Disappointed with my boss? how do you deal .....

You have pride in your job, Dorothy, and that is really good. I have been in the same situation as you and overcame the problem by being self critical and judging my own work. If I felt that I could have done it better then I admitted it to myself and noted it down in my mind for future reference. However, if I knew that I had excelled myself and produced excellent work then I would pat my back and walk around the office with a big smile like I was the cat that had eaten the cream! haha You are doing the right thing to bottle it up. Just accept it as the way it is and be your own critic. Just wait till you take annual leave and see what your boss's reaction is after being without you for a couple of weeks!

hi to you! musta ka? well if i were you i'd definitely find some good ways to establish my name. or maybe it is not your time yet to shine! or maybe its a matter of mismatched with your job and peers. not your carier anyway as you just said you're more than performing in your job. as per her personal life, you can't do anything but if she seeks for your advice, why not give your compassion also. oki...

I certainly do know how you feel. I remember working for a woman who was this way. It was always we could do better no matter what a good job we would do. It is hard to take. Do you have any mediator department or anything like that? There any really any way I can think of to change this situation for you unless you have a type of meeting occasionally that askes for any improvement ideas. I would use that forum. Or ask your immediate supervisor.

hello dorothy, well i guess most of us do feel disappointed with our superiors at one time or another. but we can force them to be as appreciative as we wanted, maybe she have her own way of showing her appreciation, different boss have different personalities. same with all other people... by the way, is she your immediate superior? maybe she just send her appreciation through other things or other people. something like that. just continue your good working attitude and who knows one day, she will just approach you and say...'dorothy, its job well done, congrats!'

Hi Dorothy, i understand your feelings but don't expect to much from your boss. there are really boosses who are not so good in affirming their staff. as long as you know yourself as it relates to how you perform your job is already a great on to your self-affirmation. at least you have nice people around you who can attest on to your ability as a diligent person. take it as a challenge. may be you need to do some more. now, if you think you already give your all and you still feel the same, maybe it's not the right job for you. don't let your work stress you so much. you must be happy with your work and be able to establish and maintain an healthy boss-staff friendly but professional relationship!

That can be very demoralizing. If you have a personel liason person maybe you could suggest that the boss have messages of encouragement that are given to the good performers. Some people don't know how to give praise even when they are impressed and even just a generic message of thanks is better than nothing.

well, i can perfectly understand how you feel... sometimes we need to hear some kind of encouragement words from our boss to make us perform better in the future... i also seldom hear those words from my boss no matter how hard and well i perform... at least you can still hear some encouragement words from your department manager... anyway, i tell myself not to hope too much to hear those words anymore and just perform as best as i could... God will see it and i prefer to be praised by Him when I met him later rather than be praised by humans... this is my opinion only though... take care and have a nice day...

Well for some that kind of a boss is a very common thing. I think for as long as she gives what is due you it is okay. But I would hate her if she just uses you and never gets any credit from you. But I think she is okay for me, there are a lot more worse boss that yours is. I think that you may start befriending your boss and she may open up with you. I think she just needs to find something to connect with you so she can freely express her feelings with you.

dorothy09, Let me assure you that your boss is not "blind" and insensitive to your work rate and attitude which is quite credible from what you've posted here. However, I hope that you would remember that her pensiveness and personality is really an individual thing. Also, if I may remind you that it is a tough job out there for every "boss" especially during this economic weather where we could not afford to let down our guard, where any or rather just one wrong decision can devastate the company and result in a hemorrhage fatality. Your boss may be impersonal and does not seem to appraise readily but let's not forget that this has already been delegated to your department manager. So, I am sure that your contributions are not and never in vain and be assured. Also, please remember that you are part of a team and as long as you live up your part of the bargain - the company will never be at the end of the food chain. Take care and have a nice day. “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” - Charles R. Swindoll.

Hey dorothy! I know exactly how you are feeling and it really sucks! It is so frustrating to want to hear that you are doing a great job from someone who won't even bother giving you the time of day! I have had that problem at many jobs! It just makes you feel so worthless even when you know that you are doing the best job that you possibly can! And all that you want is just a little acknowledgement! It is a very miserable and frustrating feeling! But, unfortunately there are alot of very miserable people in this world and they seem to be the ones in "charge"! I don't pretend to understand it and hate that it seems to work out that way! Just keep doing what you are doing and hopefully someone in the right place will notice!

Well, don't mind her. I mean, maybe she is just not the showy or the expressive type. Though I think she is trying to show that she appreciates your work by increasing your salary. There are just some people who are not really expressive and don't know how to show their appreciation to other people, though it doesn't mean that they don't appreciate what you do. Just know in yourself that you are doing a job good, and that's will get you through it.

I know exactly how it feels to have a boss that is like that because my unit manager when I worked at the hospital was the kind of woman that never praised her employees for a job well done. I would get frustrated about the fact that she couldn't find a way to praise us, but I certainly didn't let it bring my work down because I knew that there were more important people that did thank us for our work, that was my patients. If it hadn't been for the patients at the hospital I don't know how long I would have been able to last with that job.

Well it doesn't matter for me if my boss doesn't recognize my work as long as my salary is great and equal to the job that I had done. Unfortunately, my boss also doesn't recognize me as well as my salary. I had a lot of work and sometimes I give revenue to the company, bu what she did was she increases her salary because of the revenue that I had put in the company. That is so annoying and I am planning to resign.

Have you asked your boss about this? Perhaps she doesn't realise how you feel. Our boss was the same, but now she is much better since she knows that we need to hear positive things sometimes. And if she is alone all the time perhaps, even though she is the boss she is very shy.

I think we all have disappointments every once in a while with our superiors. I guess we sometimes forget that they have to work too and their jobs aren't that easy. Maybe just having a nice open conversation with your boss to express your feelings might help ease the tension.

hello dorothy, Probably that's how she was brought up to during her early days in work, some people aren't as lucky as you that you get to get complements from other employees. what if this person wanted to help you exert more effort and not let that compliment get in the way of your usual work. some people are like that, they just let you do your work, and when they feel that you are ready for the next level then that's the time she will assign you for a heavier load of work. am sure she has trouble expressing herself, not to let her guard down