What are your expectation for a friend?

hello bulastika, actually i don't expect much from my friends, what i just want is an honest & trustworthy friend... i also hear that from my mom before but i beg to disagree a bit, coz i believe that there are still some true friends that we can depend upon even on the lowest point of our lives... i know some who have a friend that is already like a family to them & some is even greater than their own siblings... but of course these kind are very few and if you find one, then you are so lucky and its a treasure that you find... good day!

For me a friend is not just someone whom we considered always there for you to cheer you up in times you feel blue. And our expectation for a friend must not limit from what they can only personally do for us. A friend or a true friend must be someone who's willing to be there for you in good and bad times. When you do something good for your friend or your friend do something for you you don't expect something in return. However, you must be willing to help back in return when your situation interchange and that is being a friend. Being a user is when you're only expecting your friend to give and do you a favor. When they needed you you're not willing to lend your hand or ear to listen to.

Expectations hurt, so never expect from your friends or people around you because maybe they want to help you but at the particular time they are not in position (mentally, financially or emotionally) to help you so in this context you will feel that he is not helping me and you will lose a good friend. Dont expect just help them at any level you can afford.

I would go even further with this, than did your Mother. My take is," You have friends in good times, your family in bad times, and in the worst of times you have yourself!" I'm 76 years old and do not have a friend for this very reason. I have never wanted or needed a friend because I am my own best friend! I've lived a long and very happy life completely friendless. I would not have it any other way!

Actually, a person should never borrow money off of a friend. It can ruin the friendship pretty fast. I used to have a friend that was continuously borrowning money from me and I never got paid back when she said she would and then when I would ask for the money, when I know she just got paid, she would always put me off and not pay me back for awhile. But the the next time she needed to borrow some money I was always there for her but then I would have to wait forever, again, to get it back. So it ended up ruining our friendship because to me she wasn't much of a friend when I felt like I was always being used by her.

I don't expect my friends to give me gifts during special occasions. I don't expect them to lend me money. I don't expect them to do things for me. I just expect them to listen to me when something is bothering me and I need to talk to someone. I expect them to be honest with me and help me bring out the best in me. I also expect them to be there for me when I need them the most. I am so glad I found those kind of friends. There's three of them. They are not always there when there is a celebration. However, when I have a problem even if I don't tell them they always find a way to know and they are always there for me. We just don't consider each other as friends.We treat each other as a family.

I don't really expect my friends to do things for me, although I know that if I were sick my friends would bring me food or medicine. They have also helped me move. But I do things for my friends too, when they need help. it;s hard to say when the turning point is, but I think you become a user when you start taking it for granted that the person will do it and stop reciprocating.

Well I mean I want my friends to have similar tastes as me but differences are good too of course...but I dont "expect" that..Things that i truly do expect from a friend are honesty, compassion and that they are kind hearted and openminded ppl....

I would beg to differ with your mother. When my family was in trouble, my husband and I stood by them and helped every way possible. Now that we are having trouble, they call, but that's about all and his brother doesn't even bother to do that. On the other hand, my best friend, came to help me with my disabled husband and is staying as long as she possibly can. His best friend knew we had no money for attorney bills to get me made his guardian, so she opted to pay the tab. These two ladies have brought me more comfort and ease than any other member of our family except my son, who comes over as often as possible to help. What did I expect from them - nothing. What are they giving - all they possibly can. They are the friends that if it was a choice between them or me dying, I would be the one taking their place. The world would be a sadder place without them.

Hi..Sorry, I never expect all things that you told about friends.I just expected that they could be my friend to share, to looking for solution when I had a problem or company me when I need them. The important for me that my friends could give positive effect, help me to be good person.

Hi bulastika,I don't expect any thing from my friends.What ever will be will be.I just work hard for our frienship to last.By the way,i'm not expecting anything because i've learned that too much expectation will hurt us.Have a nice day!

yes,Mother said in the point of her view that family stands in bad times more than friends.But there are friends who stand with us in our bad situations also.God will send someone or the other to help us ., so they are our friends.

I want an honest friend, not only a friend in good times a friend who can stay beside you in good and in bad times, i really mind honesty in friendship,and not a friend when she need rescue financially,sometimes friends is so hard to be true, i know someone who get closed to me for something but whatever purposed they have in mind its them who carry the burden.Hope to find at least a true and honest friend, aside from my mom.

What I expect from my friend is understanding, caring, loving. A friend that always be there in my sadness and happiness time. I never make a friendship because of money. I think thats not a true friendship, if u have another purpose to make a friend. I think there is always a friend that will stay beside u in ur bad times. In that time, u will now, which friend is you true friend.

If I am friends with somebody then firstly I expect them to be nice and not talking about me behind my back. I would expect them to be willing to lend me money and I would be willing to do the same in return for them. If I was sick or busy then I would expect someone to put themselves out for me, whether this was shopping, cooking or cleaning. I would also be willing to do the same for them if they were a true friend. The turning point of being a user is when someone relies on you to always be there to do things and yet is not willing to do anything in return.

I'm an independant person so I can't imagine asking someone for money and have never expected a friend to do so. Shopping as well. I may expect them to go shopping WITH me but not for me. A favor is a one off usually, if a friend is asking you to do a lot for them and giving you nothing back, they are a user.

I expect my friend to be a secret keeper. If I share something really private and confidential, I expect her not to spill the beans even to his/her own family. I don't really expect them to lend me a huge amount of money when I need it badly. It's better to ask help from my family when it comes to financial matters. Shopping for a friend is way abusive. I would surely refuse it even if he/she is my friend.I would just accompany her when he/she shops.

As far as I am concenred, I think I just expect a little from my close friends. What I expect from them is when I am in trouble or in low sprit, I hope they can come to give me a hand or say something to comfor me a little. I think that is enough for my friend.

Hello! I would expect my friends to be willing to do the same things for me that I would do for them. Things that involve trust and respect from its littlest to biggest sense. There would really be issues in a friendship when one starts to abuse the other one's kindness. But I'm grateful for my friends because we can count on each other for support through the good and bad times.