will you care how your best friend spend her hard earn money?

Philippines
February 22, 2010 10:22pm CST
What if your best friend spend her hard earn money on buying things that's quite bizarre, things that you think it's useless or no worth at all? Would you share what you think, or you just let her spend her money since it's not yours? Do you care how your best friend spend her money?
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Hey careguarden! That is something that I feel is never your business! I would never tell my friend how to spend her money! Especially if she was working! It is her business how she spends her money and not mine! I do have a girlfriend that was going to the gambling casino for awhile because it was new and had just opened up where we live and she started to go kind of regularly! But, as concerned as I was it wasn't my business to say anything to her because it was her money! That is something that you just never get into with a friend!
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Well that's what you think is right, for me it's different. Even though I don't have the right to tell her what to do with her money, but she's my best friend and I do care for her and knowing how she waste her hard earn money is not good. Anyway I wouldn't tell her how to spend it. I will only express my opinion and how I feel towards the things that she bought, she might not like it, but the best thing is I express and show with sincerity that I care and love for her, that's why I said those things. If she can't accept it, that's fine. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Feb 10
You are absolutely right careguarden! And if your friend is spending money on something that you feel is wrong and is going to end up hurting her then I agree that you should tell her! You are being a good friend! I didn't mean to sound like I was being a not caring friend, but my friends are the type that don't like anyone telling them what to do! I should have explained myself better! That is just how my friends are!
@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
25 Feb 10
I have a friend who spends a lot of money on something that I find a little bizarre. He buys those things online, and he often uses foreign shopping sites which makes it pretty expensive. Personally I would never spend so much money on the things that my friend buys, but I think that it is his own choice how how spends his money. In my opinion the things are bizarre and a waste of money, but that doesn't mean that they are waste of money to him, and I know that he really enjoys the things that he buys.
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Well, if my friend does have a lot of money well I don't mind her spending and buy whatever she likes, but if she just earn an average income and I know that one day she might need it, then I will tell her what I think, although I won't tell her what to do, just show my concern, that's what I think good friends are for. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• United States
24 Feb 10
I love my best friend but could care less what she buys with her hard earned money! :) She is the one that has to work everyday for it and as long as it does not directly affect me in any way I say let them do what they want. My best friend also knows that if she runs out of money she cant borrow mine! lol
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Oh, your best friend is indeed very lucky to have you, as you're always ready to give her money.lol Well actually for me it couldn't be that bad to tell my best friend my opinion about how she spend her money, since I care for her and I wouldn't mind as well if she did it to me. Friends should be open with each other and no holding back for whatever they feel and think towards each other, even if it hurts, what matter is you try. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Indonesia
23 Feb 10
maybe i will tell him/her to not waste too much money for something unimportant and if he/she does not want to hear it, tell him/her one more time, after that it is back to he/she decision, you already do your job as a good friend for her/him thanks before sincerely reborn is hard
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Hello rebornishard, I might do the same thing with you. I will definitely talk to my friend about what I feel towards the things that she bought simply because I care, even though it's not my hard earn money but the thing is she bought stuff that's basically worthless for me, as what my mind conceived. But I make it sure that I able to express it with sincerity and concern and if she's my best friend I'm sure she won't get offended or felt bad. Anyway friendship is all about sharing and caring for each other. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 10
Yes, i and my best friend is very close, since we get to know each other from childhood time. We learn and share secret among each other, so we are very close like sisters. Ever there is one time, where my best friend had bought a branded dress just for one-time wear to the party. I told her immediately that she had spend her money unwisely, because that dress she is not going to wear daily. She at first nearly misunderstood me. But, the next day, she met me and told me that, i had helped her save her hard earn money by telling her, my opinion. Luckily, the shop owner willing to refund back her money, so she bought a much cheaper dress which looks very nice too, to wear to the party.
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Well that's what best friend should be, being honest, open and care for each other even if it means hurting ones feelings. It did happens to me, I've a best friend once who happens to love buying signature clothes and I often told her what I feel about those things that she bought and she did listen sometimes, but I understand her and we both fight and make up and were good friends, unfortunately we're apart from each other as she's living on other country now and I'm here at home. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Yes i would and i will say my piece if i dont like how she does it. I treat my bestfriend as my sister, and vice versa. So i know she wont mind it if i remind her sometimes. But we still have to be on our side of the fence, all we can offer is concern, but we should respect their decision and try to understand them and be there when they fall apart cause of their crazy ways.
