Lovers Quarrel?

Thailand
January 13, 2010 11:04am CST
I just wonder what are the usual things you and your partner quarreling about or have an argument with. Do you have anything in particular or it just happens in the least expected moments? Do share it here please...Thanks...
5 responses
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I personally don't believe in lover's quarrel. Because you don't argue and fight with the person you love because you enjoy it. Quarraling in relations is the expression of who you are and your expectations that you reveal to your significant other by arguements. You partner cannot know you completely unless he/she has seen all sides of you including anger. And if you can work out the things that make you angry and argue then you've found a keeper. So pretty much quarrels can be about anything and everything and it doesn't mean that if the situation were between you and someone else that you wouldn't react the same way in your head or outward. Hope that helped. For example sake, I can tell you what some friends quarrel about. One she was wearing that T-shirt he hates. He forgot to clean the snow off his shoes before getting in the car. He accepted a gift from an old gf. She never answers her phone. etc. etc.
• Thailand
14 Jan 10
Your description/explanation about this topic really made sense and had answered some of my questions. It's basically part of the "getting to know you thingie". I believe It's very constant and people cant say they know the person really well. Maybe they know the person well but not the entirety of the whole being because even ourselves sometimes get surprise of an attitude that we sometimes not aware of or just technically ignored. This really helped...Thanks..
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
16 Jan 10
I'm glad my response was helpful. We all have a hidden personality that comes out when the situation arises. It's shocking to see ourselves behave that way. We can only give that same benefit to close relationshps too. That they may show an attitude or behavior that even they weren't aware of. That may prevent a lot of quarrles in which we use our minds to treat something instead of impulse.
• Thailand
17 Jan 10
Oh, yeah...Your response was indeed very helpful. I appreciated it and still appreciating it till now. I'll be giving you the best response for this topic so wait for mylot's email hehe. Thanks for sharing your views on this topic. One more thing, I was surprised when this hidden attitude came out. I wouldn't tell it more here because it wasn't good lol. But the again, i didn't know i am capable of that...Scary? don't be. I am a good man
@Cheiyen (317)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Lovers' Quarrel (a.k.a.) LQ is very common because men are from mars and women are from venus. hahahaha! seriously, my boyfriend and i quarrel about our different views and decisions. they usually happen in unexpected moments. say, we were supposed to meet but he was so linient about calling and i still had to travel for about 6 hours (he travelled a long way, too). we're not together so i'm lucky that we don't fight or argue often. we give each other a space because we're both busy with our respective jobs. we're just taking the relationship slowly and perhaps surely. each one is unique so lucky you are who have found your match. long live all couples!
• Thailand
16 Jan 10
Long live all couples! Oh, that was quite a surprise haha. Anyhow, thanks for sharing your views about lovers quarrel, LQ, or whatever you may want to call it. It's good to know that you both find ways to see each other, despite busy schedules or what not. Just take everything slowly and you'll get there where exactly you guys wanted to be. "Lucky are the ones who did find their match"..hmmmmmm sounds like a proverb haha.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
he is being too late than usual is very annoying and specially when he could not keep his promises.
• Thailand
14 Jan 10
Haha..Yeah that's another reason that cannot be disagreed. Who would feel better if a person is always late? Who would be happy if promises seem to be broken all the time. All of us have this share of problems. The saying nobody's perfect can fit with thE situation. Thanks for sharing amyson. It's been a while that i was not been able to go online..Happy to be back.
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Long time ago, my boyfriend and I used to argue because of petty things. We argued about me being jealous easily even though I know that there is really no reason at all to get jealous. But that was before, though I sometimes feel this kind of feeling until now. But nowadays, we used to argue about cleanliness and money since we are already living together in one house. I know that it's my fault sometimes because I easily get tired doing the household chores for I was not used to it. We also argue about money because nowadays, almost all people are really suffering from poverty and recession and I guess we are one of those people.
• Thailand
13 Jan 10
Oh yes.. We are still in recession and is just trying to move away from it. I hope the world recovers from it in the earliest time possible. It's nice to know your shared experience here and I appreciate it very much. We all have the same if not similar situation when it comes to an argument with our partner. It's nice to know too that you don't get jealous at your boyfriend easily..Happy mylotting
• India
13 Jan 10
many quarrels are silly and unexpected.. even romantic discussions turn wild with quarrels at times.. but many understand that it is the essence of building that relationship.. few unexpectedly take it to a level where the end up breaking.. usually quarrel begins about why he or she often speaking with you, why she/he calling you unnecessarily etc.. its all possessiveness, but this at times turns into irritation and the other start reacting heavily with burns into quarrel..
• Thailand
13 Jan 10
Yes i agree.. There are times when an argument happens even when two people are having a romantic moment together. I admire those people who held tight and still holding to make the relationship work. I also admire those people who cling to it even they know that it's hopeless sometimes. I believe these problems occur but it's somehow a blessing in disguise because it makes a person to be stronger and understandable. The essence of building the relationship as what you said..Have a wonderful day...