Mutton Dressed as Lamb

@suesan35 (479)
Sri Lanka
December 29, 2009 12:05am CST
My friend and I had an argument recently about women of a certain age, meaning past their 50s, and 60s and even 70s dressing like teenagers. My friend stated that as long as they had the body of a teenager, it does not matter what they wear, whereas I said, no matter how good their bodies are, you could always say they were past the age of freshness by looking at their faces which had lost the dewey look of the teenager; by their arms and necks which had age spots and wrinkles and to me they looked rather silly by trying to dress like teenagers. What do myLotters think? I invite honest comments from both males and females.
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@MrNiceGuy (4147)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Hahhaa. Great thread title! I agree with you. It is not only awkward to see but I think its a bit inappropriate. I can understand the pressure women feel these days but it should be known that you can grow old with grace.
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@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
30 Dec 09
Hey Mr.NiceGuy: You are the only guy who opted to answer. You said it all. Sadly, I have seen guys poking fun at elderly women who try to look like teenagers. I dont mean the elegant ladies who dress youthfully and smartly or even trendily. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. However, most myLotters do not seem to agree with me. But I respect their personal views. thank you for your response and have a nice day.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 09
This is a nice discussion. You think that people (especially aged ones) should consider their looks, while your friend believes that everyone must have the rights to dress as they want. I myself am 51, and sometimes I forgot my age and tend to choose clothes that are too young for me, but thank God my son always reminded me. I do consider my looks because I'm still working, and my work demands meeting a lot of people. You know, first impressions do matter, in my country. But I guess there are also other women who doesn't have to care about her looks because she's alone, or her family also dress that way.
@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
29 Dec 09
Hi Godmother: You have a good point there. Children do tend to feel embarassed when their parents act or dress in a way different to their friends parents etc and take the safest way out by asking the parents to dress "normal" I know of several children who select the clothing their mothers should wear when coming to school etc. Children do keep us in our place Godmother and a good thing too. But I guess it all depends on different circumstances. thanks for responding and have a nice day.
• Australia
29 Dec 09
A favourite line from a favourite song of mine is: "The people round they said for years, he's acting like a kid. But I never knew I could not fly, and so I did." What young people need to understand is that a great number of older people are still 20 in their minds, with the same desires and needs of a younger person. If they are happy with dressing young, or trying to ook young, whose business is it but theirs? I, for instance, am 65 and have my hair half way down my back. So what? I'm comfortable with it. The ones I feel sorry for are those who think they have to "act their age", and give up their youthful outlook, grow old and miserable, and die unhappy. Lash
• Australia
29 Dec 09
".... ook young"? Oh well, perhaps I'm a librarian. Lash
• Spain
29 Dec 09
With you there, Lash. My husband is 18 years older than me at 75, but he has the outlook of a teenager. Neither of us try to look young, but we're always told we don't look our ages. It's our optimistic outlook on life that does it, I think. Youth is wasted on the young, isn't it?
@JAG2009 (268)
• India
29 Dec 09
@grandpa_lash: That line you quoted is so beautiful..."..I never knew I could not fly, and so I did.."I just had to take a moment and tell you that coz it brought a smile to my day:)
@srganesh (6349)
• India
29 Dec 09
It is only the cine actresses who dress like that even in their old age like a teenager.And there can be common people too dressing like that.But why should that disturb us?Every individual has their own rights to dress in a way that they like.Some old people dress like that and say that they feel confident and strength like young people.If they can be active like that they will not be a burden to anybody.
@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
29 Dec 09
Thank you srganesh. You have given me a new perspective to think of. Every individual has the right indeed. It also depends on your region and where you come from. The west is very broad minded when it comes to fashion whereas the South Asian countries are more reserved in their way of thinking and clothing. Since I'm from Asia, our people tend to look askanse at briefly drssed middle aged ladies. Hence my argument. However, I appreciate your views and thank you once again.
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
30 Dec 09
I am also from Asia and I am an Indian,your adjacent country.Well,fashions are different and the view towards it are also different in different countries.Yet,I think every individual has their own rights and style of comfort.By the way,are your country middle aged girls dressing that much sexy?I mean to ask whether they are interested in exposing themselves?
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 09
I had my fair share of fashionable clothing when I was in my youth. At my present age I don't think it looks good anymore to dress like a teenager trying to look young again. It is unbecoming of women in middle ages to wear miniskirts or bodyfits just to compete with the younger generations. They end up looking more like a wh9re than the the long gone youth that they are still dreaming of.
@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
30 Dec 09
Hi zandi: At last someone who shares my views. But we are in the minority Zandi. do you think we should change our way of thinking. Everyone wants to look young these days. Looking youthful and trendy is one thing, but when middle aged women who look middle aged, dress in skimpy clothes and mini skirts, I have seen the looks they get from men and I can assure you they are not complimentary. I suppose its a case of to each his own and if the wearer does not mind, why should anyone else I guess. Thank you and Have a great day.
• China
29 Dec 09
well i think everyone have the right to dress beautiful and not based on their age.if i have enough time and money i will spend more caution to dress myself also.we just visited our aunt this weekend and she is so happy after we said she look very beautiful under the new dress.
• India
29 Dec 09
Clothes and accessories are really a reflection of our attitude and outlook towards life. You’ll see plenty of teenagers who inspite of their freshness, look completely silly in fancy dresses while there are many elderly women who carry off gaudy dress and colours with aplomb. Now, I’m sure I’ve not seen any lady aged 50s or 60s roam around in mini skirts but other than that, I’m not really sure if I can categorize between teenage dress and aged dress…I mean I’ve seen aged ladies with well toned bodies flaunt tube tops and noodle straps and they do look good enough. So yes, I would have to agree with your friend, as long as the lady is not making an fool of herself and carrying it off well, she can look good in any dress.
@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
29 Dec 09
Thank you for your response sudiptacallingu: What it amounts to in the end I think is whether a particular type of dress of fashion suits you or not. You can be a teenage and dress like an old woman or vice versa. But if it looks good on you, it does not matter I suppose as long as it does not make the onlookers wince.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
I don't have any against with oldies dressed like teenagers,as long as it doesn't makes them look trying hard at all. They have their rights to act like teenagers,it is only their physical body that aged with time,but their hearts and feeling doesn't seem to get old. I only criticized those oldies who wear skimpy dresses,revealing dress that shows their cleavage,or very short dresses that almost show up their butts. One must learn the proper way of dressing if you want people to pay you some respect. have a good day friend