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Yeah, I did the same thing, since I care my best friend and even though she end up with trouble because she didn't listen to my advices, I never leave her and we always hand in hand solve the problems. Same with you, I treated my best friend as my sister and part of our family. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
yes i'll tell her my opinion especially if she's buying crap and useless things. that's what friends are for anyway... they're supposed to tell you that what you're doing is wrong.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Yeah, that's what friends should be, sharing our feelings and opinions even if it hurts. What matters is we express what we think is right and good. Though sometimes it could simmer the friendship, but holding back will get you nowhere. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
its her money so its up to her on how she will use her money. although sometimes we cant really help that somehow there comes a time that we really feel so down and we even use the last money we have, so of course i will still going to tell her a piece of advise like to save some for emergency purposes. and its up to them if they will follow my advise or keep on spending their money, at least i give my share of advise as a friend.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
24 Feb 10
Well I do care about my best friend a lot I always make sure that she is in no trouble. Still when me and my friend go shopping she can spend her money the way that she wants because she earned her money and it is soely hers. I love to spend my money on different things too and that's how me and my best friend see eye to eye. We respect each others decisions and that has made us closer.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
24 Feb 10
hi care guarden, well, I really wouldn't feel it was my place or my business to say something to my best friend or anyone on how they spend their money. If they don't ask my advice then I feel it isn't my place to say anythintg. If it were really a problem with them and causing trouble in their life then I mite mention it but truthfully unless they are receptive for help then all advice will fall on deaf ears. As a friend the most I can do is be here if my friend needs a friend.
@rosegardens (3043)
• United States
24 Feb 10
I have a friend who loves to spend money. She cannot have fun if she doesn't spend money. Often she sneaks to the bank to get money that her husband doesn't know about, and the problem is now he is retired and only gets so much a month to live on. They were just making it for a long time, only because he paid the bills that were due for rent, electric, gas, car payment, etc. Even though she was a good customer of mine, I would not order stuff for her and tell her it didn't come in. Things I knew she needed she always got, but some things I thought maybe she can do without this time. I felt bad for her hubby because it is a major stressor not having enough money. Now, for the first time since she's been married she is beginning to be more frugal and is not cheating as much by going to the bank. I did not realize how much she orders from me, until she quit ordering Avon for awhile. My sales went down considerably. I do always try to make a point whenever we were out to mention how fun it is to just do such and such, and she would give me a pouty look because she really likes to shop! lol.
@qamarep (4449)
• Pakistan
23 Feb 10
is this about my gf or is this for the friend i have and she is a female .. for first one i will.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
23 Feb 10
As long as she is not asking me for money, I will keep my mouth shut and let her spend it the way she wants.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Its not my money, its hers and she is naturally free to spend it however she wants so no I wouldnt say anything...Just because something she buys is silly to me it must not be to her just like I'm sure some of my purchases are silly to some of my friends but they arent to me....HOWEVER IF she were spending money shopping and NOT taking care of the important things first like paying the bills etc then YES I would say something..Ultimately though its not my place or my decision.
@LaurenInLA (2272)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I think that it is your BFF's decision how and where to spend her money. You can offer an opinion but frankly if she chooses to stand on top of a building and throw her money off the side, it is her business to spend as she chooses.
• Australia
23 Feb 10
If she really is my best friend then yes I will care on how she spends her hard earned money. It is okay to splurge once in a while, buy things she really wanted even though in my opinion has no worth or no use. If she spends too much on something that is useless I would advise her but thats all I will do, advise and I cant do anything if she doesnt want to listen to my opinion (though I think she will, since im her best friend). It is so sad to see someone you care about work hard, get money, and waste it instead of saving or using it for more important stuff.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
I would definitely share what I think. Although i wont impose on her to do things he/she ultimately would not want. I'd talk with my friend why she does those things, and if i see merit in her doing them, i would let her be. But if i see more bad than good, i'd definitely tell them my two cents. That's what friends are for, looking out for each other and i'd be gravely disappointed in myself if i didn't look out for my friends.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
23 Feb 10
Yes i always care for my best friend.. that where he spend his hard money.. when i saw that he spend his money on any illegal way..then i suggest him. that it is not good to spend your money on it.. it is warn by your hard work.. so spend it on any good thing.. have a nice day and keep mylotting always..