A Little Personal Story Of My Life Right Now.
By Hanan_x3
@Hanan_x3 (294)
United States
January 20, 2010 10:49pm CST
I guess I need somewhere to type this. I just want to write down the story of my life. I can't tell anyone this so I'm just going to post it here in front of all the myloters.
It all began when I started learning about the Baha'i religion. First off, I was Muslim. And no I choose not to follow a religion until I figure out where I belong in this world and what my purpose is.
So I found the Baha'i religion. I am immediately attracted to it because of the teaching and their goals and stuff. I began to research about the religion and finally decided that I don't want to stay Muslim. This was a tough decision for me. I spent nights crying, confused, and just with no answers.
I am still continuing to learn about this religion.
Anyway, the problem is that my whole family is Muslim, and they DO NOT like the idea of me finding a new religion. They are pretty upset about it... especially my dad.
My dad has told me that I would not be part of the family if I convert to the new religion. He has already began to distance himself from me.
My father has always loved me unconditionally. He has loved me, sheltered me, clothed me, etc. However, he did tell me he will kick me out of the house if I convert.
I live in the United States (Michigan) and I am 18 years old. However, my father has always sheltered me. I can't leave the house to go anywhere unless I ask my dad. All the money I got was from my dad (and I would never ask him for money unless I REALLY needed it). He never allowed me to be independent. I have always been dependent on him. Now it seems that he doesnt want me anymore. How will I survive when he kicks me out? I don't know. I don't have a car (I do have my license though), I dont have a job, I don't have friends whose parents are open to letting me stay with them. I wouldn't know how to survive out there.
I do have a boy friend but he lives in New York. He will be willing to come and let me stay with him, go to college together, and live together. However, I don't want to be dependent on someone else again, and I don't want to leave my family and the state I was raised in. I was accepted to a very good University and im sure I will get a few scholarships to help me out. The only thing im afraid of is that I won't be able to find a place to live.
And then this will all happen because I decided to go out and look for the truth...
This is all so hard. I have to suffer alone. Everything is so hard!
I wouldnt know what to do. That is why I am trying as hard to make money online. Although its hard because I have high school and college classes to worry about. And I usually have endless amount of work to do...
i don't know what the future will hold for me.. but whatever it is, I hope its an easy journey...
Its just scary...
So, there you go! A little personal story of my life RIGHT NOW!
:)
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15 responses
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
21 Jan 10
Well that is quite the pickle, my dear MyLot friend. If this is how your life is right now, I would offer one, very unappealing suggestion.
Devote yourself fully to the practices of your parents religion, and hold off on your search until a better time in your life. Baha'i , will still be around, they have a very neat temple in New Delhi, India.
I pray to God, that all will work out for you.
Cheers.
@Hanan_x3 (294)
• United States
21 Jan 10
Its not just that. I will continue to follow the rules of my parents religion, except my beliefs are a little different. My dad wants me to stick to the Muslims beliefs. However, how can I believe something when someone else is telling me to believe it and its not my decision? I don't want to imitate my parents and not find out the truth myself.
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@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
21 Jan 10
I understand, but regardless whether you are Baha'i, Islamic, Christian or Jew, and a few other religions besides, the commandments are still the commandments, and I am sure you know what the 10 Commandments are. That out of the way, you are a Muslim because your parents tell you to be a Muslim, I have to ask, have you ever read the Koran? Perhaps after giving it a read, after praying for the truth, you will see it from a different light, view it as part of your search for the truth. Start there, perhaps the true truth is in the Baha'i religion, but then, perhaps we are all wrong.
Make it your decision, I completely agree with this, but while you are worried about how your parents may treat you, because of your decision, search their truth, until you are out on your own, and then seek your own truth. And the guy in the first response offered a lot of good advice.
Cheers.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 10
hi hanan if you are here in the US in Michigan go to the university you were accepted at, and ask for the financial aid office where you can get a lot of help plus tell them you have no job, you can get help finding part time work too from the same place,you do not necessarily need your dads help if you can qualify for student aid to go to college and I think you can,. so go see them at once. I am sorry your Muslim parents are so upset over your choice of religions.Also tell them about your scholarships too. get the help you need , you must do this for yourself. good luck and God bless you let us know how you fare please.
@Hanan_x3 (294)
• United States
21 Jan 10
Its not the fact that they're Muslim, its the CHANGE thats scaring them I guess. I don't want this to be something that makes Muslims look bad. Not at all. All parents don't want their kids going to another path or leaving them for something else, you know?
But thank you! I appreciate your respond and that's not a bad idea! I will hopefully try it out. Thank you very much.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
22 Jan 10
Thanks for sharing your life with us. I'm glad that the truth is important to you. I too am a truth-seeker and found this thought very encouraging.
Psalm 27:10 (New International Version)
10 Though my father and mother forsake me,
the LORD will receive me.
I wish you well!
@alexysabelle (905)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
first, i know of a Muslim lady become a nun. with or without the permission of the parents that i do know, but she became a nun. may she really believe in the catholic way of teaching and live with it. the point is, if you will it you can have it.
but i think the issue here is DEPENDENCY.
I was surprised to know that at 18 you are still living with your parent, isn't it that you are supposed to find work, stand on your own and be independent? just asking?
anyway, you can start working while studying. it is scary to go out there and find a job and be independent, but that's how things supposed to be. maybe, you have have to find that little courage within you to motivate you to learn to be independent.
it can be hard at the start, but just dont give-up. go on...
