School dress code

United States
January 12, 2010 9:10am CST
I just watched a video on the yahoo front page thing about a young kid maybe 6 years old, being suspended from school because his hair was to long. The parents didn't want to cut it because the boy has beautiful hair and likes his long hair. I understand that. So the school said the dress code states it has to be in braids and not longer than his ears. I think this school is going a little over board with this dress code issue, for the age of the child. The mom ends up sending him in a ponytail, kind of looking like a girl, the poor boy. What do you think about school dress codes? Which ones do your kids hate? Which ones do you think are unnecessary and which ones do you think are important also?
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@MimiRemo (420)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
I went to a private school and I remember they were strict with the dress code, too. With our uniforms, girls were only allowed to wear black or white hair scrunchies, headbands or any hair accessories. I particularly hated it. And the boys' hair had to be clean cut, not below the ears and no bangs covering the eyes. I think it is a good discipline to adhere to the school's uniform so we were able to learn to be neat and law-abiding, but regulating the colors of what to wear with it was just too far and irrelevant.
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• United States
13 Jan 10
Yes I do agree. They go to far in a lot of cases with school rules period and sometimes not far enough with others.
@maximax8 (27045)
12 Jan 10
I think that sensible and comfortable shoes are a wise choice. I think that a uniform is great because I had a teaching practice when I was in a non uniform school. Some children came to school in summer dresses and one had wellington boots on. I didn't think the clothing looked clean and in cases the clothes looked old. School uniform should be about the clothes like trousers for males and skirts for females. Girls should also be allowed to wear trousers. They should be able to have their hair any way they like. It should be tied back in sport and science experiments. I feel sorry for the boy who was expended for having long hair. The secondary school I went to had a strict uniform. My friend said the blue and white blouse was like a prison uniform. We had to wear a gray skirt. Hair had to be short for a boy and tidy for a girl. We weren't allowed plastic bags.
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• United States
12 Jan 10
Yes I think uniforms and any dress code involving clothing is okay. But when they go trying to make you cut your kids hair off that is a different story. The clothes can come off when they get home, the hair doesn't go back on. I think it is okay telling them to make sure it is out of his face somehow, so he does okay in his own studies. But I don't see it being a distraction to other students or any reason to not let him come to school. I personally think they were being prejudice. The mom looked a little different then most. Had big spike earring things and what not. I think they were just finding a reason really. It is sad for this boys education for people to be like this.
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@laglen (19782)
• United States
12 Jan 10
I am a big supporter of dress codes in schools. I wonder, did the mother know about this dress code before enrolling her son in this school? If she does not agree with it, she should look at other schools.
• United States
12 Jan 10
Ya it didn't say that in the video I dunno. But in some areas there is only 1 or two schools close enough. And a lot of them that are by each other follow similar dress codes. That is a good question. I understand stuff that would be distracting to other students, but this just didn't seem to be.
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• United States
12 Jan 10
I hate it personally. For certain schools girls must wear skirts. If I was forced to wear a skirt everyday I would sit with my legs wide open to irate the crap out of the teachers. Girls can wear pants. Same with boys should be able to have their hair long. If girls can wear their hair long, then so should boys. Otherwise the school is sexist.
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• United States
12 Jan 10
I feel that way too. I think they are going way to far with it. Especially with such a young child.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
13 Jan 10
i really hate those who make those rules that too for a six year old kid---its ridiculous.if they wanted to maintain discipline then they can start enforcing rules after certain age not from a very tender age.personally i dont have any kids but i have a small niece whats fortunate is i never heard of complaining aboout anything.great day.
• United States
13 Jan 10
I see your point, and congrats on your niece. As a parent and teacher, I also must say, however, that children need to learn at a young age that there are some rules one must follow in order to get along and be happy with your parents, school, friends, etc. These don't have to be extreme, but reasonable and especially for safety. Your niece has obviously been taught that there are just some times things we can't argue about. She won't dwell on those things and will grow up and learn to impact her world in important ways.
• United States
13 Jan 10
Yes I agree there are some rules that need to be put in place for kids to learn and do well in the real world. But what is this part of the dress code teaching them? That they can't be there self, that in the real world boys aren't allowed to have long hair. I just don't get it. I think they went to far with this one. And as I said before I really think the school was just picking on the parents. That is what I got from the video.
