Number of responses

@allknowing (65014)
India
January 6, 2010 3:32am CST
Would you be happy if you got many responses to your questions? Would you then have the time to give your comments to all the reponses received and if you dont then will not those who sent you responses will be disappointed that you attended to some and ignored others?
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
6 Jan 10
I make it a must to get back to all of those who respond on my discussions. I feel that I am very rude if I don't. Offline I would not start a conversation with someone and then walk off without acknowledging their response and to me it is the same here. No matter how many responses my discussions receive, every single one will receive a comment, sometimes later if I am tied up and the response has arrived a long time after the discussion was started but whoever posts it will always hear back from me eventually. Even those who only leave a one line response will see me get back to them and sometimes a short response will eveolve into a very active box over time too. I realise that not everyone reacts like this with their own discussions and that is their choice. I prefer to respond where I know I can have a bit of banter in the response because the user enjoys that type of activity
@allknowing (65014)
• India
6 Jan 10
I have observed your performance here but you start very few discussions and the last one that you started was 15 days ago. What is your opinion? Is it better to start few discussions and do justice to it by attending to each and every response or create several but due to time constraints comment sparsely? At the same time if there are no quality discussions the forum becomes lifeless!
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
6 Jan 10
I think it is a very personal matter as to how we go about our discussions. I never start one when I know that I cannot be here to comment on the first responses that it will receive. I have never ever started one and then left my computer. It may appear that Iam here 24/7 but that is not the case at all. Ilog on from home and from work but Iam not here for the whole of that time. If I know that I have other things to attent to then I don't start a discussion. With over two million discussions already available I doubt very much that if we do not start new ones there will be nothing to respond to. The newer users are not aware of all the discussions that were started before they joined and many are unaware of the 'similar discussions' to the right of every discussion that is open. We have many choices of where to respond even if we do not start new ones. I shall start one as soon as I have a day off work and am certain that I will be able to comment - promise!
@allknowing (65014)
• India
6 Jan 10
Waiting! And about older discussions many a time the BR tag has already been put which makes the discussion less important as the one who has started the discussion has got what he/she wanted. I dont feel inclined to responod to such discussions.
@nocturn98 (956)
• Venezuela
6 Jan 10
Yeah, I'm happy if people respond in my discussion. Sometimes it's hard to think of something to write and it feels good to know that someone gave time reading it. I don't usually respond to the responses, only if I have something to add or say.
• Singapore
6 Jan 10
Yea, for every person who responded, that's one bit of attention I got. It feels good.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
6 Jan 10
You are right. Not every response calls for a comment.
@thea09 (18324)
• Greece
7 Jan 10
Do you realise that you only get paid by commenting on the responses you receive. Also if you continue not commenting you will considered rude and people will start to avoid your discussions.
@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 10
It is so natural for us to get exited about the more number of responses to our discussions as it clearly shows that more people have found the discussion interesting enough to respond.I always make it a point to dutifully respond to all the responses I get as a token of respect for the pain these nice people have taken to respond to my discussion.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
9 Jan 10
The problem comes when we have many discussions with many responses, to which we can only comment if we have enough time
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@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 10
Good things don't always come that easy.
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
6 Jan 10
The Snow In My Area - Just for the hell of it I thought I would add a picture of the lovely snow in my area. I love it for images like this ~ Grins ~ So insanely beautiful :)
Hi allknowing, I have to admit that after learning about the fact we had to comment on all responses our discussions got, I started really appreciating the smaller and more intimate discussions I started because they were far easier to reply to. I have always found it hard to maintain interest in something enough to keep responding to comments, especially if the earlier ones have given me the answers I seek. Because I do know I have this weakness though I stopped creating new discussions unless something really important came to mind and I had the time to devote to responses. I felt too guilty to know I started something and didn't do the work that is my responsibility after I began . I do imagine though that sometimes because some people are responding to 40+ discussions a day, they won't mind too much if I don't respond, especially since the responses I skip do tend to be the short two or one liners that had no time put into them. The long thought out responses are always responded to though because I appreciate the time the responder put into their response and so want to give them my time in return. When it comes to that I don't think the one line responses are all that bothered really, I don't think they would even remember they replied! All the best and good luck keeping up with all your comments Dranz
6 Jan 10
Ignore the picture, it was meant to be on a different discussion but mylot added it here instead since I posted this response first, very annoying
@allknowing (65014)
• India
7 Jan 10
Good news is that you are not bound to comment on responses but our very purpose of being here is to interact and if we do not comment the purpose is lost.
@thea09 (18324)
• Greece
6 Jan 10
Hi allknowing, I do always respond to everyone unless I have a particular reason to ignore one response, such as it being rude. I had one discussion which generated about 120 responses and that was ok to get through whereas some with lesser responses in I may lose interest in more quickly, the one time I did that I called on help to get them finished off. The number of responses though is not the issue, it is if they are quality responses which inspire you to comment back rather than bedraggled one liners which can happen if there are too many response. The best thing to do is put a discussion in an area where it won't generate too much additional attention and that way it keeps the numbers manageable and as is most likely to be seen by friends first has a higher level of quality responses.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
7 Jan 10
"the one time I did that I called on help to get them finished off." Doyou mean to say that you let someone else do the commenting on your behalf? A new approach indeed!!
