If you are not having anymore children are you sad about it?

United States
January 2, 2010 4:10pm CST
I know that our family is complete but I still get sad about it. Our baby is almost 8 months old and I can't believe it. He is growing up way too fast. I am happy for my friends being pregnant but at the same time a little bit jealous. I know my family will be able to do more once the baby gets a little bigger and my husband and I can have some more alone time. I am glad that the kids are pretty close in age. It is so bittersweet to know that we are all done having babies.
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@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
3 Jan 10
We are working on trying to have our second baby, and it makes me sad that it is so hard for us to accomplish. Sometimes I feel like it will never happen, and therefore that makes me sad to think that my son may not have someone play with and grow up with. I know, it takes patience and the Lord will bless us when he is ready, but it's hard waiting when you want something so bad. I think after our 2nd, we will be "done" and I think at that point I'll be sad too. There is something about having a little baby around your house that makes you so happy.
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@Rosekitty (19572)
• San Marcos, Texas
3 Jan 10
Hang in there guss..if its meant to happen it will, but still be patient and relax and try to not think about it so much and then soon before you know it, it will happen..
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@cmhjjh (99)
• United States
11 Jan 10
It is amazing how God knows the timing that is right for you. I have a misscarriage after our first child and then after that did manage to get pregnant again and now we have 2. Later we found out the between my cycle being weird and my husband has a nerve that produces low sperm count we should have had alot more problems getting pregnant but God knew when and how many was right for us. Try to trust in him.
• Canada
14 Jan 10
Just hang in there guss! I found that if I was obsessing over it it didn't happen, and when I had relaxed and tried not to think about it it happened. I was told when I turned 20 that I could never have kids because of my PCOS (poly cystic ovary syndrome)BUT I had a girl in 2006, and another girl in October 3 months ago! If it's meant to be it will be, god knows when the time is right, and god never gives you more (or less) then what he thinks you can handle.
@Rosekitty (19572)
• San Marcos, Texas
3 Jan 10
I loved having all 5 of my children, but now its grandbabies that keep me busy so No I'm not sad since the cycle will keep moving as long as babies keep getting born from each generation.. My oldest grandaughter in July will make me a great grandma!
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• United States
3 Jan 10
I have two children of my own and two step-children. I loved being pregnant, but do i ever feel sad that i am done having babies --- no--. After our daughter was born (almost 15 years ago) my husband had a vasectomy, we had four children running around, and my husband played a big part in ALL his kids lives so we had my step-daughters all the time (we moved to the same development to be near them). Now we are expecting our first grandchild and i couldn't be happier(i all ready have a crib at the house). So even though I was done having children at the age of 27, i knew we would have many other things to look foward to in life.
@doormouse (4619)
2 Jan 10
when i got pregnant with my last child i knew straight away that after i had him i wanted to be sterilized,i'd only ever planned 2 kids so when i got pregnant with the 3rd by accident,i knew i wanted to get the snip,so to say,,i've always hated being pregnant,and i knew that i couldn't do it again,,i don't regret it at all.i'm glad i can't have anymore
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• United States
2 Jan 10
I get sad all the time over this. I had to terminate three of my pregnancy's. I lost one even before that. I was not able to hold them due to my bad thyroid condition. I wanted three kids more than anything. I have one and want one more. I am 40 now and think I will be too old pushing a stroller. Plus I would want to be young with all my kids.
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@Jae2619 (1485)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I miscarried our first, so when we got pregnant with our son who's now 7, we hoped that everything would go smoothly. It didn't, I had a horrible pregnancy with him. My body just don't like being pregnant, and I honestly didn't like being that way either. So we'd decided we'd only have one, though being 21 when he was born, we decided we'd talk about if for a little while and then make a choice on having a tubal later. We went 5 years and on our tubal consultation we found out we were gonna have another, and our last. I was upset with myself but knew it was a blessing in disguise somehow, lol. This blessing would be revealed when our little girl turned 2. I was 28, and found out I had to have a total hysterectomy. So, she come to us for a reason, someone knew that I would be upset if I didn't have another baby before I got sick and couldn't have any more children. It does sadden me that I know that I will never be able to have that choice to have another because that choice was taken from me. My little girl is 2, and she doesn't like to be loved on as much, and I know that these baby days are coming to an end and there won't be anymore until my kids grow up and have babies of their own.
• Canada
13 Jan 10
I know how you feel! I had my first child (a girl) in 2006, and just had my second child (another girl) on October 7th. I knew I would have to have a c-section with my second because I found out I can't give birth naturally with HOURS of unsuccessful labor and pushing from my first. So I went ahead and planned to have them tie my tubes seeing as I was going to be "opened up" anyway from the c-section. Sooo they went ahead and did that and I thought I'd be happy, but I have been really sad about knowing I am done having kids. It could still be harmones and emotions going back to normal I don't know but I am having a tough time with it.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
11 Jan 10
We're planning on having one more when the mood arises, but I still kind of understand how you feel. We're not even trying to get pregnant right now, but when I hear that someone is, there's still that string of jealousy about it. I LOVED the whole being pregnant thing, and raising my daughter (who is now 3...soon to be 4) and yes, she's growing up WAY too fast! I miss the alone time (pre kid time) but we still make sure we get out one weekend a month or something along those lines. Just think.... by the time your kids are fully grown and out of the house and you don't knwo what you're going to do with yourself.... you'll be a Grandma :) You're family is only TEMPORARILY on hold - enjoy what you have now... your family still has growing room :)
@cmhjjh (99)
• United States
11 Jan 10
We are also done with our family we have 2 kids close together and we are done. We know for sure because my husband made it permanent. I sometimes feel sad to know that we won't have anymore children we have a boy and a girl which some people would think is perfect but sometimes I feel bad that my son won't have a brother or my daughter won't have a sister. I have a brother and a sister and I love it. But like you said as they get older things are getting easier and when I feel sad I just try to remember how tired I am the first year. Hang in there it's just a mom thing no matter how busy we are or how crazy our kids make us we still seem to want more of them. LOL!
@newtondak (3952)
• United States
3 Jan 10
I am the mother of three grown children and the grandmother of five. I have to admit that over the years, I have had times of sadness knowing that I would not have more children - that I would never again be pregnant or experience the feeling of a new life moving inside me. That said, I have to add that becoming a grandparent is an experience that equals, maybe even exceeds, the thrill of becoming a parent! So, although you may not have any more children, you have grandchildren to look forward to!