had to. Im not going to let him back out of it and I know that I won't either. We might kill each other..LOL.. but the end results will good for both of us. Thanks for sharing and Im glad to hear that you a trooper in quit smoking.. Keep smiling.
• United States
9 Dec 09
Rose, I forgot to put in the last part that the way my husband and I did it this time and it seemed to work this time was we cut back for a few weeks and then it made it a lot easier to quit once we set our minds to it. I smoked about 1/2 a pack to a pack a day and I cut down to about 5 or 6 then down to 3 or 4 and then one morning we just woke up and that was the last day...quit at night if your going to do it because if you smoke a bit then try to quit in the middle of the day it makes it harder than if you were to wake up not having one that whole day . If you start cutting down now you should be able to quit "cold turkey" by the date in January. Gum, lollipops and hard candies are the best to crunch those cravings
• United States
15 Dec 09
Hi froggie Sorry that it took me so long to get back to you. I somehow have overlooked some of the responses on my page. I guess it is the age thing getting in..LOL I know we have been trying to cut back. I do good for one day and then the next day I smoke just as much. I now know that it is going have to be a cold turkey deal for me. Have a great day and thanks for your suggestions.
@rayes520 (37)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 09
Hi Rosepedal, I going to stop your smoking habit ? That's good idea, I have stopped that around 3 years ago, even a got relaps sometimes. Why you wait for next Jan 1st, why don't you stop it right know, I'm sure you will postpone or even cancel your will.Because you will think there are anotherday to quit !! It was happening to me too. My advice is stop it right know, stay away from ciggarete !!
• United States
10 Dec 09
Hi rayes We decided on this date for us to stop. I need to get my mind in that frame and hubby likes the ideal of it. Beside that you hardly ever hear of someone keeping their New Years Resolution. So we will be the odds out. I will prove that resolutions can be kept. Keep smiling.
• Indonesia
11 Dec 09
That's ok. I have something you can try, it's work for me. Before you go sleep, try to make self affirmation tell to your self " I'm not smoker" over and over again until you really sleep. Good luck.
• United States
12 Dec 09
Hi rayes Sorry that it took me some time to get back to you. I like that way as well. I do believe in affirmations and have even told others to use them as well. I will do that and also will tell myself to this all day long as well. Thanks for this tip. I will try.
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
10 Dec 09
Good Luck with your adventure. I know it will be hard but with your mindset you will be able to do it. Think how much money you are going to save every month from not smoking. It really helps that your husband is going to be supportive and trying this decision with you. Look at all the people that lose more weight when they have others doing with them then by theirselves.
• United States
10 Dec 09
This is true. I can see where the support system can be very helpful with each other. I know that on the first Im going to have a smoke free cleaning day on the house. The ashtrays are going into hiding and the no smoking signs going up on the door. So see I have a plan in action..LOL Keep smiling.
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
10 Dec 09
You have to have a weekly posting so mylotters can cheer you on. Besides you are getting paid for cheers what better way to get support?
• United States
11 Dec 09
Hi hagirl Hey I never looked at that way. I will keep everyone updated on my progress and feelings that I will be going thru. Thanks and have a nice evening. Keep smiling.
• India
9 Dec 09
Well, I have decided do many times to quit . But never got success ... You stop it for six month and then please post another discussion about that ...I think that will help me too much in believing myself ... Thanks ... :)
• United States
9 Dec 09
I have asked some others to join with me on the quest of stop smoking. You are welcome to join if you want to. I do have all intentions of keeping my readers up to date on my progress. Make your date to stop the first too... Keep smiling.
• India
9 Dec 09
I will try sincerely ...
• United States
10 Dec 09
That is good. I will try and find you when the first rolls around.
@jennybianca (12919)
• Australia
9 Dec 09
I probably should give up smoking. I have tried a couple of times in the past. Once, was when my first husband was terminally ill and I gave up smoking. I used the nicobate patches. It lasted 6 months. After that it got so stressful with his illness, that I took up smoking again. Over the last 2.5 years, my smoking became much worse, due to the domestic violence at home. i Finbally got my husband to leave, but of course now he is trying to get a share of my asetts. So my smoking continues. Good luck with your efforts to give up.
• United States
9 Dec 09
Hi Jenny Im sorry to hear that you things have been and still are going rough with you. I wish you the best of luck in the near future. I once was told that we all think that a cigerette is our nerve pill. Which I found out that it actually makes us more nervous. By saying that why don;t you join me on the intended stop smoking day of the first of month. We can support each other. Thanks for sharing. keep smiling.
1 person likes this
@jennybianca (12919)
• Australia
10 Dec 09
Thast is a very kind offer. Dont think I can at this stage. Ex hubby and I have just started propery settlement and its going to be traumatic. We can keep in touch, I will request your friendship.
• United States
12 Dec 09
Jenny I wish you the best and if things get too bad just remember I can be a good listener and am just a PM away. Have a great day..Keep smiling.