@thea09 (18324)
• Greece
7 Jan 10
Well it's not as if I didn't do it back too. That's what friends are for.
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
if i started a discussion, yes, i'd be glad to receive several responses. i'd be happier if i get honest answers and those which are relevant and helpful. though i can't promise to add comments to each and every response, often i try because i appreciate the effort responders made. when i respond to a discussion, and my response was not commented to, sometimes i get a little bit disappointed, considering i only do very few posts everytime i log into mylot. so few that sometimes i only make 1 or 2 posts each time or none at all. i don't even make discussions these days due to lack of time and perhaps inspiration. so when placed in the same position, i do understand the feeling of responders when they see in a discussion that some responses are commented by the discussion starter while some were not. but i think it's pretty acceptable too that not all responses will be commented on. it would be nice if they do but it's not a violation if they don't.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
6 Jan 10
It is not the queston of violation but just being nice I suppose.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
6 Jan 10
It is not the question of violaton but just being nice I suppose!
@Torunn (2810)
• Norway
7 Jan 10
I've only created two discussions yet, but I think I've answered every reply. I thought that was the polite thing to do, at least when I managed to think of a sensible reply. Just posting ";-)" isn't that interesting, maybe someone does it to get to 500? I'm posting on another forum, at some point we used to be able to vote on eachothers post if we had more than 100 posts on a forum. Some posters went crazy with the smilies to get those posts.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
8 Jan 10
One must have time to comment on responses if they go beyond a certain number. We have other pursuits in life and indeed it is nice if we comment on the responses received and your comments earn you.
• United States
6 Jan 10
I am happy to get just one response to my posts. It shows me it was worth responding too. I feel there is no time to get back to everyone who responds to them. I do my best to even say thanks to them.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
8 Jan 10
You get paid for comments and also I think that one needs atleast two responses for discussions to earn
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 10
That is the dream of each Mylotter isn't it??
@allknowing (65014)
• India
7 Jan 10
No doubt a dream but if you get hundreds of responses as some myLotters get it is a herculean task to comment but I have seen some doing it!
@akssah (118)
• India
6 Jan 10
yes I will be happy if i get responses to my question. It will help me to find out the solution. To comment to those response is very important which help to communicate with the friend very well.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
7 Jan 10
That is why we are here. To interact and what better way than commenting on responses!
• Singapore
6 Jan 10
Hi allknowing, Yea sure! I would be happy if I get many responses to my discussions. That said, I tend not to start discussions anymore unless I am quite sure I have the time and energy to comment back on the responses I get. I just feel it is a bit wrong if I do it like a guerrilla warfare warrior i.e. hit and run... just keep posting discussions like a troll and not making responses. Anyway that's just me.
@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
6 Jan 10
Time and energy do indeed run out when we grow older Wizard
• United States
6 Jan 10
There is not enough time in a day to respond to all. So I try to read them through and respond as I go. If I find the best response while doing so. I will mark that one best response as well. I may not even respond back to them. Best response says it all to me.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
7 Jan 10
We are here to have some good time and rigidity is what can spoil it. Just as well there are no guidelines that insist that we comment. It is just that one feels good when doing it.
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
Of course i will be happy and most of the time, the discussions that i created gained 60+ - 80+ responses, and i am really happy cause it means that the discussion i posted is an interesting one, i always read and reply on the responses on my discussions that is why maybe i gained such number of responses. Have a great day.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
6 Jan 10
The last discussion you started was a month ago -whether anyone likes cooking- pretty easy to answer I guess. It is fine to comment on responses if discussions are sparse but there are many here who start several discussions in one day and they also get many responses and then it is difficult to comment on so many responses In that case a situation arises of the one I have mentioned.
@Sreekala (22879)
• India
6 Jan 10
Hi allknowing, Getting more responses always make us happy. I will give my comments to everybody but sometimes I may late to give my comments. It all depends on my time and mood. My highest number of responses was 114 and I have commented to all of the responders. It is really a tedious task to get back each and everyone. But I felt happiness after finishing the same. Still I have two discussions left for comments.
@allknowing (65014)
• India
7 Jan 10
When one receives many responses one tends to stall the next discussion keeping time to comment on those responses which is quite reasonable as is the case with you.
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@asanlee (408)
• Indonesia
7 Jan 10
I will be very happy if i get alotof responses over the question i started. I will try to answer all but it take time for me to write in english.
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
7 Jan 10
hi friend sure all will be happy if they get many responses. i used to comment to some of the responses,really for some responses i don't know what to comment so will simply leave it.i think mylotters wont be disappointed for such things.i too respond to many discussion some of them don't comment i am not disappointed friend. you are getting good response for this discussion.i think you will also be happy friend. have a nice day :)