@beabenitez (153)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
in this life u can do all u want in a proper perspective and in a proper time...prepare for the future that u want while u are still with your parents but right now follow them because you are still not on your own. you are right, education is the best tool so dont neglect it. you are in a country wherein you can tap the best source to get your dreams, just be resourceful, open minded, dont stop and be patient.
there is this verse saying that the key to a successful living is to love our parents no matter what they are...anyway we can still do and have a life even they are with us. just be discreet doing things that u will know will upset them as long as it is for your own good... in due time when your ready, u can do what u want without them controlling you...just do always respect them.
by the way im a mother of 4 and my eldest is 25 years old...i do tell you all these in a mothers point of view and being a long time tenant of this universe.
@lilyye (15)
• China
23 Jan 10
I understand!I was in the similar situatuation as yours.Here is the thing I wanna tell you. If you really wanna be independent or find a new religion,make money first.find a job or part-time job.Before you can support yourself,go back home.At least,you don't need to worry about the rent.
@Harley009 (1416)
• India
21 Jan 10
I don't know how much your father knows about Islam and how much he is into it.
However may I ask you some questions.
1. What are the advantage of Bahai faith over Islam.?
2. What are the problems or unacceptable things you found in Islam?
3. Have you studied Quran and life of Prophet Mohammad and Islam?
4. What are the proofs of Bahai faith?
5. What is God in Bahai faith?
6. What does Bahai faith says about :
where do we come from?,
what we are supposed to do?
what is the aim of life?
what will happen after our life?
The decision to choose your religion is up to you. But don't we have to accept the guidance of our creator? Before you make a step make sure about your destinations.
May Almighty God guide us to the right path.
Peace.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Jan 10
Dear Hanan,
I am not a Muslim, but i did hear that Muslim family is very close to each other and they protect each other, cover for each other. I don't know much about your religion and your new religion, but i can feel your pain. It just like my mom want me to marry a guy that i don't like but can offer us good life, but i ended choose the one i love and i am happy now.
I think what you really need to do is think about it deeping, is your family more important or your new religion? I think you can still be muslim and be a fan of yoru new religion, and when you are old enough, mature enough, if you still love your new religion, then you are indenpent enough to make your own choice. Good Luck!
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
I would like to congratulate you for going against the tide. But based on what you're saying, this may not be the best time to go against your parents. You have the right to believe what you thought is right but i think you may have to wait until you can stand up on your own. Go on with your studies, graduate and find a job. When you achieve that you can do almost anything you want, you can even have your independence but at the moment you have to bow down to your parent's wishes. Just remember that they have your best interest at heart.
@OYGAK2005 (371)
• Saudi Arabia
21 Jan 10
hi hanan ...i am a muslim.... if you didn't find out truth from the islam it is your own matter!!!not islam's matter !!as well as if you look at sky didn't find out the sun of course it not sun's matter instead it your own eyea matter!!!and i have to say you didn't find out truth in the islam ,Quran and you go to othere religous you forever find to the truth if you have to say i will must find then that truth you will look out not troth.....atleast you are using hands that created by allah to type your posts and you are using your brain created by allah to make thinking...isn't it ? .........you look at your body and look at your around things : plants ,animals ...stars ...the whole things in the earth ,unvers.......then you look at Quran.hadiss..also you are keep thinking about all things .........also i want to ask you in the islam don't allow you make boyfriends and before you marriage stay with him!!!it is not islam!!!!it is not islamic way!!!!
@dikonoha (122)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 10
I think you sould try to take your father a hearth to hearth discusion, and star from I ofer you to look back what have ever in muslim, and what you have from baha. honestly I'm a muslim and as long I try to configure what is religion was? one thing that I find out that is the same thing what we want to be as a belifer wich is to find the dor way stait to heaven. and for you i sugestion you try to get the meaning off al'Quran and the baha bible, and seek the answear by your self. I hope it's helping you solf your problem.
@deenaly (162)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
Humans are like that. Not just your father, anyone would not want their children, raised and taught the belief of a religion they've been holding on to, suddenly come to them and say that they want to change religion. The hardships you encounter is common for any convert.
I just hope you will find the truth about that religion you are searching for. I suggest however for you to compare between baha'i and Islam thoroughly. It pains me to see my fellow muslim change their 'aqidah' after been led to the light of the truth, but hopefully someday you will notice yourself that there is no religion truer than islam.
Just one thing about the baha'i that you should know. The religion is named after him, who claims to be a prophet from the prophets line like abraham, moses, jesus and muhammad. If that's the case, then this religion is not a religion at all, because the teachings brought by these prophets are coming from Allah and they have no known names (christianity does not come from jesus as they claim) except for islam, which is definitely not muhammad's name. Try to find out what are the mu'jizah the prophet has or had. If he has no mu'jizah, then he is not a prophet.
I hope you'll find the truth.
@Elliot1987 (6)
• China
21 Jan 10
though i dont know much about religion,i hope u can work it out soon and meke it up
with your father and your family.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jan 10
Hanan-x3!Almost all religions end with the ultimate truth and there is no muslim truth or christian truth or any other truth based on a single relious view.The customs followed may be different and were arranged by the elders to suit the locality.When people can travel anywhere,these customs seem meaningless.Leave it.......nobody can force a releigion into others.You can exist as anything under the name of any religion.In fact,you need no religion at all to remain a good human.
