Career vs love,which one do you think is more important??

China
January 3, 2010 9:11am CST
i'm a man,so i think the career should be first,because if you don't get a steady job,incoming,then getting marriage only can offer us more pressure and annoyance.so i prefer to arrange my career well,then find a girl i love and get marry with her,and that time i will have the ability to make her happy. what's your ideas,sharing with us please!!
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12 responses
@bhav27 (445)
• India
3 Jan 10
well i think both are equally important and both are to be kept at equal place and should be given equall priority , if we will give priority to one the the life will be not good means life will be of no use , choosing one of them is of no help so better choose both and then see life will be more beautifull then ever. so both the options are be given priority , find a job then marry the partner , be self independent and be happy with your love.
• Indonesia
3 Jan 10
yeah... i think so. both should be equal but sometimes some people is not lucky in one of them. Sometimes the situation forces them to choose one.
• China
5 Jan 10
Hi,my friends.I know your mind and you want both.that's fine,but i think maybe you put your love first,which means first find a job which will make a good precondition for the marriage.but if you haven't got a steady life would you get marry with your lover??
@smileonstar (4016)
• United States
3 Jan 10
I am not a man, but I will choose career for the first choice too. I know love is also important but if I just deeply in love without looking for my future then I will end up in darkness... If a man, who loves me, then he has to understand I really want to do in my life cuz I dont like to depend on someone
• China
3 Jan 10
Hi smile,very glad you have that kind of thoughts.actually i think no matter for a man or woman,they all need find their dreams and fight for that.it's necessary for fulling the life and making life more meaningful.thanks for your response and have a nice day O(n_n)O~
4 Jan 10
Discordo pois,como vc mesmo disse voce prefere a carreira e como voce é mulher prova que não só os homens pesam na carreira...
@Genericbe (1379)
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
Choosing career first should be first in line because it will bring your life to what you had aspired to be in the future. Being practical in life will help a person live a less worry life. For me, career is an opportunity. It may change your life for good if you worked hard for it. Love is a compensatory. Love can wait for the right person in a given time. It is best to work hard for your savings from career because that will be the foundation of what will you be having in the future.
• China
5 Jan 10
that's real.if we get marriage before we find a steady job which can offer us a good salary.then the marriage will be a burden for us.we don't have mood to enjoy the happy,but we have to worry about how to make a living.it's awful.
@much2say (21045)
• United States
3 Jan 10
Well, I think both are important. One doesn't necessarily have to come before the other. I found my future husband just as we started college. We both worked on our degrees and eventually made it to our careers. Later down the line, we got married. He is now continuing his career . . . while I am at home with our 2 kids, but when they are in school full time, I will jump back into my career. Both are important and possible to maintain.
• China
5 Jan 10
Hi,my friend.your life is fine.you have the chance to act both ways.but in real life,we aren't always luck enough to meet that chances.but what you have said is possible,and i really admire that kind of life.thanks for your response and have a nice day.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
6 Jan 10
I think it really depends on your particular situation. I'm a female so I should probably give that as a disclaimer. I wanted to have a career but finances didn't allow me to finish my education when I had intended to. So, in the time that I was working I did find my husband and I had love before a career. Now, the idea for me to have a career is actually on hold until after my youngest child starts school because I want to be a mother to the fullest extent.
@Hazelrose (2187)
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
H Savedeath,I think both,love and career are so important in our life.Love and career will go together.It depends on us how we handle the situation.As a human being,we need both career and love for us to live a happy life.God Bless!
@iamainda (10)
• China
4 Jan 10
actually i always think i am a tiger woman,and i believe the career is much important to me.i enjoy spending most of my time on the career.but unluckly...lucky at the same time,i met my love a few years ago,so i just a moneyless person with a huge dream now.so,you can see,the love is more important to me than the career.
• Boston, Massachusetts
4 Jan 10
Hi Savedeath, i will choose love. Love will inspire you to soar high and reach your goal. Career, achievements and accomplishment will be nothing if love will not be present. love for self and your loved ones will give you strength to face every single battle of you life as you strive to become successful in whatever career you will choose to excel on. I am happy with love and i am a living testimony for choosing love and that inspired me much to become more successful in my career. i have an ever supportive and loving friend, partner--husband rolled into one!
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
Both are important. You should give both 'career' and 'love' the same level of importance; at the same time both in a different aspect. It's a mutual situation. You're doing your part investing time and effort in your career and later on having someone to share your life with. Like what you have said "to have the ability to make her happy", and true, a steady job would eliminate a factor of having problems with your marriage. And you are in a relationship, a serious one eventually looking for a career that would support both of you for your life being together. It's a good move to invest the same amount of time, effort and importance to both. Leaving one behind will have its own downfall. Focusing on one side only could damage the other. And it could be a problem in the long run.
• India
4 Jan 10
I think career is more important coz if u dnt hav a steady job then wats da point in getting married..... u & ur partner r jst gonna suffer coz u dnt hav a good job......... i wud prefer career more thAn marriage.......
@vivianchen (2649)
• China
4 Jan 10
In fact, i don't see any confliction here, you can have a career and get marry at the same time, or you can have love but career later, do you think having a lover will stop or slow down your speed for career, i don't think so, i think love could be the energy for your life and support you to flight for a better life!
@ratyz5 (7836)
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
Its quite different for every person as well as the situation that they are in. Some people would be inspired to do better in their lives when they have that person who motivates them. On the other hand, as you have mentioned, that 'love' might become a distraction to ever achieving any goal, let alone a career. In my opinion, its a 'come what may' scenario. I wouldn't mind being with someone that I really like. I would really try my best to provide the things that they need. If a career presents itself, I guess I'd take that too. Who knows? I might meet the one that I really like along the way. Whatever comes first, I guess..