Can't pay my electric bill because I bought a few gold rings and necklaces

United States
February 11, 2010 5:20pm CST
A friend of mine works really hard to raise her child and keep a good job while saving up money to buy a house. However, she has a mother who constantly calls her asking for loans and money to pay her electric bill. This wouldn't be so bad except that everytime my friend goes over there to help out, her mother likes so show off her newest piece of jewelry, or her name brand clothes, or the new name brand sneakers she bought her son. I cannot tell my friend to stop bailing out her mom and baby brother because that's her family. I just wish her mom would prioritize and stop using my friend. P.s. My friend also has to pay her mom to look after her child after school.
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15 responses
@azdolar (28)
• Bulgaria
12 Feb 10
I'm sorry for your friend.No one should use anyone else like that especially mothers... That's unbelievable! However, you should advice friend and show her what's best for her.That's my opninion
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
12 Feb 10
honestly, i think the only way this lady is going to learn is if she has to face a few harsh realities, sure i would like to buy some gold but hey, i like to eat so hm, which is more important. the daughter needs to stop bailing mom out!!!
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
12 Feb 10
wow. It's really too bad that you cannot say anything to your friend. Her mother is using her and pulling her down.
@tess5162 (66)
• United States
12 Feb 10
If you two are really close friends then you should be able to talk to your friend and be honest with her. Tell her that its great that she is helping her mom out when she really needs it but she needs to concentrate more on saving up for her house. She needs to talk to her mom and let her know that she doesn't like the fact that she can buy all these things but dont have any money when it comes time to pay the bills. her mom really needs to get her priorities straight.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
My only hope is that the mom doesn't buy real jewelry because that would be very expensive. If those are only fake pieces or only meant for accent or accessorizing, it's okay because those things are not really that expensive. Maybe that is her mother's happiness. Your friend has to help her mom who takes care of her child.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
12 Feb 10
wow, sounds like her mom using her instead of really asking for help. Actually, if her mom doesn't have money to pay for her electric bill, she can pawn her jewelry and her brand name clothing to get some money to for the monthly billing. I understand that it would hard to ask your friend not to help her family. But she has to be realistic too.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Maybe she's not actually using her. I mean, that's her mom. I just think that the two of them needs to talk about their priorities since her mom's priorities are getting on her way. Maybe the mother is thinking its okay because she's not saying anything. They just need to bridge the communication gap.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
12 Feb 10
Looks like she is not a very good situation. Still I know how she feels because my friend also is in the same situation.
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
It is a good virtue to look after the needs of your parents but in this case, the mom is taking advantage. She should be thankful that her daughter is taking care of her. She had to tell her mom and brother not to depend on her too much because she has a kid to support as well. If this thing drags on, your friend will be miserable.
@jugsjugs (13045)
12 Feb 10
There are alot of people out there that tend to never pay their bills as well as expect others to lend them money or give them money as they have wasted their money on all the things that they can do with out.There are alot of people out there that no sooner have they got their money they have spent it as well as buying all the latest fashion,electrical items etc then they have no more for their normal bills as well as food for their children.Some people should wake up to reality as well as the people that are giving them money should stop doing it so that they have to stand on their own two feet.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Personally, i think that is not right. When children has grown up and have their own jobs and family, parents should not depend on them for financial support. It is on their own if they still want to help the family but it is not their responsibility. I appreciate whatever ,my eldest daughter give her sisters but i try not to ask money or loans from her because she has a family of her own. Family helps each other but not to the point of a member being taken advantage of. I do not know if your friend's mom has a job or not but i think if she depends on her daughter for a living then she should not be spending so much on luxuries, rather, try to live within the budget that her daughter can afford for her and try to help her daughter in any way she can in return, like taking care of her grandchildren.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
12 Feb 10
It sounds to me like this woman needs to practice some tough love with her mom and cut off the loans. The only way her mom is going to learn to budget responsibly is to suffer some consequences when she doesn't
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
11 Feb 10
I know exactly what you are talking about its people who don't pay their bills first but go and spend their money then want to borrow money from family or friends to pay the bills to keep the lights on. Its just not right at all. People need to be accountable for their own bills and their money. They should not be buying things that they can't afford. Why can't they save the money up till they have the full amount and then buy whatever it is they want. They have to pay their bills first then whatever they have leftover they can spend how they wish. I just can't believe its a mom doing it to her daughter. Usually its the other way around.
@sunyskies (126)
• United States
11 Feb 10
I don't think she has any choice but to stop helping her mother. If she continues to help her, she will continue to be taken advantage of. I'm sure it's hard for her to turn her mother and brother away if they are in need, but she will have to do it sooner or later. Maybe she should start by having a talk with her mother about what expenses are priorities and explain that she can't continue to help if her mother doesn't take those priorities seriously. I feel bad for your friend, it can't be easy.
• United States
11 Feb 10
Well if this was my mother I would have quit helping out awhile ago. I will help family and friends if they are taking care of priorities first. But her priorities need to be looked at because she needs to worry about rent, electric, and whatever bills before she goes and worries about non essential things.