@zed_k4 (17641)
• Singapore
9 Dec 09
Way to go. I'm sure you will be able to keep the promise to yourself 100%. I read somewhere that there are 2 methods, really. To go slow or totally go cold turkey. I think a journal to record your smoking activity is definitely good and it's better to start at something than just doing nothing about it. I'm all up for it; good luck to you.
• United States
9 Dec 09
Hi zed Thank you for the this information and thoughts. I have written in the journal the times that I lite up. Im now working on that by waiting a little longer to lite or just do away with that cigerette at that time. Then on the first of the month lay them totally.
1 person likes this
@zed_k4 (17641)
• Singapore
10 Dec 09
All the best to you.. I hope you will really be successful in quitting smoking.
• United States
9 Dec 09
I stopped at 40, 17 years ago; used a patch for about a week then 'cold turkey'. Every once in a while I still crave one.
• United States
9 Dec 09
Oh and don't be discouraged if the 1st time does not work took me six tries over 7 year span, started at 33.
• United States
9 Dec 09
Yeah I was talking with someone the other day in the store. He said that he had quit 25 years ago and if he is around someone at times he thinks that the cigerette smells good to him. He said he then remembers the lack of energy that he had at that time. I know that when I quit I will remember me the way that I am today..Nope don't want to go back to that for sure... Keep smiling.
@ticuso (127)
• Mexico
27 Dec 09
Well the way I did it was: I was my own head shrinker, I had been trying for some years and you know how people scare, well one day I was driving and came very close to getting into an accident in the rain after I came out OK I was going to lite up... don't forget I had been smoking for about 35 years! so that's when it happen, I was alone and I said to myself you going to lite up? go ahead you deserve it! no I'm not and again go ahead no I don't need to and so forth and I never smoked again I just suffered for a year and a half after that no problem. For me smoking never did bother me I didn't feel any better I could run taste smell just as I do now but was starting to get expensive! I haven't smoke for 14 years and don't forget I didn't have any will power it was a little trick from the Brain!
• United States
29 Dec 09
To trick the brain...A neat ideal. I just might have to try that. I have been day coming up this Friday and hope that I can get thru it. Wish me luck. Thanks for sharing and I like your ideal. Keep smiling.
@TazRes (829)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Hi Rosepedal64, I have now been quit for 4 months, and what worked for me was when I got saved, and made Christ Jesus my Lord and savior, prior to that I've tried several times with no success. And I thank GOD every day for it. Before this I have smoked for over 30 years! Good Luck to you and your hubby I will keep you in my Prayers. Happy Holidays to you and Yours!?
• United States
20 Dec 09
Thanks Taz I really appreciate that. I will probably have to do alot of praying for me and hubby during the first month for sure. Well I hope that God remembers me..LOL Have a good evening and keep smiling.
@kanebase (12)
• China
13 Dec 09
wow...it is you...i respond you before...are you child???? why talking about Smoking...it is an adult's matter..I want to make friends with you..please add my msn:kanebase@hotmail.com
• United States
14 Dec 09
No Im not a child....LOL... I am 45 years old female. My avatar is my grandson.
@MsTickle (24587)
• Australia
13 Dec 09
I will tell you the best way to do this thing...it is truly easy. Get hold of the book "The Easy Way To Stop Smoking" by Allen Carr and read it. I promise you, you will stop. I have told several people about this book and they have stopped smoking. You will too.
• United States
14 Dec 09
Oh Thanks MsTickle I will see if I can locate that book. I have all intentions of doing this. I will need all the help that I can get. Thanks for sharing that information to me. I will check it out today. Have a good day and remember to smile today.
11 Dec 09
A chap called Allen Carr has written some brilliant books on stopping smoking. You literally just read the book and then give up. His success rate is very high. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0572032919?ie=UTF8&tag=howtocrocinst-20&link_code=as3&camp=211189&creative=373489&creativeASIN=0572032919
• United States
12 Dec 09
WOW THanks for that information. I will check into that and possible purchase his book. I'm glad that you have told me about the book. That was something that I never thought about was the a book. Have a nice day. Keep SMiling.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
10 Dec 09
Personally, I do feel it is not advisable to come to an abrupt stop as of a certain date. From what I know, it is better to be progressive. Try reduce the number of sticks by one or two per day for a week before doubling the reduction the next week or possibly a fortnight. This is to overcome any withdrawal syndrome which makes quitting difficult. Occasional puff is fine after one has successfully quit the smoking habit.
• United States
10 Dec 09
When it comes to me I don't want that one puff every now and then. I don't think that would be a good choice for me. Once I lay them down then that is it for life. I believe in my heart that I will be okay to just stop. I have tried the cut back and it never worked out for me. I would smoke less one day and then the next day I would go back to normal usuage. I can't do that. I am cutting out now some times that we smoke to help a little along the way. Keep Smiling.