Do you ever feel Blue during the Christmas Holidays? What do you do about it?

United States
December 13, 2009 10:31am CST
Sometimes I find myself feeling a little blue during the Christmas holidays. My Daddy died on December 18th in 1997. I still have a hard time getting through some days as the date approaches. I try to stay busy and now that I have a 4 year old grand daughter, it helps with the feeling of depressions and the blues. My ex-mother-in-law is having a hard time dealing with Christmas. My ex, her only child, died in April of this year and she is not acknowledging Christmas. All I can do is invite her to be with our family. Have a safe and wonderful Christmas. God Bless You All.
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@BART78 (2933)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
since my wife started working abroad, christmas for me is a blue holiday, though i'm used to it but i'm still longing to my wife..we usually talk online but nothing can compare the feeling if she's around me..
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• United States
15 Dec 09
Thank you for your response, BART78. I know you will miss your wife. You are right about nothing comparing to having your loved one with you. Merry Christmas. God Bless You.
• China
14 Dec 09
sorry to hear that. maybe time can lead you to walk out your shadow.
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• United States
15 Dec 09
Thank you for your response, yylkmi1986. Time does heal. Merry Christmas. God Bless You.
@drakesuyat (1064)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
my wife got hired in singapore only last october and its a 2year contract. she cant have a vacation leave yet this christmas so im sure we will be feeling blue. its the first time that were gonna celebrate it without her. but still, we can use the internet to chat with her on ym and feel like she's around with the help of cam. thanks to the technology
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• United States
15 Dec 09
Yes, you can do that, drakesyat. It won't be like in person, but you can at least see her. What a wonderful idea. Merry Christmas. God Bless
@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
14 Dec 09
oh dear, so sorry to hear about that. i would say young children really help in this case. i know my daughter brings an enormous amount of cheer to her grandparents. wishing you a meaningful christmas this year. take care!
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• United States
18 Dec 09
Thank you squaretile. You are right that a child brings good cheer to the family. Merry Christmas.
@dmrone (751)
• United States
13 Dec 09
Hi! Yes, i do get blue during the Christmas Holidays. I would say the reason why is because things get so hectic during these times, and things have not felt like they should havefor several years now. I enjoy spending time with my family, but the holidays have just seemed like a drag lately.
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• United States
18 Dec 09
Thank you for your response, dmrone. It seems that we work so hard getting presents and just the right one for that special person. The reason for Christmas seems to get lost. Merry Christmas
• United States
13 Dec 09
I am very sorry to read your blues today. I do hope it gets better for your family soon. I use to feel blue this time of year. Because I always buy gifts for other.s and I get nothing. This year will be no different for me. Except I have a new year to look forward to. I got back in touch with my ex of years. Now we are together again and starting over. The best part is he will be starting the new year with me. I do hop you feel better soon.
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@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
13 Dec 09
First off, i am sorry to hear that. I don't like christmas. Not because of the holiday but of past experience I had in a certain place. EVery year, my aunt makes a party at her house and when she invites, it's like an obligation for me to go. When i tell my mom that I don't want to go, she would be angry. Everytime i go to their house, it's like I remember everything that hapenned in the past. I stay quiet in my own and play with the children to pass the time. the husband of my aunt did bad things to me for three years. One day when i was 15, we went to visit my aunt and I went in the basement to play with my cousin. I remember sitting on a bed reading a comic and suddenly the father came and wanted to do something. I kicked him in the stomach and i ran upstairs. Eversince, I hated coming to that house. I swear that it is the last place i want to go. The elders know about this but they still want me to go because they want the family together. When i spend christmas with friends, I feel more happy and i do enjoy it very much. But every year, I have to go there for christmas or my cousin's birthday. There's no escape to it.
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• United States
18 Dec 09
Thank you for your response, ladysakurax. I feel so bad for you. I know it must be a difficult thing for you to do every Christmas and birthday. Pray that God will give you the strength to get through it. Merry Christmas. Happy Mylotting
@flagella08 (5069)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
that's a sad experience. anyways, i did some of the things that just not left me feel blue during christmas. i don't like that too since people are obligued to spend and to the extent lend oney from others just to celebrate.it's not practical anymore.there are times that i want to be alone with my immediate family but my mom and dad won't allow that. she wants us to be all intact during that time eventhough we're not all in good terms.it seems that i need to face them with fake smiles and i hate that. i forgive them already but i just don't wanna meet them in person.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
13 Dec 09
Hey sweet! Many people feel sad during the holidays and I am one of them! I don't know what it is, but I have always felt kind of sad. Maybe it's because it is the end of a year that has not gone very well and the beginning of another that is going to start our with the problems from the preceeding year! There are many different reasons that people feel sad during the holidays. I have my health that is not too good, but know others who are worse off and my mom who is turning 80 this year, and my friends and my boyfriend who I love very much. But, even with all that I have I still feel blue! I am trying to get myself into the holiday spirit even thought this year I have lost some people who I have cared about~ Have a wonderful Christmas to you and your family too!
@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
13 Dec 09
I am so sorry Sweet that this has happened And I guess it must be really hard on both of you but look at the happy and joyful Face of your little Grand daughter and let her help you to cheer it up a bit and also for your Ex Mother in law A Child can ease a lot of Pain and bring much happiness with its innocents and happiness I do get like that but only because I miss my Children being small and seeing their happy Faces on the morning of Christmas at 5am lol But that is just me being sentimental I guess Merry Christmas to you
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
13 Dec 09
First off, just wanted to say im sorry for your loss and whole sad story alltogeather. But i think all of us get a bit blue (not to say even depressive). Well , i know i do. Im 23 year old Crane operator from Croatia, and i have two kids Iris (2,5) and Antonio(4) and its very hard to provide all the things they see in comercials, that describe Christmas as something that i cant afford. At that point, i cant describe you how i feel, but still , im happy for all those that enjoy Christmas holidays, and i wish you, and all readers here nothing but the best for holidays ahead ! Cheers
• United States
13 Dec 09
I'm sorry you are still having issues w/ your father passing. I know those feelings come back from time to time though we do what we must to continue on with our daily lives. That was nice of you to invite your ex-MIL.... she must be very hurt especially since they say it's difficult to bury a child no matter their age, as the parent is to pass before the child. I think the best thing to do is to talk. Even if you talk in such a manner on a forum as this or the alike. Just getting your feelings out makes a world of differance just as someone compassionate enough to listen w/o judgement.