What if your first love comes back to you?

Even if he were my first love, I'd probably not get back with him because I now have a family. I've moved on and so should he. He'll always have a special place in my heart, but my husband and daughter now have the biggest part of me.

I was in love with someone very dear to me. I liked the time we both spent together and never imagined life without her. The world seemed a beautiful place to live in and the life seemed like a fairy-tale. Things, however, went horribaly wrong and the building came crashing down and I had to leave her so she had to. The reason has no meaning now as I lost my love totally and forever. The time was very diffucult after that and I did not know what to do. The thing that broke our relation will always remain in the corner of my mind and that corner is very very personal and it can hardly be corrected. However, there is a strong desire I feel to remain in contact with my love again. It was not that I was rejected or what otherwise, how would we be lovers? But I doubt if I will be able to treat her in the same good old lovely way, that I once used to do so lovingly. It is difficult for the same feelings to be intact after a breakup. But some things are true to me. Now I am grown up, married and moving on in life.

I was a late bloomer. And I am also never for the lovey dovey stuff. But I did get my share of admirers. When I bump into them now, I couldn't even remember their foolish ways of courting. When we get the chance to reminisce the old days, it's all like friendship renewed. Friendships are blessings. Not unless it might cause some untoward situation. Reassess your options. If it's all clean, then why not reestablish the good old days? But that is my perception. Your culture could be different.

First loves are a thing of the past if you are not with them currently. Sure there might be a spark for a short second if that person were to come in front of you suddenly but now that you are happily married and well settled, don't throw that away. First love is first love but long lasting love is all that you should think about now and here on forth. Don't be unfair with your wife since she didn't reject you and and found happiness with you. Something your first love did not care to have with you. Therefore, if she were to come back, it'll be a problem not a blessing. Picture your life without your wife and current life. Do you see yourself happy?

Mutpal74, It all depends on the breakup and if was hard one one partner than the other. It break was based on mutual friendship and you still got along and but had the distance and went your seperate ways and now that person back in I would say it was ok. But if was a bad break up and the person stills feel hurt and unresolved issues with the relaionship I would rather have my space and keep my diatance of that person whether they ahd good intentions or not. Thanks and have a Great day Sincerely Unique16

It happened to me but we just wanna save the friendship we used to have distance apart but whichever part we look at it its a blessing to be friends again for it is not common for us because we have a very bad break-up.

wow, what a question. i just started a topic too about my first love that i remembered him while listening to a song... hmm... i really don't know what to do. maybe i'll save the friendship for now and we'll see what happens next, that is if i dont have family yet. but if i do, then, still save the friendship and that would be it. nothing to do more.

I think it would be a problem if you still have a special feelings for him or her... Like you haven't totally moved on and accepted that your story ended up years ago and you both have different lives now... It is hard not to entertain those thoughts, I must agree especially if your relationship with your wife or husband is not going well... or on the rocks... But the thing is we have somebody to be hitted if we go on with this "first love"... I know how hard to forget those "first good experiences, First romantic and happy moments"... And those memories are the things that are holding us back to that person... There is always a thought behind our head... questioning: what if it was us??? Am I going to be happier??? Considering the good things you both shared... Oh that is very complicated... But I think we should do what is right... Though I know at times it is hard, but I know in the end we will be rewarded if we do and choose what is right not just in the eayes of the people around you but in the eyes of the Lord....