It is easier to criticize than to help? Of course it is!!
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
January 21, 2010 6:43am CST
Are you perfect? I'm not, I'm just a human being.
How you deal with those who criticize all the time?You're one of those who think it's easier to criticize than to help?You accept that other critical, because no one is perfect, do not you? Not even you!!I am sure.
I have an aunt, my father's sister who is ill, if not expostulate.
No one ever heard the advice to help someone, or if one can forgive a mistake.
Therefore one and ignore, and not a visit, and my kids avoid one, even if she calls us to take our visit.She knows everything about everyone, says only evil, finds guilty for everything, everywhere.
Do you know someone as is my aunt? How you deal with such people?
What do you do with such people? Just ignore them or tried to explain that was not always right are not perfect?
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@Java09 (3075)
• United States
24 Jan 10
No one is perfect,though they may think so,I would rather help someone out than criticize them.I don't think it's right to judge someone's situation when they're not the ones living in it.I do not know how to deal with people like that,I guess I just wouldn't.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
I have never met people who are perfect in all sense of the word. Your aunt is not abnormal but she has some nagging sense of inferiority or imperfection. Nothing will change her character. She is who she is. The only thing that chances is your awareness of it. I am not perfect either and no human is perfect, yet we were made perfectly.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
21 Jan 10
The worst is to critics when you're not in an informed manner.We are all humans, but it's well before critical, to think that perhaps we are not right, and it's better to be book;This is just common sense problem.
You're right, my aunt nothing will change, but remains the only, and this is the worst for it, to be alone.
@livewyre (2450)
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21 Jan 10
This is a very good point, often people are critical (I know I can be...) because of their lack of confidence or self-worth - it may sound unlikely but it is actually true. A lot of bullies turn out to be insecure and so they hit out at others.
There are two things that need to be done:
Firstly you should be able to correct someone who is being overly critical, but secondly you should be sensitive to their vulnerability and not criticise them in return in a way that is going to make things worse...
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
21 Jan 10
Unfortunately, it is much easier to point out what is wrong then to point out how people can improve and help guide them. It requires little effort on the part of anyone to criticize. It actually is something when people help. I am a person who tries to help but I wonder if I criticize a bit too much. That might not be my intention, but it does seem to come off that way. I have run into my fair share of people who tend to point out everything that is wrong, with both myself and others. If I had to ever meet those people again, it would be all too soon.
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