Does your friend ever make you feel like you are nothing?

@ANIME123 (2466)
United States
February 12, 2010 9:28pm CST
My friend he always makes me feel bad about myself. He always make me feel unintelligent and I think that he feels like he can take advantage of me because he knows that I wont say anything back to him or do anything like hit him. It can get annoying because he feels like I am weak and he likes to write with pen on my hand. I just don't know how to make him stop. I always feel like I am nothing and that I am not strong to stop him no matter how hard I try. What can I do??? Have you ever experienced something like this.
12 responses
@snowy22315 (169993)
• United States
13 Feb 10
He or she doesnt sound like uch of a friend. It's sort of like the old expression with friends like that who needs enemies?
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@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
13 Feb 10
You may be right he may not be such a good friend my other friend also doesn't like him because of the way he acts towards me and her.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Maybe he's not doing it intentionally and you allowed him to do it on you. Talk to him about it that you don't like what he is doing. or maybe he is just motivating you to do better. You don't see it now because you are concentrating the hurt that your feeling. go go! talk to him
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
13 Feb 10
I will try to talk to him, but still many times I have told him to stop and he does not. It's like he gets amusement out of it. Still I'll see how everything turns out.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Yeah that right! Goodluck. I hope you could fix this between you and you're friend. If it doesn't work, then don't force it. You will just get depressed more..:)
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
13 Feb 10
Why is this person someone you consider to be a friend? Friends do not treat you badly. Friends lift your spirits when you are down, they encourage you, stand by you and build you up when you have doubts about yourself. You should make new friends and dump this one because he's not treating you very well at all. When I was in school I had a theory about friends....I would rather have a few good ones than a whole lot of bad ones. The good ones I chose have been my friends for over 30 years now.
• China
13 Feb 10
Exactly! I dont know how u 2 get so close,loneliness? It's probably a dilemma.But I tend to suggest u to have a serious talk with him.Be serious!If he continue to be rude,u'd better leave him alone.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 10
Well, if my friends ignoring me like the way you d, i just stop to give him some advice. I will ignore him, just say hello at him when we met the leave him, It is annoy me too if someone just see me as a weak person. It makes my confident down.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
13 Feb 10
I have actually tried to ignore him, but he always makes me pay attention to him well this time it's not going to work. I am going to fully ignore him and just say hi to him and that's it.
• United States
13 Feb 10
I had something like this happen to me a long time ago when I was in school. I thought the person was a really good friend to me but any time I wanted to spend time with someone other than him he would get angry. He would tell me that I was worthless and no good and insult me on almost everything. So I would stop talking with my other friends because it made him angry and I didn't like how he would treat me. Finally my mother noticed that my mood was changing when I was getting home from school. She asked if everything was okay and I told her about this guy friend. She told me that I should stop talking to him and change some of my classes so I wasn't in the same room as him. This was a very hard thing for me because he was the only one that I had then as a friend. I talked to him about how he was making me feel. That I wanted to have other friends and he needed to accept that or I wasn't going to hang out with him anymore. He was very upset and said that I was his only friend and that I needed to be with him no matter what and that I couldn't leave his side. I was scared that if I did leave he would do something to hurt me. I went and talked with some of my old friends that I hadn't seen in a long time and told them what was going on. All my friends said that they would help me out of this situation. I stopped talking to the guy and tried to avoid him as much as I could. One day I was walking down the hallway in school and he walked up to me and was going to say something to me when three of my friends walked up and took my arm and walked me away. He stopped trying to talk with me and I am now much happier. For you I would say trying to talk with him first on how you feel when he does the things you don't like. No one should be told that they are dumb or others things that make them feel worthless. He should also not be writing on you in anyway, that's your body not his! If he doesn't stop get away from him! He is not going to make your life any better it will only get worse. This may hurt you, losing him as a friend in your eyes but you will always find other hopefully better friends than him. There are so many other people out in this world. If you need someone to talk with add me as a friend. I will try to give you advice, support, or just to talk about anything. I hope this may help you. Good luck and let me know how things go with this issue of yours.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
13 Feb 10
Thank you for your advice it's really good that you changed your classes and avoided him that must have been rough on you. I will see what I can do because I have realized that my mood has changed because of him so wish me the best of luck.
13 Feb 10
To start with you are not weak it is people like your friend who is weak as they need to pick on people to make themselves feel better. I know you prob won`t like what i`am about to say but you should stop being friends with this person i know it hurts to lose a friend but if you stay friends with this person then the mental abuse will continue. Once you stop talking to this person you will find new, better friends that will treat you with respect or your friend may see the error of his ways and change his attitude. You could try doing the same to him but i wouldn`t recommend it as 2 wrongs don`t make a right and you are better than that. chin up and i hope it works out for you as you deserve to be treated better. Good luck
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
13 Feb 10
Yes maybe I will have to stop being friends with him because being friends with him is just making me feel depressed and worthless. I'm glad you said that two wrongs don't make a right because I was actually thinking about saying mean things to him. I thank you for saying that because now I know that I do not want to sink to his level.
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
13 Feb 10
this friend dosen't sound like a real friend to me. a friend wants what is best for you, builds you up, not puts you down. i knew many people like this they had one up on me. if i said something, they would try to top it. i think people like this are very insecure. i would become more assertive on your part and tell him how you feel and mean it. if he dosen't stop, i would stop this friendship. the best to you.
@dianmelydia (2269)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 10
Sometimes my friend makes me feel such feeling. But i don't really care about it since i believe that my friend perhaps is not really want to make me sad. But of course, some friends are really annoying and seem like want to make problem with me. However, i never give attention to such people because i believe that everything take time. Perhaps a friend can make me sad right now or make me feel like i'm nothing in front of other people, but when the time is come, the same feeling will come to that person as well. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
@Jay_melow (103)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 10
anime,you have to be patient...because i also have ever experienced something like you..
• Canada
13 Feb 10
I can really relate. This happened to me in high school. I had a friend, (I thought was my friend)that I hung out with during high school, but there was one big problem. He never included me in hardly anything he was doing in school or at home. The only time he would want me to hang with him was to play video games at his house. One day I told him straight up to stop using me and change your ways. If you don't, I will go my ways and you go yours. I guess he felt offended so we never spoke ever since. I feel everyone deserves respect and if your friend is not giving the respect you deserve then confront them about it because you are worth it. Everyone is worth it.
• Canada
13 Feb 10
Let me tell you about my experiences with those kind of friends. When I was in high school I had this friend that really thought he was so popular and basically thought he was a chick magnet. Everyday in school he would hang with his popular friends and make jokes with them and when he came home and was bored he would then call me up and invite me to his house to play Football video games. I honestly do not know what I was thinking. But then I dawned on me that if I don't say something to him and put him in his place, he would continue to take advantage of me for as long as he wants. So what I did one day was tell him a piece of my mind and gave him an ultimatum. Either you stop using me and treat me like your friend or go hang with your other pretentious so called friends. Unfortunately he felt offended and we never spoke since. Maybe it was for the best because right now I have a beautiful girlfriend and two children and the user friend that I had is unemployed and stressed out.
@slbwyc (63)
• Singapore
13 Feb 10
i never get myself in such a situation. because both me and my friend value each other . we always take consideration of other's opinion. care each other's feelings. therefore we never have the feeling that we are ignored and our opinion are unsounded. happy to make friends with them. they make my life meaningful and wonderful