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
13 Jan 10
All dressing codes in general are unnecesary in my opinion. In my elementary school it was forbiden to wear a cap, a hat, or anything that would cover your head. I wonder how does that affect to your learning. There are too many stupid rules, unfortunately. That school you talked about really went over the top.
• Singapore
13 Jan 10
Your school does not allow students to wear a cap maybe students may be hiding things in them like Answer sheets or maybe their hair is dyed if the school does not allow dyed hair.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
15 Jan 10
My daughter goes to a school that has a uniform although it is a public school. And, to be completely honest, there is nothing about their attire rules that I don't agree with. I don't, however, think that the school that you were talking about was right in suspending the little boy for the way that he chooses to wear his hair. I can understand the people that dye their hair all kinds of distracting colors, but for it being too long, I just don't think that is right.
• United States
15 Jan 10
Yes if it is a public school than it is way to far. Someone above just said they thought that it was a private school. Now if that is the case, I would understand a stricter dress code I guess.
@rose66 (380)
• China
13 Jan 10
i don't think the schooldress code is necessary for the kids who'sonly 6 years'old. if he's a high school student, he needs to obey the schol dress code. but he's just a kid and couldn't have the bad habits or thought on his dress, i think he can have the freedom on his dress.
• United States
13 Jan 10
I agree, this kid is way to young to be distracted or distracting to his class because of his hair. Kids this age don't focus so much on how they look. My 9 yr old really doesn't care what her hair looks like at school. She comes home somedays looking a mess. She is more worried about learning and having fun at school.
• India
13 Jan 10
well this happen school life is really sumthing differenmt which cant b forgotable. but in small age child have to face lots of things by teacher there must b some system have to changed kids must have some limitations. as being in child if they becum independent to have anything it may cause in elder position they mite creat lot of mess every where/ so rules for students must be there to keep some type of discipline. from my point of view
• United States
13 Jan 10
Yes some rules I agree. But they need to focus on more important ones I think than what a kids hair looks like.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I think that the length of a kid's hair is a personal choice and one to be made between the child and parent. Clothes should be clean and neat and not revealing. Now do the girls wear their long hair braided or pulled back? If so then the boy should as well. Men do wear their long hair pulled back and even braided and they don't look girly.
• United States
13 Jan 10
Yes if the braids weren't going to hurt him I guess she could of done that. She ended up putting it in a ponytail. It is in her childs best interest to keep it out of his face so he can see to learn but I do think it should be there choice as far as the hair.
• Singapore
13 Jan 10
Boys and girls in school must be neat and tidy. But Boys should keep their hair short as they are generally more active in sports so they should keep their hair short.In Singapore,the schools regularly checks the hair and nails.and in Singapore,All students have to wear uniforms to school. I am male student in Singapore!hehe
• United States
13 Jan 10
Well I never would of guessed hehe. Yes I have heard this short hair thing is dress code everywhere. I think it is like they are training our kids to be robots. Some say they are training for the real world. There are successful men out there though with long hair. What if this kid doesn't want to be a doctor or lawyer, but an artist, or musician. I think this hinders a childs creative out look on life, and gives them less chance to be there selves.
@acer5540 (354)
• China
13 Jan 10
Oh,almost every school here have the dress code, such as boys should not have long hair, girls should not wear mini skirt,no long nail...I think it is not a bad things, after all , there are students,if you want personality, it is ok, but when you 18 years old. I know the mother want her boy special,but if all the parents do like this ,how disorder the school will be! Boys have braids like girls,i can't image...
• United States
13 Jan 10
This school dress code is the hair if long must be braided. The mom refused to do that and said it will make his scalp bleed. I think everyone should have a freedom of expression. Everyone should be able to look a little different. I don't see it as being distracting to anyone. School is about teaching us about the real life, and those who are creative and be themselves have great ideas and do good in the real world. Unless someone shoves their creativity in a closet and says they can't have it at school. Which is where kids are a lot of there child hood lives.
@tangurama (206)
• Canada
13 Jan 10
The establishment of that school are way out of line. School is about learning and not what you wear or look like. So what if the kid has long hair? It shouldn't matter because it isn't affecting anyone. I do think however, clothes with swear words or violent content shouldn't be allowed. I also think showing too much skin is inappropriate.
• United States
13 Jan 10
Oh yes I do agree those parts of the dress codes should stay intact. Some rules are put in action for good reason. I think they were just trying to single out the poor parents.
