What do you think of this?

@Seppy1984 (2148)
United States
February 1, 2010 12:36pm CST
With Valentines coming around really soon, I was thinking about doing something special for my hubby and then it hit me. Well let's put it this way we never do anything on Valentines day, but lately we have been fighting and I am not sure if it is from everything that has been happening lately but I thought if I did a dinner for my hubby and I that is if I can get his parents to take the boys that maybe this would give us a chance to reconnect and hopefully resolve the problems that we are having. But back to the plan that hit me, when my hubby and I were together the first time when we were 16 which was 10 years he did a spaghetti dinner for him and I. I thought it was the sweetest thing ever. I took a peanut butter pie over that day, as it was his favorite pie. He even put a candle in the middle of the table and it was so romantic. Of course we did get to have private time because after he made the food his family stayed in the living room. Well this is what I want to do, he has no clue that I am planning this, I want to make that spaghetti dinner for us like he did when we were together at 16. I am going to make the peanut butter pie and of course have the candle too. I think that maybe if I do this he will see how much I love him and then he will see that he does make me very happy. He believes that he does not make me happy because we fight, so I am hoping that this will give us a chance to reconnect and fix the problems that has been causing us to fight. I know that if I ask his parents to take the boys they would even at that I know my parents would if his couldn't. So I am wondering what you all think about this little dinner plan? Do you think it could help our marriage out? Any comments or ideas would be very much appreciated. Happy Mylotting
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8 responses
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
2 Feb 10
Great Idea Seppy! Wouldn't that be something if he was secretly planning to make the same dinner? This is very exciting and am sure that it will open his eyes to how you feel about him. Hopefully this will allow you both to reconnect. Let us know how it goes.
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Hello, Wow that would be something. Man that would be the double everything...LOL. I hope that it does open his eyes, I will for sure let you know how things went.I hope that this works the way I want it to. Happy Mylotting
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
3 Feb 10
Me too Seppy. Thank you for your comment. Wishing you both a memorable day and always!
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
3 Feb 10
Well thank you for that comment, it means a lot to me.
@lanlan011 (701)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I think this is a very sweet idea, it sounds like something out of a movie. If you do this he'll see that you love him because you took out the time to prepare something which has a special meaning in your relationship. It is worth a try.
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
1 Feb 10
Hello, you are right it does sound like something that would come out of a movie. I figure that I am going to give it a try because I figure that the only you know if it will work is if you try. I just hope that it does work in my favor. Happy Mylotting
• United States
1 Feb 10
I would like to hear how it goes. Please give us an update afterwards if its possible!!
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Well I do plan on giving an update after it happens. I figure it would be a great short story for everyone. Happy Mylotting
@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
11 Feb 10
I think this is a very sweet idea. I have done a few things recently that my husband and I have done in the past as well. We have been together since I was 14 and he was 17 and that was 10 years ago. So it's always nice to remember things from years ago. Good luck. I hope it works.
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
12 Feb 10
Hello, I too think it is nice to remember things from the past. Well come to find out that it wont happen this year because my in-laws decided that they wanted to go to the camping show again like they do every year and yet don't buy a camper ever because they know they do not have the money to buy one. So we decided that we are going to go out for dinner with the boys. We will be going out just us 2 in about 2 1/2 months. Only if it was easier for us to have alone time. It is so hard when my hubby works 3 shift. Happy Mylotting
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I think it is a very nice idea and I am sure that he will really appreciate the effort. It will give you guys a chance to reflect back on when times were better. Plus it is always nice to have time alone with out the kids it always gives you a chance to re-connect on an adult level and to have an adult conversation. However if there are issues that need resolved the talking could get quite serious, and may not be entirely romantic be prepared for that, but I think it is a very nice gesture, and will remind both of you of a time when you were young, carefree, and in love.
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Hello, yes you are right about the talking could get really serious so I decided that I will till the next day to bring up the issues. But I am hoping that it can take us back to where we use to be. I know that things change when couples have children but I never thought it would be to were we fight. I will say that since I put this discussion up, things have calmed down for us. I am hoping that it stays like this and that the dinner will help our marriage become more better. Happy Mylotting
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I think it sounds like a sweet idea. I hope that being reminiscent of when you first got together helps the two of you talk and work on the things that are making argue.
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Well I hope that he thinks it will be as sweet as I and all of you mylotters think it is. I hope that we can figure out why we can't get along right now. Because I feel that we are a perfect match in heaven, it's just that we need to get over that little bump in the road. Happy Mylotting
• United States
1 Feb 10
I say it's a good idea. But I would say try to put any of the fights away for the night. Just don't discuss it if possible. Talk about the disagreements on the 15th if necessary. Just make it about the romance and the reconnection. Good luck.
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Well that there is such a great idea. I will do that and then wait till the next day and then see what happens. Happy Mylotting
• United States
1 Feb 10
I know how you feel with you and your hubby fighting because my husband and I are going through the same thing. I think it is great that you want to cook dinner for your husband and try to rekindle and bring your marriage back on track. I am sure his parents or your parents will allow the boys to stay over night. I wish you the best of luck.
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Hello, well I hope that it goes as well as I am hoping. Thanks for the luck because I will need all the luck I can get. I hope that you and your husband can get everything on track too. It seems that this year is going to be a stressful year for everyone. Happy Mylotting
@AJ13AM (1)
• United States
12 Feb 10
Your meal idea is good, but don't have expectations of how it will go, or you'll be disappointed. I recently have been having trouble in my marriage too. We have been together 9 years, but have been married less than a year. I feared for our marriage and so I went book shopping on-line in desperation, not even really thinking this would help. I found a book called "How one of you can bring the two of you together" it is by Susan Page. The book isn't perfect, and I do disagree with a few things that the author has to say, but I feel like if I wouldn't have gotten the book, my downward spiral would have turned into a divorce. I got it used from amazon so it was less than 10 dollars even with shipping. I had it shipped in two days because I knew I needed it fast, and I am glad I did. I started reading it immediately, it's been about three weeks and I am on the last chapter of the book (I work a lot, like a whole lot) so it took me awhile to get through it. Anyway, it's been about three weeks and he's touching me again (which he wasn't before, at all). He's holding my hand, and he's sharing ideas and information with me. He's asking my opinion. I feel good again about the relationship, and I think he's starting to feel this way too. If you get the book, follow through on the suggestions, they seem to work. Like I said, I like your idea for dinner, you should do it, but don't let anything disappoint you, take it all in stride, even if he doesn't seem to appreciate it (I know this sounds weird). Give him the benefit of the doubt, that what ever it is that he is doing wrong, it's only because he doesn't know HOW to do it right (right now he's stuck in this behavior pattern with you). I wish you all the luck and good will in the world! Take care and have a good valentines!