@adamc151 (479)
13 Jan 10
My school dress code was okay i guess. But for a school to suspend a child for having long hair is a bit old fashioned in my opinion and they have absolutely no right to do that. I read a story once where a boy got suspended for having long hair, so he had it shaved off and went back the same day. They then suspended him for shaving it off. So stupid :P
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
This situation happened to our school also. That the school do not want that the hair of the boys reach beyond his ears. They give warning to the kids but did not inform the parents or just remind the parents though this things were written on the school's manual. They hired someone to cut the hair of those kids in school then that night lots of kids went home crying. The parents really filed a complaint about it.
• United States
13 Jan 10
Oh yeah that is messed up. Way worse than just sending them home. Not just touching but cutting my kids hair off wow. I would of been pissed. I think this is part of the reason I home schooled my kid for a few years. Schools these days are just not with it in many aspects.
@thewayis (648)
• Bulgaria
13 Jan 10
I am all "for" school dress code, but this school you are describing seems a bit too much. However, when you sign up your kid for school you should check the rules of the school. I mean the school board went a little bit overboard but the parents should have known better. At least that is what I think
• United States
13 Jan 10
Good opinion. I started this conversation because the video got to me. It really seemed like they were purposely picking on these particular parents. They weren't your everyday parents. They were very much about expressing themselves and I don't think the school liked that to much. I never read the dress code for my kids school before I enrolled her. But I guess she hasn't broke the rules yet because they haven't sent her home. lol.
• Malaysia
13 Jan 10
It is already stated in the dress code policy, so, the parents are responsible for their kid to follow this rule. Even though they like his hair, but this will only make the boy confused. Besides the school policy itself, the parents should take into account of other things such as the boy's personality. He is growing up and he would feel different from other boys or worst being teased. There's nothing wrong of being different, but if things can be changed, the parents should comply with the policy. I mean, it's only a hair, but for a kid at such young age, it will make a big difference. I just think that school dress codes are implemented to portray the clean images of the schools.
• United States
13 Jan 10
Well I see the point in that also. But in the video the boy really seemed to like his hair and didn't want it cut. So I don't think he was being teased. I just think it is messed up they spend so much time worrying about this kind of stuff. There are other things to worry about to keep the school clean.
• United States
13 Jan 10
While I do believe it is neccesary to have a dress code to keep kids in check, that s going ver y overboard. I would've understood if if it was unkept and messy, but as it seems, it wasnt in that little boy's case. My daughter has a dress code, and simply put, she must wear solid colors in plos and solid khaki pants. the purpose was to keep things neat, and so that each kid wouldn't be able to have better clothes. Like if a kid has on Abercombie and another has on Walmart. Now, that SOUNDS all right. But around here, the clothes are a bit hard to find, and they do get pricey. And when you want to buy more in the middle of the school year, good luck with that! You'll have to drive out and search at a uniform specialty store. But at the beginning of the year, you will find them anywhere from the mall to Kmart, and you can still tell where they were bought due to the emblem or design or fit of the clothes. So in my opinion: it is ridiculous. As long as the girls aren't showing too much and the guys have their pant pulled up, that's enough for me.
• United States
13 Jan 10
Yes, Ty for reading the post and giving a response that corresponded. Some people only seem to read titles sometimes. Anyhow I am just having a cranky morning I guess. But yes that is what I have heard about uniforms. Some parents I heard like it because it is never a struggle for them to find something to wear in the morning. But yes finding and buying these clothes in the store I am sure is a different story. Have you tried good will and thrift shops, they carry these sometimes, not to worn. Every once in a while you can even find clothes almost new. Anyhow thanks for your response.
• India
7 Apr 10
schools need to keepup a dress code or uniform which brings name and fame to the educational institute.so if people saw the uniform then they should be in a position to evaluate the standards of the school.so institutions should provide students a decent dress code and make the young generations a decent people of the future.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
15 Jan 10
I also watched this video and couldn't help but laugh at the situation. Schools take things a little too far on somethings and not far enough on others. This one is one of them that just they took too far. He's a boy, he likes his hair long, and he's doing good in school, why bother a child when he's not bothering anyone else. Yes, it's different, but we all are different in many ways. I think with today's schools, that's the biggest problem, they don't like to see that all children are different and they all need to be treated that way. It even said at the end of the video that she wasn't going to braid it, she was sending him the next day in the pony tail he'd probably still be in suspension, but she was standing her ground and I think it's good for her to do so. I am lucky that our school has very few dress code rules. Ours only apply to short skirts, bad launguage on shirts, and flip flops on PE days.